How To Do A Romantic Massage: 14 Steps

2024 Author: Samantha Chapman | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 09:13

Romantic massages are more intimate and sensual than normal massages and can create a special, relaxing and completely couple-centered moment. The ingredients to make a successful one? The right atmosphere, some basic knowledge about massages and a great desire to experiment. Pamper your relationship!

Steps

Step 1. Set the mood

Make your bed, close the curtains, and remove any distractions, such as electronic gadgets, piles of paper, or your phone.

Step 2. Spread a towel on the bed or floor if you have a lot of space

The surface you choose should be solid but comfortable.

• Choose a large, soft towel, not an old, frayed one. It will have to communicate a feeling of comfort.
• If you have colored towels, use them instead of white ones. The choice of color will depend on the impression you want to give and the possible theme you want to create.
• Have extra towels or a blanket available to cover your partner during the massage. Unless the temperature is warm enough to leave it uncovered, feeling some warmth on the non-massaged parts is usually appreciated.

Step 3. Check the room temperature

You won't have to shiver from the cold! You want your partner to feel comfortable and deeply relaxed, and the same goes for you.

Step 4. Choose the music you will play, it must be sexy and enveloping

Music will play a vital role in creating the atmosphere, so avoid overly energetic melodies and loud volume. It must be a pleasant background that accompanies you throughout the massage.

Make sure the playlist is long enough not to end in the middle of the massage, forcing you to go and change it

Step 5. Add candles

A romantic massage isn't complete without the soft lighting! Place them strategically in the room for soft, seductive light. Go for colored or scented ones to maximize the effect.

• Candles are a must, as long as they're placed in a container, so you don't have to worry about dripping wax.
• You can also use electric essential oil burners instead of scented candles.
• Always be there while the candles are lit. Also, keep them away from the massage area - your partner may move.
• Don't you like candles? You can hang Christmas tree-like fairy lights for the same effect.

Step 6. Choose a scented oil to deeply massage your partner's muscles

• Choose a massage oil that reflects the energy or atmosphere you want to create. Research the different fragrances and their properties to know their effects. Have more than one available for an even more sensual experience.
• Most essential oils need to be diluted with a base oil, also called a carrier oil, before being applied to the skin. Among the recommended oils, there is that of sweet almonds, that of olive, of heated coconut, of musk rose, of grapeseed, of avocado and of jojoba. But these are just a few examples.
• Never pour massage oil directly on a person's body: it is not very pleasant. Pour it on your hands first to warm it up.

• Here are some massage oils typically used on these occasions:

  • Lavender oil - for relaxation.
  • Ylang ylang oil - it is aphrodisiac.
  • Patchouli oil - with a musky smell, promotes concentration.
  • Jasmine oil - another aphrodisiac.
  • Sandalwood oil - improves libido.
  • Cardamom oil - increases intimacy.
  • Juniper oil - strengthens self-esteem.
  • Ginger oil - spicy and hot, just like your relationship.
  • Rose oil - for a romantic atmosphere.

  

  Step 7. Get ready

  Make sure your nails are short and remove the jewelry before the massage. Wear comfortable clothes and tie your hair if it's long. Wash your hands both before and after the massage; warm them up before touching your partner.

  • The massage therapist should be completely relaxed before giving a massage, as it requires total concentration. If you are tense, you will communicate it. Take deep breaths, sit down and clear your mind before starting.
  • The person receiving the massage should avoid having a heavy meal two hours before the treatment; it is also recommended to avoid alcohol six hours before and after the massage.
  • You should try the massage techniques on yourself before the other person. Thus, you will know what their effects are and how to adjust them according to his needs.
  • Check your posture during the massage. The atmosphere will be destroyed if you start to feel sore from an uncomfortable position.
  • If you are both going to be naked during the massage, make sure the room has a pleasant temperature, or the romantic sparks will disappear and turn into chills.

  

  Step 8. Use some techniques that allow your partner to relax and get closer to you from an intimate point of view

  Read a few books, but don't be obsessed with perfection. It is much more useful to trust the natural and healing power of the hands, following the intuition during the procedure, than to respect to the letter what the instructions say.

