What does the person you love think about sex, religion, professional life, housework, children, money, the future and so on? Do you really think you know him? Before you commit, you should know what questions to ask him.
Steps
Step 1. Offer to play the "favorites" game
Each of you, in turn, asks the other random things, for example about your "favorite books", "favorite movies", etc. They are not the most important things to know, but they help build a stronger bond within the couple.
Step 2. Talk about what kind of animals you prefer
If you have completely different tastes in terms of pets, this can be an implication that hinders the understanding with the other person and perhaps even makes them unpleasant.
Step 3. Think about the opinions you have regarding health, food and well-being
If you are going to live with your loved one, it is important to know these aspects so that you can get along well on nutrition and medical care.
Step 4. Morals, beliefs and beliefs are a very important thing to consider
If you can't accept the other person's religious and ethical views, starting a family with them will be very difficult. For example, it is best to go to places of worship together such as churches, synagogues, mosques, and so on.
Step 5. Holidays and holidays may also fall into the above category
Let's take the example that your partner is a Christian and you are a Taoist. He probably wants to celebrate Christmas big, with the tree and all, but for you this could be a normal day. Most people accept their partner's views on this matter, but others can't handle the situation.
Step 6. Friends and family
If you hate your mother-in-law, or if her husband's friends are completely lazy and sloppy types, it won't be so pleasant to have visits from these people once you move in under the same roof.
Step 7. Children and education
From the number of children to the way they grow up, to the names to choose from (if you are like most couples, it will be crucial for both of you), children are not an easy subject to get along with.
Step 8. Wedding and honeymoon
There is hope that, if you disagree, you can come to a compromise, which traditionally goes in the direction of the visions of the bride's family. Some families believe that weddings do not have to be lavish and that it is enough to invite only the closest relatives and acquaintances of the two families, while others believe that weddings should be huge and extravagant.
Step 9. Think about how you conceive of sex
Some believe that sex should only be done after marriage, while others take it a little more lightly. Some people even like it if it's not so "orthodox". You may not want to do this with someone who has done it before. Talk to your partner about it.
Step 10. Follow your intuition
Make sure you feel good about the decisions you make.
Advice
- Don't avoid certain questions just because they make you uncomfortable or even embarrassed. Break down the barriers that prevent communication and learn to talk about these problems with your partner. If a person is unwilling to talk about certain topics, this is likely a warning sign of any problems during intercourse.
- Answer honestly, but at the same time you don't have to dwell on the more vivid details of any mistakes you've made in the past. If you already have to live with these memories, don't make your partner take the load too.
- If you think a question doesn't concern you, ask it anyway. Your partner may have some interesting thoughts on this.
- Remember that you need to know the person you are thinking of building a life with by taking the time to deepen your confidence!
Warnings
- Don't be too specific in matters relating to your past sexual activity. While it's important to talk about your sexual tastes and what you don't like, giving too much detail about your sexual past can be harmful in a relationship. The partner needs to know if you have been sexually active, but not to know dates, times, places, locations, etc.
- It is necessary to dose wisely with the questions to be asked. For example, someone who's just starting dating shouldn't rush the relationship by asking questions about marriage and sex. If you think you and your partner aren't ready enough to commit to each other, it might be best to start with questions about character, past experiences, preferences, and perhaps tastes in pets. The best relationships are built on a solid friendship, so first ask questions about topics that help build that foundation.
