This article is intended to help you live your life in general in a more disciplined way. Discipline is not just for children; growing up and becoming an adult doesn't automatically make you more disciplined. Discipline is not synonymous with punishment, punishment or severity. It is possible for anyone to become a disciple of the discipline.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Self Analysis
Step 1. Do an analysis of yourself before anything else
Try to understand what obstacles stand between you and your desire to be more disciplined. These barriers can consist of character defects, an inability to articulate what you want from life, or an addiction to stimulants or other drugs. Perhaps, you try to conform to the rules without ever thinking about yourself; this could make it easy for you to adapt to the idea of discipline that someone else has without stopping to think about what kind of discipline is best suited to you and which you may need for your needs. Whatever the reason, try to find out before proceeding.
- Why do you feel you are not disciplined enough now? What prevents you from improving?
- In addition to evaluating your limits, consider how the people around you affect you. Do you spend too much time pleasing others and never think about yourself? Do you always give in to the demands of others and have you put your needs on the back burner?
Step 2. Try to convince yourself that you need to be more disciplined to be able to believe in yourself
Doing so will be especially essential if you spend a lot of time trying to please others. It will be much more difficult for you to discipline yourself if you feel it necessary for others to have to set limits, set boundaries, tell you how to act, think or behave.
What voices in your head tell you that you are incapable or a true failure? These are negative thoughts that have no basis and need to be addressed in order for you to start taking care of yourself and living in a more disciplined way. You may need to go to therapy or maybe it would be enough for you to process your negative thoughts by being aware of their existence, or by using cognitive behavioral techniques
Part 2 of 2: Incorporating More Discipline into Your Life
Step 1. Choose a sphere in which you want to be more disciplined
In which sphere of life do you want more rigor? Maybe it's about work, studying, keeping the living room clean or breaking a bad habit, etc.
Step 2. Adopt a positive attitude
You decide to make the necessary changes and try to stay focused on this purpose. Realize that this may not be easy at all, but try to take it as a challenge, not a source of hardship or deprivation. Once you make the decision to do something, you should go all the way at the expense of everything. There will often be times when you feel like being lazy and don't want to work. Remember that these feelings are normal and even people who are hugely successful have to go through them from time to time. The difference between you and them is not that they are somehow "better" than you. They just have a greater capacity for introspection which allows them to divert these thoughts elsewhere before they can interfere with their activities.
- Accept that you are the only person capable of changing your life; no one else can do it for you. You are not a three year old who needs to be guided. Seize the day and do what needs to be done.
- The everyday routine is something you already know and that puts you at ease. Then, you will try to get it back. Try to be aware of the temptation you feel to resume old habits and be steadfast in deciding not to do it every time it happens.
Step 3. Choose to behave and act with temperance
Human behavioral traits are influenced by culture, behavior, emotions, different values and other social norms within a group or community. Make sure you behave politely and use common sense in all situations.
Step 4. Learn the basics of self-management
From managing your financial resources to organizing a gathering, you have to learn to make decisions on your own. This does not involve founding a joint stock company, but simply putting a little order in one's life. Give yourself schedules and start small. For example, try to have lunch after noon and dinner after eight in the evening.
- Make a work plan. Use a calendar and stick to that.
- Set yourself small goals that are achievable.
- Stay seated for a maximum of one hour at a time. Get up, stretch and walk. Give both your body and mind a break. You will return to the task you were doing refreshed and physically relaxed.
Step 5. Try to always be clean and tidy
This will not only benefit you, but it will also help you feel good. Being clean makes a big difference in our emotional state and will make the environment cooler. There are many articles on how to do this available on this site and elsewhere.
Step 6. Communicate appropriately
Communicate eloquently and be assertive, using appropriate gestures when you need to. Don't shout, and avoid using reinforcements when communicating verbally. Discipline in the subtle art of communication can help you self-discipline even in the most significant spheres of your life.
Step 7. Realize that others may try to dissuade you
There will always be someone who will benefit from your lack of discipline and when that someone clearly realizes that you are changing, they will feel threatened. Be wary of attempts to deviate from your new path and stick to your resolve to succeed. Listen to them, be kind, but don't give in to their tactics or attempts to sabotage you. Do what you think is best for you.
Step 8. Once you have learned to do something right, keep doing it
Make your daily routine an automatic thing like breathing.
Give yourself rewards when you manage to achieve a goal
Advice
- You cannot force yourself to be disciplined. Become a disciple of self-discipline and it will become part of you.
- Self-discipline is not something you can impose to yourself, but something you have to look for inside yourself. It's a quality, not one amount. you can bring it in your life, but you can't buy it.
- Try to stay motivated by reminding yourself of your reasons for moving forward.
Warnings
- Try not to lecture or point fingers at others for what you may feel is a lack of discipline on their part. If what they fail to accomplish influences you in some way, try to approach the issue tactfully. If not, let them solve their problems. You cannot change others; just yourself.
- Do not overdo it. Signs of OCD can occur in people who feel the need to put routine above common sense and well-being. If your routine is interfering with your life or that of others, it may be time to slow down.
- Avoid getting too tired. Go step by step, rather than all at once. Even the little things can get exhausting when they pile up.
