What's so good about being shy and good? You, you want to be impertinent! Being spicy, lively and bold are all enviable qualities. Instead of getting lost in the crowd, you will stand out. You will not just go with the flow, but you will be the current that draws others along. You will be the outgoing and unstoppable girl who sparkles in any situation.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Channeling the Impertinence
Step 1. Be a little cheeky
Make sure you don't cross a certain line. You want to be confident, not arrogant. You want to be honest, but not mean. And you want to be cheeky, but not rude. Impertinent is when you communicate your thoughts using somewhat cheeky phrases, but you do it with a smile on your face and you don't intend to hurt others with your words.
- The next time a friend of yours texts you like, "Hey, can I come and play with you ferret?" and you got tired of all her typos, instead of answering yes write her: "What ?! Now are you calling me a ferret ?! I'm really offended."
- You have to be cheeky to have fun.
Step 2. Try to always have the answer ready
When Shayla tells you she's about to leave your party to go to a cooler one, advise her to change her shirt to match her shoes. Once again, put a bright smile and a laugh on it, without being sour or putting a dose of vitriol on it. Simply, in this way you demonstrate to anyone who wants to tease you a little by lacking delicacy that you are able to answer in kind.
Our friend Bill Shakespeare said it in the best way: "I challenge you to a battle of wits, but I see that you are completely unarmed." Answers given become impertinent when they are disguised as a question or statement, rather than just an opinion. While they often mean nothing, it's the way you express yourself that makes them spot on. Instead of silencing someone, say, "Is your name Kanye West? Isn't that you? Then stop interrupting me." Something like that would be fine. Or, the next time your friend keeps saying how great a person she is, say, "I wish I could agree with you, but at the same time I don't like being wrong."
Step 3. Believe in yourself
If there's one thing that goes for all sassy girls, it's that they have a lot of self-confidence. It is necessary to know and love yourself to be able to pull the best of yourself, and to stop having the personality of a doormat. So to get your fill of impertinence, free the self-confident girl inside of the cage and let her free, because you are a damn badass!
If believing in yourself is a challenge for you, it may be easier to start from the outside. Of course, it is true that confidence in one's abilities comes from within ourselves, but to some extent it also comes from the outside. Dress stylishly, begin to feel comfortable about your appearance, and behave as you think a self-confident person would do. After all, practice makes perfect
Step 4. Try to be fun
We might as well ask your ferret to recite a monologue, huh? But you can't think of it that way - we all have some sense of humor and we all laugh for one reason or another. It is a part of us human beings, regardless of what genes we have. So trust your gut - if something makes you laugh, it will likely have the same effect on someone else.
Naughty girls tend to use two types of humor: humor at someone else's expense or humor directed at their own person (ie, self-irony). Both are easygoing, of course! So the next time your friend has chocolate cake on his face all day, say, "You've had the chocolate cake on your face all day. It shows you ate it yourself. In fact, you are alone. like a dog." And then when you have the chocolate cake on your face all day, tell everyone that you are alone like a dog
Step 5. Be direct and honest
Once we turn 10, we subconsciously begin to learn not to say what we think, especially girls. We learn to be kind, polite and "definitely" learn to avoid embarrassing situations. By doing this, we lose our ability to be direct and honest. To be sassy, you will have to learn to be spontaneous again.
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This, however, "must not" be an excuse for being bad. "Impertinent" does not mean "cruel". When a friend of yours is not doing her homework for a teacher-assigned assignment, you shouldn't say to her, "Make sure you get a move on before you fail us, slacker." Instead, you have to be the one in the group who has the audacity to say, "Hey, we're all sweating seven shirts here. If you don't want to help, you're more than welcome to do the homework yourself, even though we'd like you to stay with us."
Some people will take your bluntness and honesty as mean, but those are the people who would want you to play the doormat. As long as you don't go out and dispense bad things at breakfast and hurt other people's feelings, you'll be on the right track
Step 6. Be energetic
There is something inherently funny about being sassy. It makes us cheerful, joyful, smiling and full of energy. If you are submissive, listless and unenthusiastic, your impertinence can easily be mistaken for cynicism. A little bit of energy makes your sassy fun and enviable.
The easiest way to look more energetic (without running like crazy around the room, which wouldn't be a good idea) is to be there. Instead of sticking to your cell phone answering text messages with a moody look or just standing there daydreaming in your own little world, live in the moment. Look at people when they talk and smile and nod. Ask questions, joke and flirt. Take every opportunity to the leap
Part 2 of 3: Behaving Naughty
Step 1. Enjoy
This is very similar to the step above, but it never hurts to have a reminder that being naughty has a lot to do with having fun. Why shouldn't you? You have confidence in yourself, you are full of energy and you make others die laughing (even when you are the only one laughing because there is no one else in the room). So don't be afraid to create a great atmosphere, no matter the situation. Because if you look at things from the right perspective, both you and the environment around you will be gorgeous.
