There are dozens of articles on the internet that talk about how to show your husband that you love him. Sex is a fundamental aspect of marriage. But love in a marriage is more than just sex; it also includes respect, selflessness, helpfulness, kindness and devotion.
Steps
Method 1 of 1: Being Sexually Closer to Your Husband
Step 1. Analyze your current sexual situation
How passionate is your marriage sexually on a scale of 1 to 10? It is often difficult to understand this without asking your partner, so ask him! Is there room for improvement in this area for both of us?
Step 2. If there is a difference in desire, read some good books on the subject, or seek out a sex therapist or one who specializes in marriage relationships
You can achieve good results simply by reading, and it is much cheaper. Here you will find some books on the subject, written by different authors: Resurrecting Sex; The Sex-Starved Marriage; Rekindling Desire; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex; Reclaiming Desire; Full Exposure: Opening Up to Sexual Creativity and Erotic Expression; The Passionate Marriage.
Step 3. Make it a goal to often make passionate love with your husband
If he wants to do this four times a week, you can show him your love by finding a way to satisfy his desire each week. You cannot do it based only on your will, if your desire is low you can increase it through reading and personal growth.
Step 4. Communication is the key to uncovering your husband's sexual interests
Obviously, communication is a two-way street. You too will need to share your opinion and tell your husband how he can love you best. A woman who is loved often becomes a woman who loves best.
Step 5. Having a passionate and erotic sex life doesn't solve all marriage problems, but it can help you avoid some, and will make your husband feel loved
Your goal is to create a sexual connection that makes it easier for you to resolve other problems in your marriage.
Advice
- Some believe that in order to show love during sexual intercourse, one cannot be erotic. They are wrong. Let your erotic and sexual side emerge, show it in order to give your husband an intimate experience that communicates your great love to him. So grab that zipped leather suit and surprise him!
- If your husband has an extreme desire that you cannot satisfy, such as wanting to have sex several times a day, then it may be a good idea to seek professional guidance. This does not mean that that desire is wrong. But you need to find creative help and guidance that will enable you to be happily together.
- Make this just the two of you. Using pornography or introducing another woman or man into the couple often produces negative results.
