You will often find yourself in situations where you need to help a friend or relative. Most of us are ready to help someone for a short period of time, while others who have already had negative experiences about it will avoid doing so. If you find yourself in the situation where your guest has become a long-term roommate, it may be difficult to find the right way to evict them.
Steps
Step 1. Evaluate the situation and the agreements made previously
Generally, make a deal before hosting someone at home. Agreements change based on the situation so make sure you are clear without getting emotionally involved. For example: welcome the guest until he has found a job or just for 3 weeks. The terms of the deal must be clear so that you know exactly when the guest will be leaving, without making them believe they can stay longer than expected.
Step 2. Maintain a reasonable and respectful approach
Even if you are in an inconvenient situation and are tired of hosting the person in question, there is no need to get overly angry and treat things unreasonably. Generally, if your guest lives with you, it is because he has nowhere else to go.
Step 3. Look for solutions and find out about alternatives to help him and improve his situation
If you have the resources, help your host move elsewhere.
Step 4. Do not communicate in an emotional way, make sure that he understands the time available to him
In this case, you need to put your feelings aside and make sure you are clear and firm about the hospitable conditions. Be prepared as the conversation could turn into an argument and you will then have to ask him to leave to avoid future conflicts. Better to have this conversation in the morning hours in order to allow the guest the time necessary to prepare to leave.
Advice
- Emotions must be controlled at all costs. The goal is not to argue but to speak clearly about your needs and the need to respect them.
- Try to do it yourself. Better not have anyone on your side or things could get even worse. Nobody likes to be attacked so have the conversation alone with the host.
- Respect him and don't hurt his feelings!
Warnings
- Make sure you are not angry. If you are upset about a past event, wait to calm down before discussing the situation.
- Make sure your host doesn't have any valuables you own when you have an argument with the aim of evicting him.
