Often in life we feel sad about things that are beyond our control. It can happen that a close friend passes away or we suffer the loss of a family member. Not everyone is able to express what they feel. Some can't talk to their parents, and others think that hurting themselves is the only way to express what's inside. There are other ways to express pain. The steps you find written below are good guidelines to follow.
Steps
Step 1. First, know that crying is not a sign of weakness
Cry freely! Repressed emotions lead to greater future emotional fallout. Crying refreshes the eyes and washes away suffering. (Note: This is a metaphor. Crying does not wash away suffering in the strict sense).
Step 2. Keep a journal
Whenever you feel sad or mired in pain, write a few lines about your feelings in a journal. When you feel better you can look back at your words and think "How did all this pain make me stronger?".
Step 3. Find someone to talk to
Look for someone you trust. If you feel comfortable talking to this person and if they can listen to you and understand your pain, then they are the right person to turn to.
Step 4. Try to trace the root cause of the sadness
Is it due to a particular person? If so, avoid it. If a person is the cause of your depression, it is not worth talking to him or her.
Step 5. Analyze the reasons for your crying
If you are jealous of someone, try to understand this reaction and whether it is worth feeling sad.
Step 6. Give yourself time to grieve
If sadness is caused by the death of a loved one, then it will take a little longer to pass. Feeling sad about the loss of a loved one is perfectly healthy, so be aware of it and live one day at a time. Crying is completely normal at times like this. It will also help you to talk about it trying to express all your feelings.
Step 7. Relieve some pain through art
Express what you feel and what you are going through in the form of a poem, song, story or picture.
Step 8. Gather the courage to experience what's really inside you; the courage of an open heart
Step 9. If your sadness is related to a relative who is no longer there, don't forget about him or her, but keep items that remind you of him / her [photos, videos, favorite songs, etc
].
Step 10. Is it for love reasons?
Do you like someone but don't have the courage to tell them? Write letters, emails, messages, save them as a draft and read them every day.
Advice
- Crying sometimes helps. After a good cry it often feels better. However, stay with your head held high!
- If you are considering suicide, know that this is not the only option left to you. There are many resources you can use to deal with your emotional pain. Killing yourself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
- Talk to a friend who is willing to help you. Find a relaxing place and let it out with him by talking about your emotions. Don't be hesitant but get straight to the point, especially if you know that talking to him will help you.
- If someone's actions or expectations make you emotionally upset, try to talk to that person. You will find that talking about what you are going through emotionally is of great help.
- You should write in your journal every day, even if you feel less sad. This way you can better manage your emotions and thoughts before falling back into an abyss of sadness again.
- If it seems to you that the only way to find pain relief is to hurt yourself, try following the advice given above. Talk to a trusted parent or friend and you may feel very relieved afterwards.
Warnings
- Think about who is around you when you try to release the pain (listening to blaring music, throwing an object, etc.). Don't take your anger out on someone who has nothing to do with it.
- This article is about sadness! If you are angry, there are different solutions.
