Many tend to take life for granted, "accepting things as they are" as an excuse for being apathetic or lazy. We think that in the end it all works out by itself. The truth is that we often don't have the faintest idea of what we want from our life.
Everyone wants a dream life; however, few know where to start and ultimately choose the simpler path, following the crowd, just as everyone does. After a few years, we realize that the chosen path leads us nowhere.
We are all aware that we want something; concepts such as freedom and economic stability, and lifestyle are often used phrases, but do we really know what they mean and what needs to be done to conquer them? Do we know how or where to get them? The difference is whether to let life rule us, or to create it with our hands. But is it really possible? Of course it is, here's what you need to do to make it through.
Steps
Step 1. Don't take life for granted
The tendency of men is to let life go by, assuming that eventually everything falls into place on its own in total harmony. But, if you want to reap some ripe fruit, start planting quality seeds right away!
Step 2. Be specific about what you want in and out of life
If your goal is to climb Mount Everest, then you should at least know where it is, its altitude, oxygen supply, mountain techniques, best time, weather and necessary equipment. Likewise, you need to be specific about your goals, how and where to get what you need, the effort needed, the time and tools required. Don't start suddenly without having a guide or the right equipment.
Step 3. Take risks, but don't leave everything to chance
It is well known that if without daring and without taking risks, not much will be achieved. Taking risks is fine, but before doing so, objectively evaluate the pros and cons, the gains and losses, the investment and the gain and the time required. Remember that lost time cannot be made up and that you cannot make the clock go back. Time is the only resource that is always abundant, but which cannot be renewed after its use.
Step 4. Follow the people worth following
Following the simplest path is very frequent. It is a path that almost everyone follows because everyone does it. Unfortunately, most of the time, the crowd doesn't know where it's going, and in this way, everyone finds themselves in the same situation, wondering what has happened to their lives after many years. The crowd is satisfied with frivolities, such as reality TV and sitcoms, bestsellers and the compliance with the fashions of the moment, which favors competitiveness, and often, an extreme focus on fun and exhibitionism with a few moments of reflection - while this kind of fulfillment can be fun, it hides the deeper meaning of life and the way to find our way. In conclusion, it is also best to be careful when following good people.
Step 5. Take some time to sketch out your life path
Remember that there is only one life and that you have to take it seriously. There is no second chance. Take some time now to create the life you want. If life were a movie, and if you were the director and the main actor, what role would you like to play and how would the plot develop? Planning your life is like making a movie; you must be able to conceive the beginning and the end. In the beginning, it might be a bit blurry, but if you keep working on it, the plot will become clearer and clearer. You have to write the script and put the characters in it. Use your imagination, be creative and the most ingenious ideas will turn into sensible results.
Step 6. Make concrete plans, but make sure they are flexible enough to change according to the situation
By being the director of your life, you can change, delete or add whatever you want to the project, keeping control of circumstances without having to suffer them. So, don't hesitate to change your path if circumstances allow.
Step 7. Don't make the mistake of making the simplest decisions instead of what you really want
What you want won't necessarily be easy, decide what matters most to you.
Method 1 of 1: The exercise of planning your life
Step 1. Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed for at least 20 minutes
Get yourself a pencil and a notepad or a new notebook that will become your "Book of Life."
Step 2. On one page, draw a time line up to, for example, five years from now
Step 3. On the left of the timeline, write "Current Condition"; on the right, write "Desired Condition"
To the left of the line, describe your Current Status in great detail. Ask questions like this:
- to. What am I doing now?
- b. What is my income (if any)?
- c. Do I like what I do?
Step 4. On the right, under the Desired Condition, describe very clearly what you would like to do in five years
Ask yourself, if there was no risk of failure …
- to. What do I really want to be?
- b. What would I like to have?
- c. What will my life be like?
Step 5. Between the Current Condition and the Desired Condition, highlight the time line and then ask:
- to. What do I have to do to get what I want?
- b. Who can help me?
- c. What skills do I need?
- d. What resources do I need?
Step 6. Note that the first time you do this exercise, you may not be able to get all the answers you are looking for
If you do this exercise daily and for a long time, you will create a great plan of your life, knowing where to get what you want, how to do it and who can help you, etc.
Advice
- Take control of your life now.
- Try to always be happy. Even the smallest of changes can make a difference; for example, if you don't like your pillow, change it! Little by little you will reach your goal.
- Talent is enthusiasm, even if some things require certain characteristics, such as health or excellent eyesight, or years of practice and training. Passion for work itself is the key to success which, for example, has allowed great authors to sell bestselling novels.
- The goal may not be about objects or money, even if money is important. It is likely that what you want to do is already your natural gift; for example, strong or agile people are better suited for sports. It is essential to understand what you need to do to make your goal real without listening to what others think.
- Do not think that you will find the ideal partner in the period you have set for yourself, or that the relationship will always go well. This is an aspect of life that cannot be fully controlled, but you can decide when to start looking for the right person.
- Never stop working on your life project; never abandon your "Book of Life", which will be an "ongoing project" for your entire existence.
- Think calmly about when you want to start a family; children become a priority and require a lot of time and attention.
- Live in a place you like. Don't waste your life in a climate or place you don't love.
- When you reach a goal, don't quit, there are still many challenges to face. Also, treasure your success and write a "How To" article to help others achieve other goals.
- Always be nice to the people around you without expecting anything in return.
Warnings
- Failures can frustrate you. Take a break and start over when you're ready.
- Life is unpredictable. Children sometimes come by accident, your partner's goals seem more interesting than yours, or you find that what you wanted isn't as rewarding when you reach it, especially if it's someone else's set goals. It is never too late to start over, only death will stop you. This process is particularly useful if you have reached the age of fifty and you realize that you have followed someone else's plan.
- Sometimes, your results may not match the standards you set yourself. Keep checking and evaluating your performance, work to improve and try to stay true to the Book of Life.
- Don't be overwhelmed by early successes; it is possible that the goals you set yourself in the beginning were modest.
- You have to be very patient; ideas may not show up on the first try; keep repeating the exercise.
