You will likely have a hard time communicating using the language of the heart, especially when you are trying to express a strong feeling to a person you care deeply about. By letting your girlfriend know how special she is, you will encourage the development of a healthy and respectful relationship. Likewise, both inexperienced teens and veterans in the world of adventures and dating can learn to better express the love they feel towards an important person and build a lasting relationship.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Express yourself
Step 1. Show gratitude
Thanks to this attitude, you have the opportunity to enjoy various benefits, including the improvement of psychophysical well-being. You may not know, but it even reduces aggression and strengthens empathy. Your partner will likely interpret your gratitude as a manifestation of love.
Step 2. React even when you encounter a conflicting opinion
Men have a tendency to keep their thoughts to themselves and move forward in relationships by letting themselves be absorbed in other matters, thus risking being considered cold and detached lovers. Admit when you disagree with what you hear and react appropriately.
Step 3. Write a card or letter
A text, phone call, or email might be the easiest way to bond with your girlfriend, but if you take the time to write, mail, or hand deliver a letter, you will prove to her that she is such a person. important to deserve to receive a nice gesture from you.
Step 4. Put what you feel into words
Find within yourself the right words to express them in a unique and unparalleled way how much you love her. By conveying your feelings in this way, you will increase their value. Try starting in one of the following ways:
- "Sometimes I have a hard time telling you why what I feel about you is so strong, but I love you more than anything else."
- "There is nothing more beautiful than having you in my arms".
- "Every time I see you…".
Step 5. Always call her back, if only to tell her you love her
Unpleasant surprises greatly affect personal gratification. Therefore, spare your girlfriend some unpleasant surprises so as not to let her down.
On the contrary, a nice surprise will make her feel much more appreciated
Step 6. Be respectful when arguing
If your external girlfriend needs to continue a conversation, albeit unpleasant for your tastes, don't overlook this need. If you can't speak quietly, express your feelings by taking into account his or her mood.
Step 7. Tell her how much you love her
It is very easy for you to take for granted an absolutely true feeling on your part, such as the love you have for your girlfriend. Rekindle this truth by reminding him frequently.
Look into her eyes or catch an unexpected moment, perhaps when the lights go out in the hall before a film is shown, and whisper to her: "I love you"
Step 8. Ask her what she likes and what you can do to make her happier
Simply asking her this question will make her realize that you care about her happiness. You will be able to show her all your love by showing that you are attentive to her emotional well-being. Try asking her:
- "What are your unconfessed desires?". It may be helpful to know to comfort her when she is sad or when you want to surprise her.
- "If you could …, what would you like …?". This question is very useful for making future plans. You could spend an entire afternoon talking about exotic places to visit or what you always wanted to eat. Then use this information when planning a trip or buying her a gift.
Step 9. Make her feel important
Talk to her and ask her honestly how she feels. Often women communicate by confiding personal details and feelings that make them vulnerable. Answer her by clarifying what you feel.
Eliminate the phrase "How are you doing?" From your vocabulary. Be more direct, asking her, for example, "How was your morning? What did you eat for lunch? Was it good?" Once they get back to you, say what you think
Step 10. Listen to her and do your best to comfort her when she is sad
Even if you don't know what to say to her, hugging her or offering her a shoulder to cry on may be enough. While it is sometimes difficult to be close to a rather emotional person, you will prove to them that you are worthy of their trust if you stay close to them in times of difficulty. Therefore, it is important that you tell her:
- "Everything is fine".
- "Sometimes I feel the same way."
- "I'm here for you".
Step 11. Don't compare yourself to your ex
When communicating, it's natural and human to set up comparisons, but by comparing your girlfriend to your ex you risk putting her in competition with the person you've loved in the past.
Comparisons with previous partners have been shown to compromise intimacy and affection within romantic relationships
Part 2 of 3: Establishing Deep Attunement
Step 1. Make up jokes that only the two of you understand
In any relationship, it is important to strengthen the bond. Therefore, the stronger it is, the longer the relationship will last. A great way to relive the moments spent together is to create a way of speaking that is understandable only within the couple, in order to use it so that the partner remembers the good experiences they had together.
Step 2. Make her understand how much you appreciate her by having kind gestures towards her
Wash the sweatshirt she left at your house, buy nail polish in her favorite color, or bring her the flowers she loves. Any cute and unexpected gesture will make her feel appreciated and will also help increase your happiness.
Step 3. Offer to help her through difficult times
Even a simple gesture, like holding out your hand while taking a pebble from your shoe, will show her that you love her so much that it helps her solve any problem - big or small.
