Who doesn't want to be a lovely person? Sometimes it seems that being nice, classy and sophisticated belongs only to women of the past, like Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly and Ginger Rogers. But is not so! You are closer to being adorable than you think! With a few suggestions, you will exude pleasantness without even trying.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Focus
Step 1. Be considerate
A pleasant person certainly has a good heart. It is Showing Empathy | understanding] and aware of what others are feeling, trying to understand how it can help. Here are two things to get on the one-way train to Gentilopoli:
- During the next conversation you have, ask your interlocutor how he is doing. But, when you say it, don't put it in the same tone as you would say "Hello". Look at it and ask "How are you?". And when he answers you, listen. See if the dialogue will be any different from your usual conversations.
- Think of two things you might be doing right now, but have been putting off, that might make people in your world smile. An email to an aunt you haven't talked to in ages? Doing the dishes for your busy roommate? And here's the trick: go get them!
Step 2. Adore yourself
The word "adorable" comes from this verb after all! If you happen to worry about how others perceive you and you drown in insecurities, it will be quite difficult to be considered pleasant. There is no room for pleasant and discreet grace and kindness if you think that the world has to bring these characteristics out of you, you must be the first to demonstrate them outwards.
Of course, this is much easier said than done. It's a process that can take years, and even after a lot of experience you'll still have some slips. But make a commitment to take one step at a time, every day. Make a list of the things you love about yourself. Wake up in the morning and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Spend 10 minutes a day deliberately thinking about positive things. Take small actions to make it look more natural if it's a problem for you
Step 3. Be genuine
If you are not yourself, you cannot be adorable. You can be a nice version of someone else, but you can't be a nice yourself! And, since being yourself has to be one of your aspirations, why would you bother being someone else? Being false will greatly diminish your pleasure.
Sometimes it is difficult to know where we end up and where the person that society tells us to be in the beginning begins. Take a second to sit down and think about why you want to be nice and what it means to you. Do you want to be adorable so that people like you? Why do you want to attract men? Hopefully, the answer is no: In theory, you should want to be pleasurable to yourself
Step 4. Be elegant
Read this article on wikiHow! It is not possible to summarize it in one paragraph, but here are some pointers:
- Keep your look natural and chic. A nude nail polish, a sophisticated hairstyle, a minimal makeup.
- Always be clean! There is no room for grunge in elegance.
- Go for classic and timeless pieces. A nice sweater, some jeans or a dark colored skirt, boots, etc.
Step 5. Keep arrogance in check
Ok, that's right, you are really great. By the time you finish reading this article and apply our tips, you will be radiating pleasantness from all pores. But that doesn't mean you don't have to be modest about it! In fact, being arrogant and being adorable are two characteristics that are mutually exclusive; you can't be both. A girl who is pleasant knows that everyone is on the same level as her and that everyone has something different, which she doesn't have.
If you are kind and sincere, arrogance shouldn't be a problem. If you are insecure, think about your conversations. How often do you have them headed towards you? Domains? How often do you feel like you judge others? Try to think of all these things
Step 6. Be disciplined
A pleasant person behaves appropriately in different situations. She knows when she needs to work hard, keeps her word and is organized. A lovely girl probably doesn't live in a pigsty, you know? What area of your life could benefit from a little cleaning?
- Take a look at your room - might it need some organization?
- Do you tend to procrastinate? What is stopping you from getting your job done?
- Are you punctual and honest? Do you really mean what you say and are you serious about your actions?
Part 2 of 3: Taking Care of the Appearance
Step 1. Take care of your personal hygiene
Humans have a bad tendency to judge books by their covers. If something is not good, then it is not good. Obviously that's not how it works, but it's a natural habit for most of us (it saves a lot of time and energy because it doesn't force us to think too much). So, save yourself the conflict and take a shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and take care of yourself to show that you care about your appearance. The world will be much kinder to you and therefore can be more readily convinced of your innate grace!
Choose a perfume and don't change it. People will smell your pleasantness from across the room. Mmmm, the Scent of Pleasantness. If they wanted to capture your aroma, they should ask you to run your sweat into a bottle
Step 2. Put some effort into your appearance
Absolutely! The first step only helped you get into the process with ease. Taking a shower is indispensable and useful, but it is probably not enough. Being clean is very, very important, but being nice takes some preparation. So, apply some gloss and some eyeliner and turn that ponytail into a neat bun.
You don't have to get dressed up (sometimes it's just inappropriate), but you have to have a look that says "I didn't play Russian Roulette with my closet today". Take five minutes to choose your outfit. Take a look for yourself to see if your pieces are coordinated. If someone saw you, what would their first impression of you be?
Step 3. Move with composure and grace
Being a goofy isn't something you can really fix, but you can be consciously aware of it. If you maintain good posture and keep your chin and shoulders up (trying not to trip over because you're not looking at the ground!), You'll move like Audrey Hepburn or Grace Kelly. The icons par excellence of the class.
Step 4. Be feminine
There is a certain aspect of agreeableness that is very feminine. Very soft, very delicate. There is nothing loud, jarring, excessive or "macho" about being pleasant. Although the version of femininity may vary for people, act according to the definition this word has for you.
