Do you want to be the one in your group of friends who doesn't care about the little things and enjoys life? It may sound difficult, but in reality it is not at all! Read these instructions to get some ideas on how to be relaxed and get the most out of your life.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Part 1: Be Socially Relaxed
Step 1. Forget the dramas
People don't like them, especially within your own circle of friends, so don't make any. Do not gossip and do not invade the spaces of others. Be happy with what you have and who you are.
Step 2. Always be kind
Kind to others. Be polite, respectful, thoughtful. Those who have no problems, do not provoke them and do not create negative emotions by behaving like an idiot: those who are relaxed are kind and get along well with others.
Step 3. Don't stress yourself out over nonsense
Go on your way. Take the blows and accept what life puts in front of you. This is the main characteristic of those who are relaxed.
Step 4. Have fun with the people you hang out with
Don't be the boring one who always does the same things. Go out and do funny things, be the person others want to be with. Interact with others, go to the movies, play games, go camping, go for walks - everything is fine!
Step 5. Don't follow trends
Be unique. Those who are quiet do not feel the need to follow the crowd, they do what they want because it is what makes them happy. This calm attitude will inspire people to do the same, and they will want to be with you more often.
Method 2 of 4: Part 2: Be Relaxed in the Moment
Step 1. Don't react
Stop. Don't start screaming, crying, or getting emotional. If you can't control yourself, things often tend to get worse. Hold back before starting a big fight or scene. From here, you can turn the situation in your favor.
Step 2. Move your thoughts
Distract yourself from the immediate feeling by thinking about something else. There are many ways to do this. You can count the breaths. You can even sing a song (preferably in your mind rather than out loud).
Step 3. Chew some gum
Studies have shown that we can reduce stress by chewing gum. Even take out a whole pack if you don't calm down instantly.
Step 4. Evaluate how important the issue is
Look at the problem in a broader perspective. Are you going to die? Is anyone about to do it? If you still have to live, you will find a way to overcome it and become happier… and face other difficulties.
Step 5. Do what your grandmother would do
When you grow up you stop worrying about things that don't work because you are used to it. Think about how your grandmother would react in that situation. He would probably say something funny and move on, which is the best thing to do to stay mentally healthy.
Don't act like the racist or extremely cheeky grandmother. That will only create situations that are the exact opposite of relaxation
Step 6. Go somewhere else
If you can't handle the situation, leave. There is no need to stay if you know you will lose control and make some mistakes. Leave the room for a few minutes and try again when your anger or fear (or whatever you are feeling) is gone.
Method 3 of 4: Part 3: Have a Relaxed Attitude
Step 1. Stay away from drama
Avoiding them is the best way to be calm. Refuse gossip, thugs, and people who try to be the center of attention at all costs. You don't need them! Keep away those who tend to create problems and do not cause them yourself. If you don't start dramas, there will be no dramas.
Step 2. Keep some perspective
When things go wrong, remember to compare your problems to ones you have had or that others have had. If the PS4 is broken, at least you have a roof over your head, right? Remember what's really important (health, family, etc.) and don't panic over nonsense.
Step 3. Be confident
When you are very confident and comfortable with yourself, it will be easier to be relaxed. You will be able to recognize that it is possible to make a mistake, and that when you happen to make a mistake it is not the end of the world. You will be able to handle whatever life throws at you.
Step 4. Enjoy life
Do what makes you happy. Don't take actions that stress you out or benefit others more than yours. If you do what makes you happy you will be more and more relaxed and calm, you will manage all problems in a better way.
Step 5. Ignore the opinions of others
If you don't care what other people think, you'll make many situations less stressful: fewer fights, less chatter.
Step 6. Maintain a sense of humor
You have to laugh, especially at those things that don't go your way or you will have a life of sulking and nervousness. When someone is acting stupid to you, don't be angry. Laugh at it because it is obvious that he is just a jerk and not worth blaming.
Method 4 of 4: Part 4: Calm down
Step 1. Don't procrastinate
Always be quick when it's time to do something instead of putting it off at the last minute. This way you will have few sources of stress and a calmer attitude towards life.
Step 2. Listen to some music
It will have a calming effect. Different music works differently for different people of course, but generally relaxing music helps you better than hard-core rock. Look for music with calm, relaxing tones. You will know it is the right one when your heartbeat decreases.
Step 3. Play with children or animals
When you realize that you are tense or that you have it up to your hair, try to relax by playing with some children or an animal. Children in particular have such a happy view of the world around them, and this way of seeing things can change your point of view as well. If there are no children in your life, try volunteering, for example for the associations "Big Brother", "Big Sister" (or similar).
Step 4. Exercise
Moving physically has a great impact on emotion. If you feel like you are having trouble relaxing, go for a run and see how you feel afterward. You might be surprised!
Step 5. Watch a funny movie
It's a perfect way to unwind and get into a relaxed mindset. You can watch cartoons that you liked as a kid or something more adult, but that makes you laugh. Movies like 'Dodgeball' for example are always a must, even 'Bridesmaids' and 'Evil Employees' are sure to get you some laughs within minutes of starting.
Step 6. Play
Another perfect way to relax is to play. Videogames, board games, cards or anything else you like. You can do it alone or in company. Games are great for exercising the brain and clearing the mind of life's thoughts and stresses. You can also strengthen the bond with those you love, another thing that will help make you more peaceful.
