You want a boyfriend and are looking for a lasting relationship, but you've always heard that the situation gets more complicated for gay guys. Fortunately, wikiHow is there to help you, but before you act, make sure he has the same sexual preferences as you.
Steps
Step 1. Start spending more time with the person you care about
You can start with a friendship, there is no need to take action immediately.
Step 2. Invite him to your house and just act like a friend, play video games, go watch a movie together
Step 3. If at this point he will start to approach you (if he will laugh at your jokes or seek contact even when not required by the situation etc
.) then you can be pretty sure he's interested too. But be careful, for many kids these attitudes can be spontaneous and not clearly intended gestures.
Step 4. Invite him outside, such as a coffee shop, where you can tell him how you feel about him
In case he is not interested he can leave, or you will leave.
Step 5. If he reciprocates your interest then take it easy, go to your house, or his house, and spend time together, get in touch
Step 6. Now you can kiss the guy you like for the first time
Step 7. Ask him if he wants to become your official partner
Advice
- Make sure the guy you like is gay or bisexual, you need to know him pretty well and figure out if, in case he doesn't reciprocate, he will manage not to make you uncomfortable.
- If he says no, maybe he only suits him as a friend but not as a boyfriend.
- Deal with things calmly, there is no faster way to lose a friend than to invite him out if he is not interested in you.
- Bringing a trusted friend with you (who already knows everything) is an effective way to make your encounters seem more spontaneous.
- Enjoy your single life, it will boost your self-confidence and make sure you don't rush things when the right situation arises.
Warnings
- Don't tell him anything until you're sure he's ready to listen to you.
- Pay attention to the signals it sends you. Sometimes some selfless and spontaneous actions could be misunderstood as signs of attraction.
- There are people who feel uncomfortable knowing different sexual orientations, so take into account the possibility of witnessing unexpected reactions.
- Being attracted to the same sex does not necessarily mean being gay, gay men and women often notice their sexual tastes very early on, and during adolescence the feelings only intensify. Instead, you may just be curious, or bisexual, if you are attracted to people of both genders.