You can be feminine by wearing a larger size flannel shirt and jeans. You can be feminine as you give orders to the people around you. You can be feminine when you get out of your bed without makeup. It doesn't necessarily have to do with something you wear or do, it's more about how you project yourself
Step 5. Be generous with your smile
A lovely person generally makes others feel good. Illuminate where he is with his energy. The easiest way to do this is to be generous with your smile. Let yourself be delighted by the tiniest things there are. Marvel at the beauty of the little things in the world. Show that you appreciate your surroundings (and the people who make up these environments) with a smile.
Here is a thought that will amaze you: in this world there are people who have not smiled today. There are people in this world who haven't smiled in weeks. Think about it. The only thing you need to do to make the world brighter is smile at these people. This would be extremely nice of you
Part 3 of 3: Behavior
Step 1. Use good manners
Although slightly stereotypical, a pleasant woman knows the bon ton inside out. "You are welcome" and "Thank you" should be two fixed words in your vocabulary. And then there are things like sneezing with the crook of your elbow in front of your mouth and not chewing with your mouth open, but you already knew them, didn't you?
While the rules regarding, for example, how to use the right fork have their own why, the most important things are to hold the door for the person behind you, clean up after you dirty and share. Good manners make the world a little easier place for everyone to live in, with any luck others will be polite to you too
Step 2. Know that you are the company you frequent
If you are constantly surrounded by negativity and people who make you demoralized, it is practically impossible for you to be pleasant, but that is nothing if you think that you will not be absolutely happy or even the best version of yourself. So keep this in mind: Do the people around you bring out your best and most pleasant side?
In other words, cut toxic friendships out of your life. It might be weird for a day or two, but it's totally worth it in the end. If you sit and think about it for five seconds and come up with a name, at least make an effort to go out with this person less often. You have to be the best person you can be to become truly likable
Step 3. Don't wallow in pessimism
No one has ever said anything like "Hey, that Demoralizing Debora is a really dear girl". The fact is, being adorable is connected to being positive. The pleasant people of this world don't often find themselves complaining (unless it's something really unfair, because they know how to stand up for what they believe in) and they don't complain because the glass is always half empty. Why waste your energy on being negative?
Besides not having a pessimistic world view, don't be negative towards others! Don't make fun of people or draw attention to their flaws or mistakes. While it may be tempting to have a good laugh at someone else's expense, hold on. To be pleasant, you have to create a pleasant world
Step 4. Offer to help
Whenever you find an opportunity to help someone, take it! It may be a challenge to find a good reason not to (laziness is not a valid reason!). And, if you can't find any reason to help, you may not have searched hard enough!
Is a friend of yours super busy and could it help to have someone run some errands or complete some easy assignments? Do you know an elderly person who needs a young and agile girl to help her with the housework? And, if someone doesn't ask you for help, take the initiative! Sometimes people don't like asking for a hand
Step 5. Value others and their time
Do you know who isn't adorable? That friend of yours who has an incurable problem of poor punctuality and who doesn't seem to care when you tell her you've wasted 30 minutes of your life waiting for her. It is not really pleasant. Don't prove to other people that you don't consider them important, be punctual!
And show them that they are valuable to you in other small ways too! If a friend made dinner one night and then you took away the leftovers, bring them a dessert a few days later. Offer to go buy him coffee. Return the favors they do you to show your gratitude
Step 6. Know when to put others first
Being adorable means putting others first… sometimes. You can't please anyone and you definitely shouldn't be a doormat. But, if someone needs something from you or wants you to do them a favor, it wouldn't hurt anyone to say yes, why not?
That said, if anyone takes advantage of your kindness, know where to draw the line. You have to protect yourself first and foremost, no one else will. So if what they ask of you goes against what you believe in or could get you in trouble, don't feel obligated to do so. It doesn't mean you're not being nice, you're just being smart
Step 7. Accept differences gracefully
Part of being adorable is being adorable with everyone, regardless of their status in life or the crazy opinions they proclaim. When you meet someone other than yourself, don't label them. Try to keep an open mind and try to understand his point of view. If they think they're right and you're wrong, why on earth do they see it that way?
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Do your best to treat everyone the same. This includes your waiter, your best friend, and the senior gentleman across the street. We are all human and we all deserve attention and respect.
If someone does you wrong, treat them civilly. Under no circumstances should you bother being nice to him, but you should treat him like a human being. Neither more nor less
Step 8. Make the most of the little moments
Just as you use both your words and your body when acting, so even when you're not speaking you're playing a certain role, being nice doesn't have to become a skit only when you have the spotlight on you. It's the little moments that make a girl who wants to be truly adorable. The way she looks at a baby, the way she arranges the towels in the bathroom, the way she reaches out for a hug. It is noticeable in the small things, just as it is noticeable in the larger ones.
Being adorable requires a 24/7 commitment. It's not like a hat you put on to go out and take off when you get home. It should be part of you, not a show you put on. Find a woman that you find naturally pleasant and observe her. She is probably just like you
Warnings
- As with any change, this can cause negative reactions. If you want to be adorable, you need to make your changes general - it's not a trend or a social style, it's a way of presenting yourself and acting consistently. You cannot be false - it will be counterproductive and will cause others to lose respect for you.
- Of course, if a person is pleasant, people will try to examine his shortcomings. Don't let criticism hurt you, as people may try to point out your flaws. Stay positive and, even in these situations, treat others as you would like to be treated.
- Don't pretend to be pretty and never expect anything in return.
