The best way to make a guy feel guilty is to work on yourself. When you have a really great time, others - including him - will notice and it will hurt them particularly. First of all, start overcoming your disappointment in love by letting yourself go to negative emotions. It's harder to hurt him if you're not doing well. After you process your emotions, have a chat with him to make him feel guilty. Finally, start a new life and put it on display before his eyes. Learn how to detach yourself, gain more self-confidence, and build a life that makes him feel guilty.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Overcoming the Pain
Step 1. Indulge in negative emotions
It is difficult, but this suffering will make you stronger and from that strength you will derive great benefits both in life and in future relationships. Negative emotions tell us that something is wrong and therefore it is necessary to make changes. It is important that we learn to listen to these signals. If a guy has broken your heart, deal with all the negative emotions that accompany your suffering, including sadness, fear, loneliness, regret, etc. You have to deal with chest pain, not bypass it, to learn from it.
- Don't try to avoid the pain by dating other people while you are still trying to process your emotions. This behavior could confuse you and end up hurting other guys you hang out with.
- You can keep thinking about him. If you try not to think, it may be even more difficult to keep your distance. Indulge in the memories and the pain and that may help you move on faster.
Step 2. Laugh and cry until you drop
If you are upset or upset about your relationship with this guy, do something that makes you laugh or cry. Go see a funny or sad movie with a friend, rent a DVD and stay at home with a pack of kleenex, or go out with a friend who makes you laugh or offers you a shoulder to cry on.
- Crying can help you eliminate the stress hormones your body generates, while laughter has short- and long-term beneficial effects on your health by calming tension, stimulating vital organs and relieving stress.
- The long-term beneficial effects of laughter are an increase in immune defenses, a good mood and a greater sense of satisfaction.
Step 3. Make a list of positive and negative aspects to evaluate the situation from a different perspective
If you have mixed or inconsistent feelings and feel like you're going crazy, it might be helpful to write down everything that makes you feel bad and good in reference to your relationship with this guy. After you have finished writing, examine the trend on both columns. What do they have in common?
- For example, you probably feel better when you throw away the items he gave you or when you delete his texts, while you feel worse after texting him.
- When you seem to be impulsive, consult your list to evaluate which column the action you intend to take might fall into, to get a different perspective.
Step 4. Do your favorite activities, even if you don't feel like it
Sometimes, after a disappointment in love, things that seemed funny to you are no longer funny, because they are not as exciting or interesting as the feelings for the boy who disappointed you. This reaction is absolutely normal. The best way to manage your suffering is to make new associations. Keep doing the same things you did before, even if they don't attract you at first.
Think about all the things you have put aside and arrange to do them again. Send a message to a friend and ask him if he is willing to go out with you, buy tickets for an event or send an e-mail planning something. If you plan ahead and involve other friends, chances are you won't back down
Method 2 of 3: Talk to Him
Step 1. Make an appointment with the boy
Let him know you want to cut ties with him. This is an important and healthy step in the end of the relationship. After you process your emotions, you should talk to him to explain everything to him so that he feels guilty. Ask him when he would be willing to have a chat with you alone. Make an appointment in a place where you will not be disturbed and you can meet face to face.
If he doesn't want to talk to you, you can write him a letter. You can write down the same things you would tell him in person. Don't give it to him, set it aside or throw it away. The most important thing is to write it down
Step 2. Wear cute and seductive clothes
You need to feel confident and make him feel bad about what he did, so wear something nice. Guys like simple, yet intriguing and cute clothes. For example, opt for a pair of jeans that highlight your shape and a nice blouse that matches your skin tone perfectly. Pair with a pair of plain earrings for an elegant and attractive look.
Do not wear excessively tight or low-cut clothing. You do not want to give the impression that you are trying at all costs to make him suffer
Step 3. Do your hair and make-up
Choose a simple but cute hairstyle. For example, you could wear your hair half up and half down so that I can frame your face. Guys also like loose hair. After washing and drying your hair, straighten it with a straightener or curl it with a curling iron.
Guys like a natural look, so don't go overboard with your makeup. Put some eyeliner on the upper lids and apply a black mascara on the upper lashes. Apply a concealer slightly lighter than your skin tone under the eyes and on any skin imperfections, smoothing it out carefully. Add a touch of lip gloss and put some blush on your cheeks
Step 4. Try to smell good
Guys like girls who smell nice, so start with a shower with a good bubble bath. Then use a deodorant with a pleasant fragrance. Finally, spray some of your favorite perfume on your wrists, neck and hair.
- Limit yourself to a light sprinkle on each of these spots.
- Use a perfume that awakens the memory of you in him.
Step 5. Tell him about the aspects of your relationship that you are grateful for
Being positive will make you look mature, prepared and cold, which will make him feel guilty. Before starting the conversation, try to think about a couple of things that you are truly grateful for or that you learned when you were together.
- For example, maybe you had an unforgettable experience when you went to the beach or went hiking together, or probably, thanks to your relationship, you managed to overcome difficult trials, such as the death of your uncle, or perhaps with his help you learned to communicate and understand yourself better.
- Think about how to quickly and precisely say what you are grateful for. You probably wouldn't like to end up in tears, so decide in advance what to say.
Step 6. Explain that your relationship no longer makes sense to you
Honesty and frankness will make you seem confident and in this way you will earn her esteem, because you will show that you know what you want. Don't blame him for the way you feel, but show him your point of view. Communicate the emotions that arise from your relationship.
