All anniversaries are important milestones, but few are as difficult as the one celebrating the first month of a romantic relationship. Is this a significant moment or not? Should you celebrate it with a gift for your girlfriend? In that case, how can you make her understand that you really enjoy being with her, but that it is not yet time to choose the wedding dress or that you do not know if you will make it to six months together? Instead of letting yourself be paralyzed by indecision, focus on what you've learned about your partner, the direction you'd like to take in your relationship, and what kind of gift can make you both happy.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Mark the Date and Think About the Future
Step 1. Think back to the first few days we spent together
Undoubtedly, it is more touching to recreate your first date after ten years of marriage than after a month of dating. However, even in thirty days, your relationship has certainly changed, as you have begun to get to know each other better and feel more comfortable with each other. Reliving your first date, or the moment you found the courage to ask her out, can show her how your bond strengthened and can excite her at the idea of what lies ahead.
- Wear the same clothes, invite her to the same restaurant, book the same seats at the cinema, and so on. Laugh together at how nervous and embarrassed you felt that night, while now you are peaceful and calm.
- If you want to put more emphasis on your future together, give her a gift you wouldn't have picked a month ago.
Step 2. Choose a gift by revisiting something familiar to both of you in a new way
You've probably already been out for dinner several times and maybe you've already created a routine. Why not try a different cuisine that none of you are familiar with, or even hire a personal chef for one night? You could also participate in a cooking class, where you will have the opportunity to eat what you will cook and have a good time together.
For example, if you both like to drive and you often challenge each other as to who is the best driver, go for a go-kart race
Step 3. Get out of your comfort zone
If your girlfriend loves skating or rafting and you don't know these hobbies, this is the right opportunity to try them. This will let her know that you are interested in maturing as a person in your relationship.
Alternatively, you can decide to do something that challenges both of you. There is no need to choose an extreme activity like skydiving (which can still be a wonderful gift); a karaoke duet may be enough to make you feel more united. The possibilities are truly endless
Step 4. Take advantage of what you have learned
Whether you are trying to decide between chocolates and flowers, between a hike in the mountains and a visit to the nearest outlet, find inspiration from the experiences you have lived together. Have you noticed that she particularly likes something? How do you spend your free time? What would you like to do "someday"?
- Make a commitment to remember the things you appreciate. In the last month, you've probably heard your girlfriend tell her what her preferences are. Think back to anything that can help you choose.
- If you can't decide, but want to surprise your loved one, ask her friends for advice.
Method 2 of 3: Avoid Embarrassment
Step 1. Decide when to celebrate the anniversary
For you, the answer may be trivial, but many couples don't find an agreement right away. Did your relationship start the night you met or when you decided not to date other people? Holding this discussion makes your girlfriend realize that you are ready to make a commitment.
If you want your gift to be a surprise or the idea of asking this question makes you too embarrassed, try to imagine what the milestone means the most to her. What moment do you talk about most often? If you really can't decide, choose the earliest available date; it is better to show up with a gift in advance than to give her the impression that she has forgotten the anniversary
Step 2. Talk about the possibility of exchanging gifts
At the beginning of a relationship, it is really awkward when one person shows up with a nice gift or plans and the other with empty hands. While talking about it in advance won't be able to surprise her, you will avoid the stress of deciding for yourself whether to get a gift.
- There is no rule that requires you to celebrate a month's anniversary or buy a gift. If both of you prefer to let the anniversary pass without making any particular gestures, that's not a problem. Otherwise, if you decide to exchange gifts, you can impose limits not to be exceeded: no more than € 20, only homemade items, etc.
- For practical reasons, it can be important to let your girlfriend know that a gift is on the way, especially if it's quite expensive or if you've decided to buy tickets. Imagine that you both have a surprise in mind, but your plans are not compatible; it would be a disaster!
Step 3. Don't overdo it
The one-month anniversary is an important milestone to celebrate, but it still denotes the beginning of a relationship. Do not choose a gift that is out of your reach, as it will set a precedent that you cannot repeat. A personal and creative item is always more appreciated than a gift that has drained your bank account.
In the future, you may regret starting to give important gifts right away. If you buy your girlfriend a gold bracelet to celebrate a month together, what gift will she expect for a year? The Hope diamond (not considering its curse)?
Step 4. Think carefully about shared gifts
You certainly want to be optimistic and believe that your relationship will continue for a long time. However, you should stop and think before making a long-term commitment, such as buying a dog or asking your girlfriend to move in with you. In the event of a breakup, such ties can make things very complicated.
If you want the gift to be a shared experience, choose an activity to do together: take a cooking class or learn to dance the tango. In case of separation, you can always change class
Method 3 of 3: Using Creativity
Step 1. Create the gift yourself instead of buying it
Often, simple homemade gifts can be more popular than those bought in stores. You have the opportunity to personalize them and show that you are committed to making the perfect gift. If the saying "It's the thought that matters" really matters, the effort you put into the homemade gift will warm your partner's heart.
- For example, if you've never cooked for her, try doing it. Even if your risotto is going to be a disaster, you can always laugh at how bad it was over a pizza.
- Again, work with the information available to you. What are your girlfriend's preferences? Create something special for her that makes her understand that you pay attention to what she says.
Step 2. Give her something of sentimental or personal value
Is giving your beloved the sweatshirt with the colors of your favorite team too old-fashioned? Maybe yes or maybe no. However, by giving her something that has special meaning to you, you let her know that you care about her and that you want to continue your relationship.
- You know that old, faded but incredibly comfortable sweatshirt that your girlfriend always steals from you when you watch television on the couch? Why not make it a nice gift?
- Be realistic. A month's anniversary is not the right occasion to give away a family heirloom like grandma's engagement ring.
Step 3. Spend moments together helping others
Why not turn your gift into a gesture that helps you become better people and that makes life easier for others? Look for opportunities to volunteer in your community: help clean up a playground, spend a few days with the elderly or the animals in the shelter, collect food for the needy. This experience is rewarding for both of you and helps many other people.
Think about a cause or problem that your girlfriend is very fond of. Try to find a way to spend time with her in support of that cause
Advice
- Not everyone is ready to consider a relationship serious after a short time. Don't be surprised if your partner doesn't think a month's dating is an important milestone.
- If you have no ideas, talk to her friends. It is not a problem if they talk to her, because she will understand that you are interested in your relationship.
- After a month of dating, now is the right time to discuss the status of your relationship. It is important that both of you know what kind of relationship you have, so that you can choose the most appropriate gift.
- If you've worked hard to find the perfect gift for your girlfriend and she shows up empty-handed, don't get down on it and don't let it ruin the rest of the day. Never ask her where her gift is, or you will really embarrass her.
- A sweet and simple gift is always welcome. Don't give the impression that you are madly in love, but let her know that you care about her.
- If she insists on getting you a gift, don't feel compelled to reciprocate. A handmade gift will do just fine.
Warnings
- Even if you are an ace at bungee jumping or rock climbing, don't force your girlfriend to do those activities if she doesn't think they are good ideas.
- Don't offend your partner's cultural beliefs. After thinking about a program, introduce it to a mutual friend and ask if it is appropriate.
