Relationships at this stage of life are less serious. Don't worry if you don't go out with anyone or if you go out with someone and break up after a week. It's really a game, but if you think you like someone enough to try to take this step and go out, you have to do your part to be a good girlfriend.
Steps
Step 1. Don't be bossy with your boyfriend
As you know, girlfriends can be sensitive, but boyfriends can be too, so don't be mean to him. If you find that you are almost always mean to each other in your relationship, then it would be best to think about whether your relationship is working out.
Step 2. Make him feel good about himself
Give him little compliments, a little show of jealousy, whatever makes him feel good. Make him win at a game where you always win, etc. Every boyfriend is unique, so you need to think about what would make him happy.
Step 3. Be yourself
He chose you, not some other girl. Let him know the real you and don't be afraid, because if he doesn't like the real you, then that's not good for you anyway.
Step 4. Be loving
Your boyfriend loves it when you try to hug or cuddle him. Don't think "Maybe my boyfriend doesn't like him because he's so embarrassed." He is probably a very shy guy. This gives you the opportunity to pamper him. You just have to be careful that he feels comfortable. If not, don't do it, it doesn't help if they don't like it or feel comfortable.
Step 5. Give them some space
Guys feel suffocated if you don't give them enough space. You don't like being followed or forced to talk to one person all day, or even your boyfriend! But remember, every boyfriend is different, so try to feel how close you two would like to be.
Step 6. Ask him questions about your relationship, if you have any
Even if you worry that they will be embarrassing, remember that they will prevent extremely awkward and uncomfortable situations from happening in the future, so it is definitely worth it.
Step 7. Talk to him
A relationship is about communication. If you don't talk to each other, how will you ever let them know your feelings and thoughts?
Step 8. If he's not looking at you all the time or isn't paying too much attention, it could mean he's a little shy or doesn't know what to do if you catch him looking at you
Just because he's not looking doesn't mean he's not thinking. Don't expect constant attention; he has a life outside of your relationship. If he's a little shy, go and talk to him; it is possible that he likes it and that he can open up more with you.
Step 9. Make him feel like he's the most important thing in the world to you (and he probably is, right?
). Let them know. Also, if you think something is going on between you, talk about it! A few words could save a situation. Even if you're not brave enough to do it in person, text him or chat with him. While not ideal, it's best to say everything before the relationship ends with a broken heart.
Step 10. Say no to any bad decisions he makes and let him know that you care about him
He will thank you later.
Step 11. Don't make him fight for you, some guys don't like it
Step 12. Kiss him when you feel like doing it (don't ask him for a kiss)
Step 13. Go see him, meet his parents and make him interested in you
It will make the relationship last longer.
Step 14. Don't tell him things you don't feel, like “I love you”, unless that's true
If you say it and then leave it, it is likely that it will feel used.
Step 15. Express your feelings towards him from time to time
Let him know how you feel and why.
Step 16. Be honest and respectful
Step 17. Surprise him with something
Be creative!
Step 18. Don't try to piss him off
Guys may go so far as to say things out of anger that they may regret later.
Step 19. Don't make him feel sad or out of sorts
Step 20. Don't betray him
This will make you look mean and if you want to leave it, it is best to tell him directly.
Step 21. Don't criticize his friends or family
Step 22. Try not to end messages with “I love you” when they are not directed to him or your family
Could misunderstand.
Advice
- Make sure they like you because of your personality, not just your looks.
- Make sure you don't bore him with the relationship. Do something fun every now and then! And don't forget to show him that you care. Curl up on him or rest your head on his shoulder. It's not embarrassing, you're showing that you care.
- Try to appear pleasant, but not vulgar.
- Keep in touch with him if either of you is sick or traveling, or even if you are not! It's always okay to talk a lot.
- Don't feel like you have to do something you don't want. If you're not ready to kiss him, or whatever, don't. If he is pressuring you, tell him about it. Tell him how you feel, honestly but sweetly.
- Make sure the guy loves you, but don't be obsessive with them and don't bother him all the time.
- Joke with him, there is nothing sexier than a girl with a good sense of humor.
- If he's shorter than you, make sure you're not making fun of him.
- If you want to kiss him, but only when he feels comfortable. You don't want to put pressure on him.
- Be friends with his friends. That way, you can sit down to lunch with him without making him feel like he has to give up on his friends for you.
- Don't plan what you will tell him the next time you see him, it will make you feel stressed and block you.
- If the guy disagrees with you about something, don't get mad. Guys are often blunt when they have a negative opinion.
- If he doesn't get close to you, give him his space and let him get close when he wants to, otherwise you might seem too clingy.
- Do something creative every now and then to show him when you love him.
- If he's shy, be sure to try starting a conversation with him instead of waiting for him to take the first step.
- Make sure your friends like you so he'll want to go out with them.
- Don't go back with him more than once! He'll think you're desperate. And you can definitely live without him (you're in junior high, not college!)
- Make sure you're not being sarcastic with him.
- If the guy is always close to you and doesn't give you your space, talk to him quietly.
Warnings
- Don't betray him. It would be nonsense. In the meantime, if you find out, you've got yourself in a big mess. Second, it will make him feel like he is not good enough for you. Finally, if you are reading this article, chances are you want to be a good girlfriend, not just look like it.
- Also, when his friends want to go out with your boyfriend don't say no, encourage him and then he will know that you trust him.
- Be sure of yourself. Everything will work out. If you look for the bad in a person or hope for the worst, that's exactly what you will get.
- Don't be annoying. This may sound mean, but pestering your boyfriend for spending too much time with his friends can be annoying for anyone. If there is a problem in the relationship, talk about it openly.
- Don't get stuck on your boyfriend. Give him the space and time to absorb the fact that he is dating someone and one of these days he will get closer to you and be more comfortable.
- Don't criticize his friends or family. Even if you don't like them, don't tell them. He may take offense and leave you for it.
- Don't be obsessive. A few small gifts are nice, but don't go overboard until you buy matching outfits with your faces printed on them. Make sure you're not too sticky. He might leave you if he finds out you've drawn hearts and your names on everything.
