Habitual drinker, avid party-goer, drug user, serial traitor. How to break the vicious circle and find a man who is really worth dating? With a good network of contacts, after setting precise standards, with some simple tips to follow and a treasure map to find the right man, wikiHow will finally be able to help you achieve your goal. Start by following the tips from step one!
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Search in the Right Places
Step 1. Search, don't wait for him to find you
The first thing to do is to stop waiting hopefully for the right man. You are the one who has to work hard to find it. Cinderella also had to go to prom, right?
Step 2. Stop for lunch and coffee in the right places
Think about what kind of man would be best for you (a future doctor, a successful businessman, a sportsman, an adventure lover, an artistic and a little extravagant type, etc.) and go to the places where there is a higher concentration of that type of people. Go to the places you choose for your morning coffee or lunch break. And of course, be willing to talk to people you don't know yet!
Step 3. Join an association or take lessons
Meeting places in your area can be a golden opportunity to make new encounters. Choose a group with an interesting theme but consider that by choosing a purely male meeting place you will have a better chance of attracting attention to members of the opposite sex. As for associations, you could consider the idea of a sports center, a game room or other places more frequented by men.
Step 4. Go online
This is no longer the prerogative of the most shy lonely hearts, it is now very common to find your boyfriend online. There are also many sites with free membership, or other paid ones that will try to better select the profiles that best suit you.
Step 5. Attend a conference or convention
Whether the theme is comics or finance does not matter, as long as it is a theme capable of attracting a large number of men (possibly single). Before leaving, do some online research and make sure you know something about the subject matter.
Maybe now you think you don't want a slightly nerdy and geek guy. You could be wrong, perhaps you have never realized how affectionate and involved the most reserved and intellectual types can be in their love stories. Give them a chance
Step 6. Ask your friends
The ideal way to find an interesting guy is to ask your friends to arrange a date with someone. Don't be shy and don't be afraid of rejection, many happy couples met just this way! Your friends will not judge you, in fact, this assignment is likely to thrill them and make them feel important. It is always pleasant to try to realize the happiness of others. Let your friends know that you are tired of always dating losers and ask if they know anyone who can come close to your ideal. Doing so will increase your chances of meeting the right man.
If your friends fail to introduce you to any kind worthy of attention, you need new friends. Interesting people usually hang out with other interesting people. Maybe the people you hang out with now aren't all that special if they're always trying to introduce you to terrifying men
Step 7. Try it at work
Did you know that over 20% of married couples met in the workplace? If you've never looked around the office then start today. Meeting a man at work can automatically provide you with answers to your questions. You will be able to identify a person who works hard and who is always kind to his co-workers.
Method 2 of 4: Set Some Standards
Step 1. Look at his priorities
You will want your ideal man to have an order of priority that matches yours. He will have to prioritize your happiness, not his friends, colleagues, or family judgments. If he cares too much that having a girlfriend makes him seem less "male" and less "cool", then he is not the ideal man at all. You will have to share your priorities on many aspects of life such as work, money, education, etc.
- Each person has different priorities, so it's hard to judge which ones they should and shouldn't have. The important thing is that they manage to meet yours.
- Remember not to expect more from him than you expect from yourself.
Step 2. Observe how he talks about you, and with you
When introducing you to someone, do you avoid saying that you are their girlfriend? Try not to get to know his parents even if you have been dating for quite some time? I'm not sure of the positive signs. Also pay attention to how it addresses you. Does it insult you or make you feel uncomfortable? The right man would never say something offensive on purpose.
Sometimes men tend to point out some flaws of their partners. This factor can be both positive and negative, it all depends on the intentions. If he is truly concerned about you, and if he is only trying to help you, he will never pressure you or establish an ultimatum, rather he will take your feelings into account and guarantee his support
Step 3. Make sure you have the same level of stability and maturity
If priorities differ greatly from person to person, the same goes for maturity. Find out which font is most compatible with yours and try to go that route. If you prefer the company of someone who is playful and carefree, find a man like this, if instead you need a more serious person, with whom to enter into a lasting relationship, then focus on someone who embodies these characteristics. Don't think that all men are immature, maybe you just picked the wrong one. If you have realized that you always have to take care of him and run after him, sooner or later you will get tired of this situation.