Step 4. Give her your sweatshirt and cuddle her
Smell is a sense strongly linked to memory. If you give her a garment imbued with your perfume, she will continue to think of you even when you are away.
Step 5. Limit distractions
Checking her phone every five or ten minutes when you go out together might give her the impression that her presence doesn't matter much, but also make her feel disappointed. If you have planned to spend a special day with her, try to set clear limits to stay focused on her. Here's how:
- Promising yourself not to use the phone, except in an emergency.
- Making sure you tell your friends that you plan to spend special moments alone with your girlfriend.
Step 6. Share interests and hobbies
This is quite an important aspect of bonding within the couple and promoting the building of a healthy relationship. Listen to your favorite songs, indulge in a sport together, such as tennis, or something completely new.
Don't sacrifice your happiness for your girlfriend's. A sense of resentment may arise against him and do you more harm than good. If you have no common interests, encourage her to do something while you find an activity you enjoy
Step 7. Listen to it actively
What couples frequently complain about is a lack of communication. As you speak, try to look into her eyes, react by using your body (nodding, smiling, gesturing) and give your opinion, summarizing what she said in your own words.
Active listening is sometimes difficult especially for men, as it conflicts with typical male communication strategies. If you want to learn more about this topic, try reading the article How to listen actively
Step 8. Buy her something personal
Better yet, make it with your own hands! By investing your time in a handmade gift, you will clearly show her how much you care. Personal gifts often have great emotional value and over time they can turn into memories that acquire great significance within the relationship.
Step 9. Laugh with her, not her
Even if her quirks amuse you, try to be sensitive enough to recognize when she feels uncomfortable. Take your time to explain your point of view, gently analyzing the source of the problem.
Always respect her limits, but by tactfully considering her discomfort, you will be able to make her understand how important it is for you to understand it
Step 10. Give her nice nicknames
The use of endearments is a symptom of a strong understanding in the couple. An affectionate appellation can increase the sense of emotional gratification. Take their opinions into account when looking for a nickname.
If you choose a pet name that bothers her, you risk offending her, especially if you laugh after saying it
Step 11. Accept it as it is, without trying to change it
Change has to come from within, and no matter your efforts, you can't force your girlfriend to change if she doesn't feel ready. If there is a particular problem that bothers you, work together to find a solution that is acceptable to both of you.
Step 12. Invite her out
There is no need to go to an expensive movie or spend a lot of money on organizing a picnic. However, by changing the pace and scenery, you will have the opportunity to live new experiences together. Sometimes it's very romantic to go back to where you first met. Alternatively, a walk in the park might give you time to enjoy being together.
Part 3 of 3: Communicating Through Body Language
Step 1. Always greet her with a smile on your face
Smiles are indeed contagious, and if she catches them on your face, she'll understand how excited you are to be with her. Some research also indicates that by smiling, we become more attractive.
Step 2. Try to prolong physical contact
Don't interrupt a hug as if you want to escape! Make your hugs last longer than usual and try to rest his head in the crook of your neck.
Physical contact with other people puts oxytocin, also called the "love hormone", into the blood. Therefore, prolonged contact produces more oxytocin, giving a sense of greater unity
Step 3. Hold her hand
This gesture has been shown to reduce stress. So why not put your girlfriend at ease by holding her hand?
Touch her gently to convey joy and generosity. Conversely, if the contact is firm and hard, he may feel selfish or aggressive on your part
Step 4. Comfort her with physical contact
Many have the ability to touch or caress people in order to calm them down. Look for this kind of contact in your girlfriend and use it to tell her you love her without using words.
Step 5. Give her a kiss from time to time
No need to aim for the lips! Forehead, nose and cheeks are excellent places to give a quick and tender kiss.
Step 6. Look deeply into her eyes
Eye contact is one of the most universal forms of communication. For a moment, try to look deeply into her eyes to remind her just how strong your love is.
Step 7. Hold her in your arms and kiss her on the top of her head
When you don't have much time, try hugging her partially or putting her in a quick hug by rubbing your hand on her back. However, a hug that communicates confidence, understanding, and sincerity will make her feel like the only woman in your life.
Advice
Try harder to convey to her how you feel about her. Remember that men and women communicate differently, so even if you have difficulty with her in that sense, you need to express yourself so that she can understand you
Warnings
- Don't make comparisons between her and your past relationships.
- Don't let your affection turn into a habit.
- Don't lie to her, even if it's for her own good. Sincerity and respect will benefit both of you over time.
