Little sisters can test you; in some cases they are loving and sweet, in others they are really on your nerves. The best way to deal with them is to learn not to lose your temper when they bother you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Keep Calm
Step 1. Take a deep breath
Breathing deeply can help you stay calm when your younger sister is really getting on your nerves. Before you react, breathe and count to 10.
Step 2. Don't show your frustration
If your younger sister realizes that you are frustrated or angry, she may decide to annoy you even more. Try not to let her know how you feel, so avoid making fists, slamming doors, or yelling.
Step 3. Walk away
If your little sister is really annoying and a deep breath isn't enough to calm you down, you can leave. Go into another room and do something relaxing: read a book or play your favorite games. A little alone time can help you calm down.
If your little sister follows you to the other room, you can walk out of the house or take your car. That way he won't be able to follow you and you will have time to calm down
Step 4. Don't hit her
You may be feeling a lot of anger, so much that you want to hit your sister. Regardless of your feelings, never hit her. You could hurt her a lot and end up in serious trouble.
Step 5. Think before you speak
When we are frustrated, it is easy to say bad things that we regret later on. For this, take a deep breath and think carefully about what you want to say. This way you will have a chance to calm down and you won't say anything you don't really think.
Method 2 of 3: Improve the Relationship
Step 1. Congratulate her
When your little sister gets a good result, compliment her! She'll be glad you noticed her skills and you should feel better too for being nice to her.
Step 2. Do something together
You don't have to spend all your time together, but your sister may be bothering you because she wants to be with you. You can improve your relationship by doing activities together. Ask her to do something with you that both of you enjoy.
You could go to the cinema or watch your favorite movie at home. You can also draw or read a book together. Games that you both enjoy also give you the opportunity to spend time together
Step 3. Tell her what bothers you
If your sister doesn't understand how much some things she does annoy you, she may continue to misbehave. At a time when you are not angry, explain to her why her attitude annoys you. By communicating, you will be able to get along better.
You can say, "Laura, when you come into my room and touch my things, it bothers me a lot. I don't care if you take them, but I'd like you to ask permission first, especially because some objects can break. now forward?"
Step 4. Set rules
If you argue with your sister about the things she does, decide on the rules of conduct together. Also inform your parents of those standards, so they can help you comply with them.
For example, if your younger sister takes your things without asking permission, one of the rules may be: "You must ask for permission before you touch or use my things. If you don't, I tell Mom and Dad."
Method 3 of 3: Preventing Negative Feelings
Step 1. Remember what makes you special
Maybe you always finish first in running races at school, or get excellent grades. If you know that jealousy is causing the friction in your relationship with your younger sister, you can take some time to resolve this issue to improve your relationship. When you feel jealous or resentful of her, remember what makes you more mature than her. You will immediately feel better.
Step 2. Talk to your parents
If you feel jealous of your little sister, explain it to your parents. They can help you understand how you feel. They may also decide to spend more time with you if you are jealous of the attention she receives.
Step 3. Don't be too bad
You may be tempted to misbehave with your sister, even if she doesn't bother you. Don't make fun of her and don't treat her badly in any way. If you do, you will have a reputation as the bad big brother and make your relationship worse.
Advice
- If it hits you in front of other people, walk away. Avoid making a scene in public and remember that your parents will not be able to punish her if you respond with violence.
- Treat it with love. If she knows you love her and you show it to her, she'll stop bothering you.
- Control anger, especially when he throws a tantrum on purpose to annoy you. Seeing you angry would only encourage her.
- Talk to her with maturity when she misbehaves. Do not be naughty; avoid offending her and ignoring her. He would not understand silence and may start to have a bad opinion of you if you behave in a cold and distant way.
- If something happens to your younger sister, give her advice and tell her about a situation you experienced similar to the one that happened to her.
- If she's mean to you, get up, take a deep breath, and walk away.
