Do you think you want to become more talkative, to try to get more attention and have more friends? Unfortunately, it's harder than just "putting a few words here and there" and thus becoming the witty and chatty person you want to be. But if you apply a little strategy, you can learn too.
Steps
Step 1. Ignore shyness and the idea of what others may believe about you
Be yourself, show yourself as you really are, and don't try to become different.
Step 2. Exercise by talking more:
until you get it wrong, you will never know exactly what you did or how you will go next time. It's like riding a bicycle: sometimes you fall. Don't worry, get back in the saddle and try again.
Step 3. Let yourself go completely but don't get rude
Be yourself, don't fear judgments.
Method 1 of 3: Start and Maintain Conversation
Step 1. Introduce yourself or use a question to create a conversation
Be friendly.
Don't plan your words
Step 2. Continue
There is nothing to be nervous about. Be proactive and positive.
Step 3. Answer the "thinking aloud" questions when you have to
Don't be silent while thinking about your answer.
Step 4. Listen to yourself and what you think as you tell others
Step 5. Talk
The more you think, the calmer you will be. Don't fear what others think or what they say. It's those thoughts that make you nervous and keep you from speaking.
Step 6. Don't worry about how you say things, if you haven't said what you think, correct yourself
Be kind about your own words too.
Step 7. To end the conversation, just say "Goodbye" or something and leave
Step 8. Be proud of speaking
Be happy with yourself for what you have done. Never consider saying something "wrong", even if it was mean. At least you opened your mouth.
Method 2 of 3: The Rules
Step 1. Don't write yourself jokes and don't rehearse what you are going to say
Step 2. Try to sound normal and friendly, like you've known people forever
Think of your interlocutors as people you are comfortable with.
Step 3. Don't give in to shyness or nervousness
Step 4. Have fun and meet lots of other people
Looking back, you would regret never saying what you wanted.
Method 3 of 3: Something You Can Do
Step 1. Take at least 3 personality tests that reveal whether you are introverted or extroverted and answer honestly
If you lie, you will get nowhere.
Step 2. Were you shy and quiet as a child?
If the answer is yes, then this is not for you.
Step 3. If the test tells you that you are an introvert, you need to stop and do what you want
Advice
- Do what makes you happy. Dress well, change your haircut, brush your teeth, perfume yourself or whatever makes you feel more confident!
- Never rehearse what you will say. And don't write the words: just don't worry.
- Just try to be yourself and continue to be friendly and happy.
- Go with the flow, be natural. Talk about the environment, about topics of the day, about what's happening in the world. The rule is: "freedom of speech".
Warnings
- Do not talking to people who don't seem very welcoming just to show that you are more talkative - they may not be nice to you.
- Remember not to overdo it or people may get tired. Keep it simple and calm.
- Those who are quiet and introverted should not try to change themselves based on these suggestions alone.
- If you are introverted and you like being alone… that's fine, you don't have to change radically. Follow your nature.
