3 Ways to Choose the Right Girl for You

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Deciding to be in a relationship with a girl who has stolen your heart is a big decision, and opens the door to many exciting possibilities. Since serious relationships require some emotional involvement, it goes without saying that you will have to choose your girlfriend carefully. Fortunately, with the help of wikiHow, you'll be able to find the right one in no time. Read on to find out how.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Part 1: Look for Positive Traits

Step 1. First, choose a girl you like to hang out with

It might seem trivial, but too many people forget it! While all relationships have tough times, a good relationship should above all make a couple happy (in most cases at least). Your girlfriend should be someone capable of arousing positive emotions in you. If the girl you'd like to be in a relationship with often makes you yearn to be somewhere else or makes you feel tense or unhappy, you will need to seriously reconsider the relationship. Ask yourself the following questions:

• "Can I be myself when I am with this person or do I have to wear a mask?".
• "I like talking to this person and does it come naturally to me?".
• "Are we comfortable in the moments we spend together?".

Step 2. Choose a girl who shows respect for herself

We all know that old saying, "You can't love someone else unless you love yourself first." Follow this advice: choose a girl who loves herself and who has a positive image of herself. These girls are more likely to be emotionally stable and have reasonable and realistic priorities compatible with developing a relationship.

• How do you know if a girl loves herself? Usually, a person who respects themselves a lot will have some (or all) of the following qualities:

  • Correct habits of personal hygiene.
  • Confidence in your own abilities.
  • A relaxed and sincere demeanor.
  • Skill in making fun of herself, without exaggerating with self-criticism.

  

  Step 3. Prioritize emotional attraction, but don't discard physical attraction

  If you don't feel like you have a real emotional connection with your girlfriend, the relationship won't work out, no matter how cute she is. You will have to choose a girl based mainly on emotional attraction, the physical one comes later. Ask yourself, "Would I still want to be with this person even if they start to have acne?" If so, you probably have a decidedly shallow attraction!

  That said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with looking for a beautiful girl. So if you have a deep connection with someone you don't just feel a physical attraction for, that's better! Physical attraction is certainly an important ingredient in a healthy relationship, but it's not critical

  

  Step 4. Choose a girl who has a good sense of humor

  Laughing is an integral part of almost all healthy relationships. Sharing a laugh is one of the best ways to quickly establish an emotional bond with someone. So, the more you and your girlfriend can laugh, the better. Try picking one that you can open up to regularly and joke with without offense and without forced laughter.

  It must be considered that people's tastes are different and that not everyone appreciates the same sense of humor. For example, if dirty humor makes you laugh but the girl you like has more innocent humor, you should prepare yourself for possible awkward moments. This is not to say that two people with different senses of humor cannot get along, but you need to keep the differences in mind

  

  Step 5. Choose a girl who is independent and sure of what interests her

  Just like men, women should have interests and priorities that go beyond their partner. Choose a girl who demonstrates that she leads a rich and fulfilling life, regardless of who she is with. He should have personal goals. It's good to date such a woman - after all, it's easy to get interested in people who have something to say.

  Also, a person who has personal interests is more likely to teach you something you wouldn't have learned otherwise

  

  Step 6. Choose a girl who wants what you want from a relationship

  This ingredient is essential for the success of a relationship, yet many make the mistake of neglecting it. Before you start dating someone (or soon after), it's a good idea to define what is expected of the couple. Keep in mind that some relationships, which on other occasions may work, are hampered by differences in the priorities of the two partners. Here are some of the factors to look into with your potential girlfriend:

  • Exclusivity. Will you commit to having an exclusive relationship or is the relationship open and therefore it is possible to have escapades with other people?
  • Future goals. Do you and this girl have plans that could interfere with the relationship (like moving for study or work, taking a gap year, etc.)?
  • Other factors that could have a negative effect on the relationship. For example, do you and your girlfriend have different beliefs or values that could put stakes in the relationship (such as religious beliefs, rules established by your parents if you are still small, etc.)?

  Method 2 of 3: Part 2: Avoiding Negative Traits

  

  Step 1. Forget about girls who don't want to commit

  If you're looking for a devoted girlfriend, don't waste your time with someone who isn't interested in getting into a serious relationship. A relationship with such a girl can be fun for some time, but it will break your heart when she starts to like someone else. If your prospective girlfriend seems reluctant to commit to an exclusive relationship or completely refuses this possibility, look elsewhere.

  Of course, there is an exception to this rule if neither of you wants to commit, rather you prefer to have an informal and non-exclusive relationship. However, this possibility must be considered with caution: can you really and honestly bear the possibility of seeing her with someone else?

  

  Step 2. Avoid materialistic girls

  As with some guys, there are girls who don't really have priority as well when they are with someone, preferring things to people. Normally, a good girlfriend won't stand there and watch her boyfriend go broke trying to please her. While gifts, little gifts, concrete demonstrations of love and dinners in expensive restaurants are acceptable, they should not be a prerequisite for deciding to hang out with someone. If the girl you want to date seems to be more than willing to be with someone to get what she wants, without benefiting the relationship, drop her off the list.

