If you are reading this page, you have probably been hurt recently by some guy. Here are some strategies that will help you move forward and show him that not only are you better off without him, but you are also happier than you have ever been before.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Avoid it
Step 1. Don't contact him, and don't respond if he tries to contact you
If you constantly text or chat, you will inevitably get sucked into the vicious circle. Do not do it! Cut all contacts as soon as you can, at least for a period of time. That way he won't think you're still pining for him, and you'll have the space to move on.
Step 2. Delete it from social networks
Staying friends to show him how good you are without him is tempting, but it's a double-edged sword! Most likely you will be the one who will check his profile all the time, obsessed with his updates. The best thing to do is eliminate him from friendships and block him and his friends - at least for some time. Once you get over the breakup completely, you can ask him for friendship again or text him to reconnect.
Step 3. Delete everything that reminds you of him
If he left anything at your house, mail it to him. If you have a lot of souvenirs that remind you of the time you spent together, remove them from sight. You don't need to throw anything away, just put everything in a box. Clean up your house and get ready for a fresh start.
Step 4. Don't ignore him completely if you meet him on the street
Be friendly, but brief, like it's someone you don't know all that well. Avoiding him openly will only make him aware that he has hurt you. If he thinks you're still thinking about him, he'll try harder to move forward. Be the first to turn the page!
Step 5. Make him work a little to get your attention, if that's what he wants
Don't give in easily, just respond to a respectful attitude. If he wants some of your time, he needs to be kind, polite, and respectful of your feelings. However, don't make it a more important event than it is, stay calm and try not to hurt anyone, even if they deserve it.
Method 2 of 3: Clean Your Mind
Step 1. Recognize that he actually doesn't deserve you
If he made you lose faith in yourself, then you really are better off without him in your life. Don't blame yourself for what happened. Remember that you deserve to be with people who appreciate you and who treat you with respect. Rejection hurts, but you'll be much happier if you hang out with people who really want to be with you.
Step 2. Talk to your friends
They will surely have been there too, probably many more times than you can count in one hand. It might sound like a teenager, but rent some heartbreaking movies, buy a box of ice cream or a bottle of wine, and lock yourself indoors with your friends in front of the TV all night. Laugh at yourself, shout at the screen that real guys never act like that, tell them what you expect from the next guy who comes into your life - and just have fun. Good friends will remind you what a fun and wonderful person you are, and you won't feel alone.
Step 3. Try not to be jealous
If there's a new girl in the scene, remember it's not his fault that he chose her. This does not mean that she is better than you. Don't react as if both of you are waving their new relationship in front of your eyes. Be elegant and everyone (including your ex) will respect you for it.
Step 4. Don't throw yourself headlong into a new relationship
Enjoy the single life for a while. The fallbacks may be cute at first, but after a while they will remind you of what you've lost. Instead, enjoy doing everything you love and neglect while you were focused on your love life.
Method 3 of 3: Indulge yourself
Step 1. Revitalize your social life
Don't lock yourself in whining, go out and have fun. When your life revolves around another person, you happen to lock yourself in a small personal world, and social life suffers. This is the ideal time to take advantage of the social opportunities that life offers. Meet new people, go to parties, organize activities with your friends, join clubs or volunteer organizations. These things will remind you that you don't need any boyfriends to be okay, and will set you on your way to meeting someone else in no time.
Step 2. Dress carefully wherever you go
Give yourself some new clothes or a new look. Smile and go out in your best dress. Your self-esteem may have taken a hit recently, especially if your boyfriend left you for someone else. Looking fabulous will make you feel better and remind you how much a coveted prey you are. Your fresh look will attract new suitors and even your old flame will realize what they missed.
Step 3. Take a trip
There is nothing quite like a good trip to clear your head and remind you what a huge and wonderful world we live in - whether or not you're with a guy who appreciates you. Go on an adventure to an exotic country, take your car and visit old friends, or just bask in the sun at a resort for a couple of days. Take a lot of photos, so if he keeps an eye on your profile on social networks, he will see how much fun you are having even without him.