Step 4. Feel free to express yourself when you are with him
In the company of the right man you will feel free, you will not be afraid to try new things or explore new territories. The world will appear full of possibilities. The right man will be able to encourage you, not hold you back. If the person next to you intimidates you or puts too many conditions on you, it means that you have hit the wrong target.
Step 5. Expect him to be honest, especially with you
Trust is an essential trait in a relationship, regardless of its nature. Likewise, he will need to be honest with both you and other people in his life. If he bases everything on sincerity, you will never be assailed by doubts.
Step 6. Aim to have a faithful man next to you
Once a betrayal is discovered, trust can no longer be rebuilt. There will always be a chance that the mistakes of the past will be repeated. After a betrayal, even the most solid couples break up: if you have realized that your man is not faithful, surely you deserve better, so leave him and find someone else.
If she truly loved and respected you, she would have talked to you about it before doing something that could hurt you, even explaining what is wrong with your relationship. Don't believe his apology, especially if he defends himself with a "We had some problems but now I would like to solve them"
Method 3 of 4: Presenting Yourself the Right Way
Step 1. Respect him and everyone else
If you try to win the right man you will have to make him understand that you too are a "right woman". So show him by all means that you are a good person, be respectful and behave the same way with all other people as well. Many things can be understood about someone simply by the way they view and treat others. A person who behaves well even with those who do not deserve it certainly has an edge.
Step 2. Respect yourself
The right man will aim to have at his side a woman who loves and respects herself, so let him know that you are that deserving person. Show him that you know how to respect and love you. Don't say negative things about yourself, stand up for your points of view, wear appropriate clothes (not too long, not too short or provocative etc.), take care of your cleanliness, eat a healthy diet and exercise.
Step 3. Be yourself
The right man will not be such if he is not able to fall in love with you for who you really are. In any case, it is always important to be yourself. If that man does not like you as you are, then it makes no sense to make any effort to conquer him. Value your passions, celebrate your positives and accept the flaws. Never try to be different, it is a harmful attitude for yourself and for the relationship you would like to undertake.
Step 4. Pursue your passions
A person full of interests will always be attractive in the eyes of others. So cultivate your passions and never stop doing it. Dedicate yourself to what you enjoy doing and also experiment with new things you have long thought you would try. The right man will be conquered by this attitude of yours.
Step 5. Communicate frequently and clearly
One of the most important things in a relationship is the ability to communicate, so try to express yourself, and do it clearly. This attitude will be useful to avoid the emergence of problems in the future: your relationship will be more solid and rewarding for both of you.
Step 6. Stop playing
If first your tactic was to attract his attention and then delude him, but then pull back until you become cold as an icicle or disappear completely, be careful, because this is not the right attitude to win the heart of an interesting man. Ditch manipulative behavior and be honest with him if you really care about letting him know. If you hit the right target, he too will prove it to you.
Step 7. Take the initiative
Don't be afraid to take the initiative in finding the right man. You can be the one asking him out together. You can choose where to go and when to see you. Don't be afraid to show your feelings, you will show him that your bond with him is stronger than your shyness.
Method 4 of 4: Some Additional Tips
Step 1. Make sure you are reciprocated
If you are in love, you will want him to return the same feelings. Try your best to get him involved, sometimes it's not that hard.
Step 2. Learn how to attract a worthy man
If you think you only attract the attention of losers, maybe you are doing something wrong! Change tactics and you will see that the right man will be at your feet before you even know it.
Step 3. Make the right man notice you
Getting her attention might be the hardest part. Only by learning a few tricks, and improving your skills, will you finally be able to get out of the shadows and get on a pedestal.
Step 4. Find out how to conquer it
If you want his heart all to yourself, then you'll have to work hard. Without a good dose of commitment it will not be possible. Sometimes it is enough to know how to show your affection in the right way, until you make him understand that you are "the right one for him".
Advice
- Do not be angry if the person you like does not show interest in you, maybe you are not destined for each other.
- If you know they don't like you, don't try to force your presence on them. If you force him to stay with you, you will only make things worse by wasting a lot of precious time. Invest your energy only in finding the right man.
