Nowadays everyone seems to be using text messages and emails to communicate. This makes good old-fashioned love letters, especially handwritten ones, a rare and special gift. They are relics that can be kept, re-read and that warm the heart. They are the perfect gift for the one you love. Writing them isn't difficult, but it takes time and reflection to express your true feelings.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Prepare to Write the Letter
Step 1. Overcome your fear
You are in control of what you write. You don't have to follow any pattern or write poetic or cheesy sentences if you don't feel like doing it. The best thing to do is to be yourself.
Step 2. Set the mood
Find a private place and close the door. Try to eliminate all distractions, such as noises or electronic devices turned on, and avoid interruptions. Create an environment that inspires you by lighting candles or playing music.
- Maybe there's a song that reminds you of the one you love. Find it and put it in the background.
- You can also hold a photo of your loved one in front of you.
Step 3. Reflect on your feelings
We all have moments when we feel very connected to the people we love. Try to recall one of those memories - a moment when all your attention was focused only on your other half and when you were completely immersed and lost in your love. Experience the physical and emotional sensations of that moment in the most intense way possible. Make sure you describe your feelings and put in the words that come to your mind that can make you understand what you are feeling.
Step 4. Think about the person you love
You fell in love with her for a reason. There is something that attracted you immediately, something that stole your heart and made you stay by his side. She has special qualities, such as looks, personality, character, temperament, humor, or strength and you want her to know you appreciate them. Tell her all the things you love about her and how much you appreciate everything she does for you.
- What does your half represent for you? Is she your best friend? Is it your soul mate? Make a list of everything you appreciate and adore about your partner.
- Create sentences from your list. "I love the feeling I get when I hold your very soft hands", "I love how you look at me and how you make me understand that everything will be fine" or maybe "Your smiles and your laughter fill my day".
- Don't focus on physical characteristics. This can make the letter seem incomplete and superficial. Don't completely neglect the physical attraction in the text, otherwise the tone would be too platonic. Love letters need to be sensual, but respectful and tasteful - not necessarily erotic.
Step 5. Let the memories guide you
You've probably shared a lot of special moments with your other half. There will be many memories that belong only to the two of you. These experiences enrich your relationship.
Think about the first time you met or the first moment you felt in love. There was certainly a time when you realized you wanted to be with your current partner. Write that story and all the details you remember - from the clothes she wore to where it happened, to the feelings you had when you met her
Step 6. Think ahead
Your relationship has a past, but also a future that you need to encourage in your love letter. If you are far away, describe all the things you want to do when you meet. If you are united, discuss your goals, dreams and fantasies about the future together. Write everything down.
Step 7. Imagine it is your last day on Earth
Many of the most famous love letters were written by soldiers at the front. Those examples can make you think about what you might say if there was no tomorrow. Pay attention to every word and don't be shy.
Part 2 of 3: Writing a First Draft
Step 1. Create a draft
Don't worry too much about grammar and spelling at this stage. The message is what counts and when you have written it down, you can reread the letter and correct any errors. A love letter is a confession of your feelings and for that you have to be completely honest about how you feel.
- Take your time and don't rush. If this is your first love letter, remember that. Each activity requires some experience, so accept any difficulties and mistakes.
- Use your own words to express your feelings. Don't imitate someone else's style. Your message must be unique and touch your partner's strings that only you can reach. It has to be sincere and reflect your true self.
- Always think about your partner and the level of your relationship as you write your letter. Declaring your love in black and white to someone for the first time is different from writing a letter to your wife who you have been married to for twenty years.
- Remember to declare your love in the letter. A simple "I love you" will do just fine.
Step 2. Start from the beginning
Tell your loved one why you are writing the letter. Make it clear right away that this is a love letter. Think about what prompted you to write. You can say something like, "I've been thinking a lot about how much I love you lately and I want you to know how much you are worth to me."
Don't insult your partner or belittle yourself or your feelings in the letter. Be sure of what you are feeling and what you mean to avoid confusion
Step 3. Write the body of the letter
Here you will find all the memories, stories and list of things you appreciate about your partner useful. Tell your other half what you love about her, why you love her, how she makes you feel, and add a unique story of your relationship. Tell her how she made your life better and how incomplete you would feel without her.
- The goal of your love letter is to express your deepest feelings in ways you can't seem to do in person. Take the opportunity to say more than you usually do and get down to a more intimate level. Use the ideas written above as a guide.
- If you don't write in verse, you can include a poem by your favorite poet or a quote that best expresses what you are trying to say. Always quote the author of the sentence so as not to give the impression of having committed plagiarism and wanting to deceive your partner.
- If you want to be honeyed, go ahead. Be original and if your partner loves you, she'll love your letter too.
Step 4. Maintain a positive tone
Everything you write will remain forever. Therefore, avoid inserting negative elements in the letter. Don't be critical or indecisive. This is your chance to tell the person you love how much it makes you feel good and how wonderful your life is thanks to them; you shouldn't tarnish the letter by talking about your mistakes or bringing up past problems.
