People feel comfortable approaching someone humble, trustworthy, and confident. Finding the right balance between these characteristics requires a considerable effort, which however will be reciprocated by the relationships you will be able to establish.
Steps
Step 1. Get closer to others:
If you really want to become more approachable, you need to be able to get closer to other people, the two go hand in hand. If you are shy, smile. Smiling could increase your confidence, or in any case make you seem more confident, giving the impression that you are approachable.
Step 2. Get interested in others:
Find out what matters to others, ask them questions (but not too many). Observe and analyze people, learn about their personalities and approach them in the right way. Try to listen rather than speak.
Step 3. Body language
Understand that body language is important. Relax and make reassuring eye contact. Relax a little (show confidence). Don't cross your arms. Keeping your hands relaxed is best. Smile when you see someone (as if just seeing them makes your day better).
Step 4. Take your leave complimenting the people! It is amazing, and incredibly tender. The trick is to say something really nice as you walk away. Express something you genuinely appreciate about them. You will be surprised at how many friends you can make, and at the same time, you will launch a fashion. Isn't it nice when someone tells you that you are very charming / beautiful? Compliments will make people want to talk to you, after all who doesn't like receiving compliments?
Step 5. Avoid being rude:
One thing some girls or boys think is that it's fun to be mean and aggressive, but these attitudes don't make you approachable. A nice, friendly and open attitude will make you more approachable. Nobody wants to approach someone who is brusque or aggressive.
Step 6. Think the best about people
Think it out loud, say it. Always try to find the best side in people, give compliments (Don't overdo it). If other people are gossiping, try to dissociate yourself, say nice things about others and others will say nice things about you.
Step 7. Gain people's trust:
Instead of telling someone they are wrong, try to understand their point of view, and find something positive in what they say. Express your disagreement, but admit his point of view may be taken into consideration. An approachable person is open to new ideas.
Step 8. Be confident but also a little humble:
Walk around and talk to people in your free time. Don't be anti-social, remember, if you get close to others, others will get close to you.
Step 9. Make an effort to involve others in conversations:
Make space for them by widening the circle, introduce them, or ask for their names. Letting others join in on a joke or learn about something helps build a bond. Have you ever noticed someone who always seems to be left on the sidelines… you have to involve them, they will appreciate it very much.
Step 10. Dress well:
Wear the clothes you like best, and that suit your personality. If you dress in colorful / dark clothes you will attract like-minded people.
Step 11. Be honest with yourself:
be true to yourself and proud of your qualities. Everyone is different and accepting their qualities will show that you are confident. People feel more comfortable with someone who has their own particularities; allows them to be themselves!
Step 12. When you discover a secret, don't flaunt it from the rooftops:
Show that they can trust you. Do not reveal the secret (if they betray your trust, stick to your word, you will earn a reputation as a reliable person). Never cheat on your friends. You want others to trust you, even if they aren't your friends. Word will spread that you are trustworthy and people will want to get close to you.
Step 13. Respect others:
Show that you respect what people say there. Don't laugh at them in front of your friends, be fair, but if they do something weird, point it out (kindly). This helps everyone. When you speak, reflect on what you say, review it in your mind. Avoid saying things that could hurt other people's feelings.
Step 14. Smile:
That's right, something as simple as a smile will help make you an approachable person. Don't make a forced smile, always make sure your smile is warm or funny. Laughing (of course) is as good as smiling, so pair your smile with a jovial laugh.
Step 15. Be patient:
Keep treating others as if they are approachable and hopefully they will treat you the same way too. It can take time, but don't give up. Have fun and act according to the reasons of the heart, do not allow insecurities to prevent you from approaching others or to bring you down. Accept and smile.
Advice
- It is human nature to be attracted to positive or optimistic personalities.
- Don't let anything block you. If you want to laugh, laugh; if you feel uncomfortable, don't keep it hidden.
- If someone approaches you, always treat them well, and with respect. Welcome him with a smile and always with a certain open mind.
- If someone approaches you that you personally don't like, you can still be civil and elegant without letting your discomfort shine through.
- Use physical contact - don't be afraid to lightly touch someone on the shoulder or arm. This helps build a bond.
- Use your space - gesticulate and move around a bit.
- Be yourself.
- Another way to start off on the right foot - stay put, but introduce yourself to others. Keep your arms open with your wrists visible (gives a sense of openness, avoid crossing your arms or holding a drink in your hands all the time).
- Don't be afraid to ask questions.
- It is important to understand that sometimes in order to be more approachable you also need to get closer to others. Don't be afraid to mix with the crowd. Soon others will be drawn to you as if you were a magnet.
- Remember that starting a conversation is a two-way street. Don't be afraid to get close to others.
Warnings
- Don't describe yourself with qualities that don't belong to you - in other words: be yourself. If someone doesn't like your real self, chances are they're not a good friend / acquaintance to your real self.
- If you cross your arms you will give others the impression of feeling uncomfortable or of not wanting to be in that place. Therefore they will hesitate before approaching you.
- Everyone has their bad days, so don't be put off by a failed attempt.
- Don't cover freckles (if you have any). Studies have shown that people with freckles look more bubbly and approachable.