  • Try asking yourself questions like "Would I still like this person if I couldn't afford to take them out?" and "Could we be well together without spending any money?". If you can't answer yes to many of these questions, a relationship with this girl may have a materialistic, not an emotional foundation.
  • Speaking of materialistic needs in a couple, there is a big difference between normal demands and demands that are neither in heaven nor on earth. And this distinction should be obvious. Of course, special occasions, such as birthdays, Christmas holidays, anniversaries, and so on, should be a cause for celebration.

  

  Step 3. Avoid girls who are unwilling to express themselves

  The expression "communication is the key to everything" will also be an old cliché, over and over again, but this is done for good reason. The girl you're with should be someone who is willing to show you openness and honesty, especially when it comes to issues that could affect the relationship. While it seems superficially desirable to date a girl who always behaves happily, even when she isn't, this is actually not the kind of person you should be in a relationship with. In fact, when negative emotions are hidden and allowed to be soured, they can ultimately cause serious relationship problems.

  

  Step 4. Avoid girls who don't like you

  This is very, very important. Relationships are based on exchange, so it is vital that you treat your girlfriend with respect and affection, and it is equally important that she does the same with you. If the woman you want to date doesn't seem to be able to invest your own emotional energy and the same amount of time you spend in the relationship, being with her isn't a good idea.

  Remember, a relationship should be balanced, no one has to give more than the other. Romantic relationships should represent opportunities to improve your life (already beautiful in its own right) thanks to the exchange, affection and respect from both members of the couple. In short, you have to make each other happy

  Method 3 of 3: Part 3: Assess Your Compatibility

  

  Step 1. Get to know his friends

  You can understand many things about a person by simply observing the people he surrounds himself with. The personality and opinions of an individual in many ways are determined by the people around him, so get to know the friends of the girl you are interested in to get an idea of her character. Getting to know your potential girlfriend's friends is almost always a good idea: not only can they help you figure out if she's right for you; if you become friends with them and tell them about your crush, they can also increase your chances of dating her.

  Also, even if you find that the girl you like doesn't look anything like her friends, they are still people you will likely end up seeing often

  

  Step 2. Try to understand what makes her laugh

  As stated earlier, a good sense of humor is an important trait to consider in the person you want to date, but what's fun for one individual isn't necessarily fun for another. Having a humor other than that of the girl you like could lead to awkward moments in some cases. For example, if one person thinks one thing is funny while the other thinks it is offensive, hurting someone's feelings is a real possibility. Try to analyze this woman's sense of humor to see if you share it. In theory, you should be able to make each other laugh without major problems.

  Try testing this girl's sense of humor by dating her (in a non-romantic, pressure-free context) and making little jokes. If you get a good answer, you can risk riskier jokes, but avoid awkward or controversial humor until you really go out together

  

  Step 3. Try to identify shared interests

  The old cliché of the "couple doing things together stays together" has some foundation. If you and your potential girlfriend have at least some common interests, it will be much easier to find things to do together, have more fun dates, more inspiring weekends, and a generally less boring relationship. Fortunately, it is not difficult to find out what a person likes, in fact it is quite a common topic when talking about more or less. Just ask!

  This does not mean that two people with different interests cannot be together. In fact, one of the benefits of a relationship is trying new experiences from the other person's hobbies. In short, a relationship is also an opportunity to learn about something you would never have explored

  

  Step 4. Assess your maturity level

  Regardless of age, everyone presents a different maturity. This is especially true during adolescence, when a single year can bring about huge changes in someone's life. If you are looking for a girlfriend, you may want to choose one that is about as mature as you are. Generally speaking, mature people are more open to serious and long-term relationships, while less mature people tend to prefer informal and light relationships. Two people with different purposes may expect different things from a relationship if they don't have the same degree of maturity, so consider whether the girl you want to be with is on the same level as you in this case.

  • Ask yourself:

    • "Does this person seem to plan his future more or less than me?"
    • "Does this person have different ideas from mine about what the ideal relationship should be?"
    • "Do this person's future plans reflect a different level of maturity than mine?"

    

    Step 5. Evaluate this girl's past relationships, and then consider yours

    Is very important. Although it is perfectly possible for a person to change his habits over time, it is impossible to predict the future, you can only analyze the past. For example, if the girl you like is quickly bored of her boyfriends and quickly turns the page, you should seriously consider whether she is worth being together. If an individual has had several romantic problems in the past, there is a possibility (although not a certainty) that these difficulties will reoccur in your relationship. It is always vital to examine the potential future problems of a relationship before choosing a girlfriend (obviously without adopting a critical or cynical attitude towards this girl, who of course cannot control her past).