It's always nice to daydream and fantasize in our minds about the things we wish we had or events we would like to happen. Sometimes, however, it is not easy to face the harsh reality. Here's how to avoid living in the dream world and come to terms with the real one.
Steps
Step 1. Wake up
When you are in a public place, such as the office or school, it is important that you stop daydreaming and concentrate. Even if it seems pleasant to think about your plans for after work or school, the things you want or your daydreams, it is important that you understand that focusing is very important. It is essential to pay close attention to the important task you have to perform and leave the fantasy until you are done.
Step 2. Keep reveries to a minimum
While it's always nice to fantasize about things like situations involving your favorite movie or television actors or things you want to happen, like a promotion or a date with someone you're infatuated with, you need to avoid dreaming with eyes. open more than they should. Don't let your fantasies rule your life and make you forget the difference between what's real and what's not.
Step 3. Value what you have
Dreaming of things we want or need is acceptable at times, but it can often make us feel sad and stupid because we don't own those things. Fantasizing about a date with someone special, dreaming of getting a better job or getting better grades in school is fine and, at times, it can serve to combat stress and motivate us to achieve those milestones, but, other times, it only serves to depress us. Dreaming of having a large sum of money in the bank when you are poor can make you feel really uncomfortable with yourself, for example. Don't dream of being a different person than you are. Treasure what you have, what heaven has given you and who you really are. Appreciate the simple things in life and value them right. Keep these considerations in mind and think positively.
Step 4. Accept yourself as you are
Sometimes we start fantasizing mainly to escape from ourselves. Many people who are used to daydreaming do so to imagine situations where they are prettier, more successful, and overall better than they are in the real world. Often one gets trapped in these dreams to the point of starting to feel bad about themselves and uncomfortable with their means. Instead of acting like this, cut your fantasies and start doing things that make you gain more self-esteem, like writing a positive note about yourself every day and blocking all negative thoughts before they can get into your head. You are who you are, and dreaming of being someone you will never be will change nothing.
Step 5. Get busy
If you firmly believe that you can change something about yourself, don't hesitate to try! Imagining in your head how to do it for a while, when you are still not sure how to reach your goal, that's fine, but just imagining changing things without trying to get real change won't help you. Face reality and try to overcome the obstacles that stand in your way to the realization of your dreams one at a time, day after day. Even if the road ahead will be tough, it's always better to try to fight for your happiness than just dream about it and get nowhere.
Step 6. Break unreal fantasies and obsessions
Fantasizing about absurd things all the time or a large part of it is not a good idea. It could easily cause you to lose touch with reality and lock you into an unreal world of your own. Take as an example someone obsessed with Harry Potter who dreams of joining that world while at school or even at work. It may sound nonsense, but it happens often. Many people empathize with a role and become obsessed with Japanese comics, books, or movies to the point that they let these things interfere with their everyday life. Daydreaming is not always bad, but spending time imagining living in a fantasy world is certainly not good. An important step to take in dealing with reality is to cut out those wholly unreal fantasies, such as being the protagonist of a Japanese comic, a ninja, or someone who has superpowers, in order to prevent these fantasies from appearing in your own. head take over.
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Be aware of the steps to take to achieve your goals. We all want to be better, but sometimes it is necessary to decide how "better" we can hope to become without being considered deluded. If you want to have more beautiful skin, consider the money you should spend, the research you should do, the doctors you should consult to solve your problems, and the change to your sleep cycle and diet. You need to be realistic in trying to get to your goal, and once you have considered all of these variables you are likely to need to scale back your goal.
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Advice
- Socializing with other people is important. It's a surefire way to escape the temptation to fantasize. Talking and chatting with friends, colleagues or schoolmates is a way to focus and stop thinking about imaginary worlds that only exist in your head.
- Remember that things like putting a character you created in a Japanese comic will never happen. Always having this hard and fast rule in mind will help you keep these kinds of fantasies at bay.
- Making new friends will help you daydream less. Lonely people who are not used to socializing with others have too much time available, which they usually fill by daydreaming and keeping everything inside; which is not good for him from a psychological point of view. Get out of the house, make new friends and always stay active!
- Live each day as if it were your last. If this were your last day on this earth, you wouldn't spend it daydreaming, right? Live every day as if you were to die tomorrow and live in touch with reality!
- Pay attention. Concentrate. For every person you know, there are aspects of their life that they reluctantly coexist with. The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is their ability to effectively assess each situation and take realistic countermeasures to change the things they don't like. You have to have a plan, put effort and time into it.
- Find something to focus on. Like signing up for school or saving up for that round-the-world trip. Or maybe, you might be more careful while doing your job.