  • Pour some oil on your hands, heat it and spread it on the area you will massage with gentle movements; do it for a few minutes before starting the actual massage. This preliminary step is sensual and is important for creating a massageable surface.
  • Work the knots with long, slow movements; in this way, you will also allow the muscles to relax. It is thanks to you that the movements flow lightly. Do not put strong downward pressure on bony areas or organs, such as the spine, ribs, knees, elbows, abdomen, and kidneys.
  • Determine where to start. This depends on you and your partner, but according to the traditional approach, it is necessary to start with the back, the buttocks and the back of the legs, and then work the feet, the front of the legs and progressively rise along the body, to finish with the face and head.
  • Fully massage one area of your body before taking care of the next.
  • Talk as little as possible. Silence is part of the relaxation and sensual atmosphere you want to create.

  

  Step 9. After the romantic massage, complete the evening with a nice bath

  Some people prefer the bath before the massage. This does not prohibit doing it both before and after

  Method 1 of 1: Sensual Points

  Although the whole body can respond to a sensual massage, here are some points on which to dwell.

  

  Step 1. You can sit on your partner's buttocks while massaging their back and neck

  This increases intimacy, especially if both of you are naked (but this is totally optional).

  Rest your knees on the bed so as not to put too much pressure on your partner

  

  Step 2. Relieve the stress on the neck and shoulders

  Highly sensitive to tension, these areas tend to contract quickly. They are an excellent starting point for a romantic massage, in order to mitigate the partner's tension and allow him to fully enjoy the rest of the experience. Watch how much pressure you put on the area: make gentle circular movements with your thumbs and let the pressure slowly build up.

  Karate taps can help release pressure around the shoulder blade area. However, only do this if your partner doesn't mind - for some it's painful

  

  Step 3. It lingers on the vertebrae

  The back is a wonderfully sensual area and you can enhance relaxation by working it slowly, starting with large circular movements on the buttocks and then applying pressure to each vertebra with your thumbs.

  

  Step 4. "Knead" the buttocks, a very fleshy area

  This massage can be both relaxing and intimate. Use your palms to work them; don't worry too much about the pressure: the buttocks will act as a cushion.

  The sacrum, located above the buttocks, is a very sensitive point. Don't neglect it, but make extremely gentle movements

  

  Step 5. Make sure you massage the inner thigh area, which is enormously erogenous

  But proceed gently, as it is quite sensitive.

  Advice

  • The best base oils for the face are hazelnut, peach, apricot, sweet almond, avocado, evening primrose and jojoba oils. Remember that the skin on the face is more delicate, also because it is more exposed to the elements. In particular, the area around the eyes should be treated with extreme care; it is recommended not to massage it at all.
  • Swapping roles can be a nice way to show your attention in a couple, but remember that the first person receiving the massage is so relaxed that they don't particularly want to strain to massage their partner. In this way, you run the risk of nullifying the effects of the massage. What to do? Switch roles, but on different occasions, not during the same session.
  • Before extending the breast and genital massage, ask the other person what they think. Massaging these areas can be very erotic, but it can also quickly change expectations.
  • The only essential oils that can be applied directly to the skin are lavender and tea tree essential oils. However, even these must be accompanied by a base oil if you want to do a massage, since the carrier oil is always cheaper, it spreads the essential oil well and is spread more easily. All other essential oils must be diluted with the base oil before the massage.
  • To dilute the essential oil, follow these proportions: ½ teaspoon or 2 ml of base oil for each drop of essential oil.
  • You can add accessories, such as massage balls. However, it's often more sensual to just use your hands.
  • If you want to massage your pregnant partner, make sure the oil used is fine - many essential oils are not adequate. Furthermore, the movements must be exceptionally delicate and the abdomen should never be massaged directly during the first four months of pregnancy.

  Warnings

  • Do not use baby oil: it does not absorb well and is a by-product of the petrochemical industry.
  • Never leave burning candles unattended. Be careful where you place them; do not place them near fabrics, paper or flammable objects.
  • Always inquire about your partner's allergies before choosing massage oils. Tell him what the ingredients are to avoid any problems. Ask him before the actual event so as not to spoil the atmosphere!
  • Do not massage a person with cancer, epilepsy, heart or circulatory problems, thrombosis, asthma, severe breathing difficulties, severe back pain, frailty or contagious disease, unless their doctor has given the okay.
  • Stop immediately if your partner feels pain. Do not repeat the action that caused it. Observe, as wincing also indicates pain.
  • Check all contraindications. The massage should not be performed or should be personalized in the following cases: pregnancy, varicose veins, fever, skin infections, wounds or recent surgery. Avoid spreading infectious diseases through massage, putting pressure on varicose veins or massaging cuts made for surgery.