Love isn't always easy. Sometimes we find ourselves trapped in the perfidious game that pits friendship against feelings. It is not easy to tell if you are in love with someone or if you are just friends. It can hurt, and there may be some broken hearts along the way, but once you understand where your true feelings lie, it will be worth it and you can move on, if it's the right thing to do.
Steps
Step 1. First you need to make sure your friend / lover is the right person for you
This does not mean whether or not you are compatible as a couple, but whether you are really interested in what the other has to say, if you get along well and so on. Often even two friends who have been together for a long time may find that they don't look alike at all. This is the key step: make sure you are sure before you do anything else.
Step 2. Next, you need to rethink what you do together in daily life
If you have lunch, dinner, breakfast, if you work nearby. If you do some recreational activities or kill time, like going to the movies together. This is crucial: it can help you understand where and when you feel comfortable with this person.
Step 3. Let go of the past
For many people it is difficult to enter into a relationship due to some of these reasons: you went to bed together (the one night stand …), one of you has been engaged with someone who is in relationship with the other, you are previously engaged with each other, but it didn't work… and countless others. You have to let go of all this and realize that the past is history: if you really hope to resolve the love / friendship issue, you have to move on.
Step 4. Understand what your feelings are telling you
What you feel is essential in making you understand what you want to understand. Fear makes you realize you are uncomfortable, in a dangerous situation, while happiness lets you know that you are satisfied with where you are at the moment. Let the feelings, love, desire and euphoria show you how you really feel.
Step 5. Make the right decision
Nobody likes to break hearts, especially if it's their own. Make sure you know what you are doing for yourself and your lover / friend's sake.
Step 6. Stay with each other
As long as no resentments get in the way, whether you decide to be lovers or friends, remember to stay together. Remember why you considered yourself lovers in the beginning.
Warnings
- Do it with discretion; there is no need to voice your actions: it could hurt others.
- If there are grudges, or if the feelings aren't mutual, forget it. The best thing could be that everyone goes their own way.