- You can say something like, “For the past few months, I've been feeling lonely, neglected and sad. I understand that this relationship is draining my energies and not allowing me to recover them. I have to turn the page”.
- Don't try to make him feel guilty about your emotions. Let him know that you need these to end the relationship.
- Don't go into details. You simply have to give him an overall view of what's going on on your part. If you are too specific, you could make him vulnerable. Remember that you don't want to be emotionally involved while chatting with him.
- Don't try to solve problems with him. The purpose of this conversation is to let off steam, so you can move on.
Step 7. Explain to him why you wanted to talk to him
Be honest and direct. Tell him you want to end the relationship so you can move on. Hearing it, he will feel guilty for what he did. Also tell him that you wanted to talk to him to wish him good luck. Also tell him how you intend to act when you meet him in the future. For example, if you are part of the same party, you could explain to him that it is okay to meet him at parties and greet him when you go out together to go somewhere.
If you are embarrassed to meet him, you could say something like, "For the moment I need my space, so I prefer not to go out often with our group of friends."
Step 8. Ask him if he has anything to say
Listen to him and try to understand his feelings, while keeping some distance. You can be courteous to keep your distance and be kind at the same time. You might say something like, “Thank you for sharing your feelings with me. I appreciate that you agreed to meet me and I am really happy that we were together”.
She will be saddened more if you show yourself kind and willing to listen to him rather than hateful and indifferent
Step 9. Decide how and when to end the conversation
If you are the one who ends the conversation, he will be more attracted to you, because he will understand that you are in full control of the situation. Take advantage of a break to leave, after you have said yours and he has his. This is important to avoid getting back together after having this chat.
- Tell him you have to go and thank him once again for agreeing to see you.
- You could say goodbye with a touch of cheerfulness by saying something nice, but short. For example, you could say: "You are a good man, Carlo Rossi". This can help ease the tension and leave you goodbye on a positive note.
Method 3 of 3: Turn the Page
Step 1. Detach yourself from him emotionally
The detachment will make him miss the moments spent together. the best way to keep your distance is to stop using it for joy or fun. This means avoiding trying to date him or texting him about things that make you think about him, for example.
- Posting has a different meaning for each person, based on the needs of your situation.
- For example, you could continue to speak to him in certain situations, when it is appropriate. Sometimes it is impossible or difficult to completely stop meeting and communicating with a person.
Step 2. Make him feel your detachment
When he talks to you, you look indifferent and respond courteously, but without dwelling on it. Don't behave in the usual way, treat him like an acquaintance. That way he'll feel more guilty than when you don't talk to each other at all.
Step 3. Write down your strengths, interests and strengths
You want him to understand that you are special, but you need to realize it too. Sometimes, after forgetting someone, it is difficult to remember who you are. Sometimes you are unable to be enthusiastic about your personality, because you feel sad in general. It would not be realistic to expect to feel great after a disappointment in love, however you should remind yourself of the reasons why you are fantastic.
- For example, you can write that you are very good at helping friends and family, that you have a good laugh and that you have a strong sense of humor.
- If you can't list the things you're good at, you should make a list of your interests to bring back the things you love. Sometimes this process helps you remember what works best for you.
- Give yourself a few minutes to reflect. Once you start working on this, you may be surprised at what you have to offer; if you don't give yourself enough time, you'll end up feeling even worse.
Step 4. Highlight your strengths
If you want him to feel guilty, flaunt your amazing skills. If you are an excellent dancer, for example, go to dance in a place that he also frequents and dance with other guys. Feel proud of your strengths and try to have fun instead of thinking about him, and he will most likely feel guilty.
Step 5. Practice physical activity to cheer you up and feel better about yourself
This is very useful if you are feeling sad or depressed and need an energy boost. If you're trying to move on, it's okay to exercise regularly. It will help you keep your weight under control, sleep better and raise your energy level. It may also help you distract yourself and look at the situation from a different perspective.
- Constant physical exercise could be very simple. By increasing your heart rate for at least twenty minutes, you will radically improve your mood and speed up your metabolism. Every night go for a run around the block or a brisk walk with the dog or with a friend of yours, for example.
- Plan your workouts. Take the time to train in advance and think about the various ways to reward yourself after training. For example, you could go for a run before your favorite TV show, to be more motivated to run.
Step 6. Show off your new curves with cute dresses
Don't overdo it, but be simple, fresh and pretty. For example, she wears a dress that leaves her legs uncovered and a pair of ballet flats that makes them look more toned.
Step 7. Build a new world and invite your ex to see it
It will take a long time, but if you take small steps to find interests, people, places and things to dedicate yourself to, over time you can find a new sense of belonging. Don't try to reinvent yourself; take advantage of what you already have and find the right way to connect with a new world that he is not a part of.
When you have established your new world, show it to him. You can post messages on social media, take your new friends to parties where he is too or tell him about your new interests when you meet him
Step 8. Fall in love again and let him know
After working through your previous relationship, the best thing to do to move on is to find someone else to love. Don't force things, but be prepared for when that happens. Get involved, go dancing, hang out with your friends, and talk to people you're interested in. Then hang out at places he'll see you and have fun with your new boyfriend in front of him.
- Thanks to the experience gained and your new attitude, you will be even more prepared to face a relationship.
- If you are still friends on social networks, post something about your new relationship so that they know you have a new boyfriend.
Advice
- Think positive. He will appreciate this quality.
- Try to look and smell nice. Guys love girls who smell good.