Seriously! Try to be someone who can have fun under all circumstances. Did you get an oversized slice of coffee cake for breakfast? GOAL! Damn! Did you spill coffee cake on your shirt? Go with the parade! Stains are in fashion. Is Becky looking at you weird as you take off in your coffee cake stained shirt? Tell her that if she can show off the pattern she has on her dress, the cake stains will do just fine for yours. Tell him with a smile, of course
Step 2. Make yourself heard
Do you know those people who possess some kind of invisibility power? Can they enter any room and hardly anyone notices them? They stick to the walls and sink into the walls, without making the slightest sound. It's definitely not you. You're too rowdy for these things. Your sassy being is something everyone needs to notice!
Whether you're making jokes, telling stories, or putting on fashion shows with coffee stains, make yourself heard. Don't be scared if you have all eyes on you. And the best part? Your positive energy and liveliness will liven up any party. Not everyone is able to play your role
Step 3. Express your thoughts
To be a cheeky girl, you have to be the one who voices what other people think as well. You don't feel embarrassed to say things like they are, for better or for worse. Many are afraid to ask for what they want or simply to express their opinion, but not you!
Therefore, when your teacher gives you 3 days to write a five-page essay, tell him he expects the impossible. When your crush tells a funny joke, you don't have to be afraid to tell him how cute he is. And when your friend is wearing a pair of pants that look terrible on her, warn her in time, before others notice
Step 4. Use sassy body language
Trust yourself and be lively and bold, even with your body language. What impression will it give to a naughty girl who always keeps her mouth shut? Here are a couple of things you can do:
- Walk with your head held high! Shoulders back and back straight. Walk confident but don't overdo it!
- Look people in the eye. You have a lot to say to others, but they too are no exception. Always try to connect with others.
- Flirting never hurts. Smile and caress the person you are interested in, laugh … you know how these things go.
- Even twisting your eyes or a similar gesture (gesturing with your hands, but without being too nineties) has something impertinent, but always without exaggerating. Such behavior can easily be deemed hostile by others.
Step 5. Don't worry about what others think
For the record, there's no time to worry about other people's opinion when you want to be naughty. Some will judge your behavior as unfriendly; some people think women should be shy and submissive. And furthermore, there are others who can be very sensitive and believe that your loose tongue is soaked in poison. You will not be able to avoid it. Listen to them because they may have their reasons, but if they don't, don't mind.
Being impertinent means above all knowing your audience. If you have a friend who can't handle your sarcasm or teasing, take note. You don't have to change who you are for anyone in the world, but keep their feelings in mind
Part 3 of 3: Increase the Impertinence Factor
Step 1. Find an example to follow
Being naughty is not an easily accessible stereotype in modern society. However, it appears that things are slowly changing. There are more and more women in the media, who are stronger, bolder and more sassy with each passing minute. Find an example to follow and be inspired by her. Sometimes we need someone to guide us!
Any prominent examples that come to mind? Beyoncé, Ke $ ha and even Taylor Swift have their moments of impertinence. Kristin Wiig, Jennifer Lawrence, and Tina Fey are great examples to follow. Imitating your Aunt Paola wouldn't be a bad idea either
Step 2. Dress in style
If a tramp gets naughty, she's just being mischievous and might be a little drunk. But if it's a fashionable girl to be sassy, that's another story altogether. Even if the dress never makes the monk, it definitely helps. When you wear clothes that allow you to pose, it will be easier for you to feel sassy.
Style depends on the circumstances. If you go to a punk concert, wearing a haute couture garment is not suitable for the occasion. Follow your instincts to dress according to the meaning the word "style" has for you. The thing you need to understand is that what you wear influences the opinion that people have of you and this also applies to yourself. Can you imagine being the naughty girl dressed as a walrus?
Step 3. Face your fears
Impertinence and fear never get along. A naughty girl is always willing to go out of line and do what needs to be done. If you find it easy to trust yourself and tell people what you think in their faces, take it one step further and challenge your fears. You will be glad you did. You will be more daring and sunny. Why not give it a try?
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Whether it's public speaking, height or snails, challenge yourself. You're not afraid to challenge others, right? You scold them, you tell them what you think, you are honest - so you have to be honest with yourself too. That's right!
Not sure where to start? Try this article on WikiHow: How to Overcome Fears
Step 4. Always try new things
Naughty girls (and boys!) Are dynamic and anything but boring. They have fun and laugh with anything; there is nothing they are not willing to try. Then, join a yoga class while practicing krav maga as well. Take your ukulele to choir rehearsal. Let your personality express itself fully.
Don't be surprised when everyone else starts practicing krav maga or playing the ukulele too. Naughty people are often trendy and everyone wants to imitate them because they are not afraid to be the first
Warnings
- Don't overdo it or everyone will think you're rude or want to be a diva!
- Some people may get jealous and speak ill of you, but don't let that discourage you. Naughty girls don't care what other people think; naughty girls just want to have fun!