- The best way to keep your letter positive is to talk about how you feel at the time of writing it. Sure, you should remember some of the most important stories from your relationship but make sure your partner also understands that your feelings have never been stronger than today.
- Try: "Today, ten years later, I still feel butterflies in my stomach when you smile at me" or "I love you now more than I ever have."
Step 5. Reaffirm your commitment
Talk about the future you hope you can have together. Remind her how important your relationship is and how you hope it will last forever. Tell her how much you are willing to commit and if nothing can stand in the way of your love, your faithfulness and your devotion, write it down. Explain that your feelings will last forever and tell about your future together.
Step 6. Conclude the letter
You should end the text on a positive note. You can write a statement that briefly describes how you feel about your loved one. Try: "I hope I dream of you tonight" or "I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you."
Part 3 of 3: Finishing Touches
Step 1. Choose a beautiful writing paper
Give your loved one something beautiful that she can touch and, if you're lucky, keep under her pillow at night. Better to write on paper of a simple (white), calm (cream) or sensual (flesh) color. Choose high-quality material to add a touch of class and show how much you care about your letter.
- If you don't have writing paper, a regular sheet of paper or notebook will do as well. The message is arguably more important than the type of paper you write on.
- You may be able to age new sheets or make your own card if you want to make the project more fun.
- Use black or brown ink to add a touch of class and sobriety to your text. Avoid "teacher colors" such as blue, green and red, which would give the impression that you are correcting your homework.
Step 2. Use an intimate greeting
Use the forms "beloved", "dearest" "beautiful" "sweetheart" or a nickname if appropriate. If you are already in a romantic relationship, you can add "mine" (for example "to my beloved …"), but don't do it if you are writing the letter to confess your feelings; you will look presumptuous and possessive. Instead, use more detached expressions, such as: "Alla dolcissima _".
Step 3. Write the date of the letter
Add day, month and year. The letter will be a reminder of your love, a precious gift for many years to come. The date is important, because it helps your loved one to go back to the moment she received the letter from you. He will likely read it many times, so make sure everything you write is appropriate and remains relevant in the future.
Step 4. Rewrite the letter
Use the draft to create the final version of the love letter. Make sure there are no smudges or marks on the paper and that your writing is legible. Handwriting is important here, so take your time to write and try to make a perfectly neat letter. Your loved one will need to be able to read the text and do it with pleasure.
Step 5. Sign the letter
This will be your final salute. You can write "Yours", "Yours forever", "A kiss", "With all my love" and "I will love you forever". If possible, include the nickname you use to call her, a joke that only you understand, or even an answer to a question she has been asking for a long time.
If you want to be more romantic, try a simpler but passionate greeting. "With eternal love" or "Forever yours" are some examples
Step 6. Add a personal touch
You can include a special element in the letter as a further token of your love. You can use flower petals, your favorite tea bag, or even a few drops of perfume on the paper. You can also trace your hand on the back of the letter or leave a lipstick kiss on the paper.
Step 7. Put the letter in an envelope
Fold it with the text inside and put it in an envelope with your beloved's address. Choose an envelope that matches your writing paper for a beautiful effect. If you want, you can make the envelope yourself or even fold the letter itself into an envelope shape.
- Alternatively, roll the letter up like parchment and tie it tightly with a nice string or ribbon.
- A romantic stamp, for example with flowers or a heart, can add a lovely decoration to your envelope.
Step 8. Surprise your loved one
Mail the letter if you really want to grab your partner's attention. Surprise can make your message more effective, as well as make the experience more exciting and memorable. You can also choose to hide the letter under his pillow, put it in a drawer or lay it on a plate for breakfast or dinner.
Wait some time before sending the letter. After you finish it, put it away and check it again when you think it's time to ship it. Look for mistakes and make sure it doesn't contain anything you might regret. When you are sure it is perfect, send it in and prepare for a passionate response to your efforts
Step 9. Write more love letters
Don't let your first letter be your last. Get in the habit of writing letters to the person you love on their birthday, on anniversaries, during times you spend apart, when you spend a lot of time together or for no particular reason. The more experienced you become, the easier it will be to write love messages and the better you will be able to express your feelings.
Advice
- To give your letter an extra touch of class, write it using calligraphic writing. It will give you more time to think and the letter will look much better.
- Love letters are meant to "freshen up" a relationship.
- The best love letters are those that come from the heart. Don't just copy trivial romantic quotes from the internet and don't let friends or family write them for you. Let your heart speak.
- Just write what you think.
- If you decide to spray some perfume on the letter, make sure you don't get the paper wet!
- When you write, don't mince words. Get to the point right away - if you want to write a letter about your everlasting love for your loved one, stay on topic. Don't write sentences like "I love your dog's collar, it goes well with your eyes" or something off topic.
