In some cases, it happens to have unwelcome encounters. While it's possible to avoid people altogether, you won't always be able not to talk to them. You have many options to get away from who you want to erase from your life: you can surround yourself with people you like to talk to or avoid certain situations.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Feel Comfortable in Your Surroundings
Step 1. Maintain a positive attitude
In cases where you don't feel like talking to someone because you don't feel comfortable, take a deep breath and remember that you are a nice person. Remember, you have the right to protect your personal space and to express your feelings so that you feel completely peaceful.
- Focus on your desires and what makes you feel happy. Then, try to find people with similar attitudes to yours. Instead of avoiding certain subjects, choose positive behavior and try to surround yourself with friends who make you feel good.
- Your thoughts and actions affect your mood. Smile and remember that everything is fine.
- By keeping a positive attitude you will attract other optimistic people.
Step 2. Take part in activities you enjoy
You won't always want to talk to everyone, but when you do something you enjoy, it's easier to be surrounded by people who make you feel comfortable.
- If you go to school, join an association that you are passionate about. Whether you're an extrovert or an introvert, there are extracurricular activities for all tastes. From theater to track and field team, you can find an activity you enjoy and a group of like-minded people.
- Doing something you enjoy allows you to gain confidence and meet people you will appreciate, as well as give you a way to keep busy and avoid situations you would rather not find yourself in.
Step 3. Focus on enjoying your experiences
Instead of worrying about other people and how they may react to your presence, just try to have fun. If someone is mean to you or tries to make you feel bad, remember it's not your problem.
- People often take their frustration out on others because of their insecurities.
- By devoting your energy to activities you enjoy, it will be easier to avoid a specific person. You will not have time to listen to those who do not support you.
Step 4. Enjoy the company of friends
In a social environment, whether at school, work, or in your free time, surround yourself with people you get along with so you feel more comfortable.
- If you often find yourself with people who are rude or you don't want to talk to, ask a friend for help.
- Tell your friends that there is someone who is bothering you. Calmly explain your reasons and ask them to form a barrier to protect you from this person.
Method 2 of 3: Confront Someone You Don't Want To Talk To
Step 1. Treat everyone with civility
If you meet someone you don't want to talk to because they are rude or have an unpleasant background, remember to be polite. Be courteous and don't let someone's attitude lead you to misbehave in turn; this way you will be able to keep the conversations between you short.
- You won't always be able to avoid people you don't want to talk to. However, you can minimize contact by maintaining a polite attitude.
- Take a break, take a deep breath, and focus on yourself. Your goal is to end the interaction as quickly as possible.
- Be polite, find an excuse to walk away. Do not imitate the unpleasant person's behavior. Keep calm and tell her that you have a date or that you need to meet a friend, then say goodbye and go on your way.
Step 2. Put some stakes in your relationship
You don't necessarily have to explain to this person what limits they shouldn't cross, but you should decide what you are willing to tolerate. Enforce your rights and don't give in.
- You can put both mental and physical stakes. You have every right to defend your personal space and it is permissible for you to clearly explain how you intend to do so.
- Clearly explain to your colleague, classmate or ex, when and how you are willing to interact with him. It will be difficult, but don't be afraid to be blunt.
- If someone has previously invaded your personal space, the next time you meet them tell them to physically give you more space. At the beginning of the conversation, you can explain that you only have a short time to talk. Also, you can tell him that you prefer to communicate with him via email or SMS.
Step 3. Ignore the person
You're probably not the only one who wants to avoid someone. Pay attention to how others cope with the situation. If you've tried other, more straightforward methods with no success, you can always decide to ignore it. Ask your friends for advice on how you should behave.
- In some cases, relationships don't work. This can be a partner or even a colleague. If you have tried to distance yourself from him without success, just ignore him.
- Ignoring a person is not always easy, especially when the latter is insistent; over time, however, you will achieve the desired result if you continue to enforce your decisions.
- Ignoring someone doesn't mean making fun of them, making rags or grimaces. Just behave as if it is not there, without being immature. In some cases, you just have to behave with superiority and walk away.
Method 3 of 3: Avoid Someone at All
Step 1. Avoid situations where you might be dealing with the unwelcome person
In some cases, you will need to make changes to your plans in order not to talk to her. If you know he's going to be attending a party or meeting, don't go.
- You may decide not to attend an event to avoid someone if it's not work or school commitments.
- Tell a friend that you will not be attending. Tell your reasons, but don't be rude.
- If you can see the person you don't want to talk to from where you are, try to change your position. If you are at a party or in a bar, you may have a chance to move around and not meet her.
Step 2. Get help
If you really don't want to have anything to do with someone, but can't help it, ask for help. You can talk to friends, your parents, your boss or a psychologist.
- If you can't avoid someone because you are in class together or work in the same office, talk to someone who can help you, such as your boss or school psychologist.
- Calmly explain why you don't want to deal with that person. Maybe it doesn't allow you to work because it makes you uncomfortable, or you can't concentrate during class because it doesn't leave you alone. Tell a manager why you don't want to interact with her.
Step 3. Stop contacting this person
If you have the chance, end your relationship. If you no longer want to see or talk to your ex, or someone in your circle of friends, just stop dating her.
- Set limits once and don't apologize. Your health and mental well-being are the most important things. It won't be easy, but tell this person that you don't want to have any contact with them anymore.
- Respect your word. Some people will not agree to walk away from you. However, if you have expressed your intentions, your duty is over. Do not grant other holds.
- You have the right to tell this person that you no longer want to see or talk to them. In some cases, if you are curt and rude, you will get her to understand the message once and for all. You may feel bad, but remember that you are acting in defense of your health.
Advice
- You don't have to look the other person in the eye, but try to be polite and explain that you're not in the mood.
- Change your habits or take a different path to avoid this person.
- At least let her know you can't talk to her.
- Answer her with respect, but let her know what limits she shouldn't cross.
- If someone is mean to you, take a step back, think for a few seconds and choose what is best to do.
