An erection is often welcome, but sometimes it occurs at inappropriate times. It is quite normal, especially for teenagers, to have random erections even without there being any exciting thoughts or situations. When this happens at school or while chatting with a girl you like, your main concern is probably to hide and stop her as soon as possible. While the best strategy is to wait, you can still take steps to make the erection go away as quickly as possible.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Think of Other
Step 1. Relax or use anxiety to your advantage
Remember that seemingly random erections are normal and shouldn't cause concern, plus there is a high chance that no one will notice them. Take a few deep breaths and stay calm. If you worry too much, you keep focusing on it and eventually it will be difficult to make it disappear.
- That said, anxiety can also come in handy in resolving the situation. Stress triggers the "fight or flight" reaction which redistributes blood flow throughout the body, including the legs and arms. This way the blood will drain away from the genitals and the erection should stop.
- For this reason, it is best not to worry about the erection itself, but to feel a little apprehensive about other things that will distract you and "undo" your problem.
Step 2. Try to focus on a complicated, non-sexual topic
You've probably heard the old joke that men don't have enough blood to flush their brains and penis at the same time; however, there is some kind of truth to this and distracting the mind can contribute to detumescence.
- Try to engage your mind on something other than sex, but don't try to forget about an erection. In other words, don't say to yourself: "OK, now I'm thinking about football and certainly not about my erection". Your problem will not go away until you have fully focused on another issue. Force yourself to engage in a job that requires a lot of mental focus: play an instrument, read, practice, or solve a math problem.
- If you can't get distracted by doing something, then try imagining it in your head. If you are at a social event where you can't get distracted without raising some suspicion, then visualize yourself doing something different. If you love to play the guitar, think about every little detail of this action: where you put your fingers, how you strum, how the music resounds.
Step 3. Change the air
Sometimes the best way to get distracted is to go somewhere else for a few minutes. If the erection was triggered by someone or something in the room, then it may be hard to stop until you leave. Give yourself five minutes to calm down and then return with renewed determination.
Ignore any sexual stimuli. Don't listen, watch, or experience anything that can be exciting. Distract your senses by engaging in tasks that require a lot of attention. If you can't stop noticing an attractive person sitting next to you, force yourself to immerse yourself in reading a book
Step 4. Get a little pain
No conscientious doctor would recommend that you harm yourself to stop a natural and harmless physiological process, but it is known that a minimal amount of pain can end a "stubborn" erection. So, as long as it causes you very little physical suffering (which works as a distraction), it's a method worth trying.
- For example, try to gently pinch yourself in the thigh. This is an easy-to-hide action that won't harm you severely, but it will hurt you just enough to get your attention elsewhere.
- If you're really desperate, some people recommend trying to nudge your testicle through your pants. Don't hit too hard or you could hurt yourself!
- Remember that it is never worth getting injured to stop an erection.
Method 2 of 3: Hiding the Erection
Step 1. Sit down
In this position the fabric of the pants curls in the groin area, so it will be difficult for other people to tell if the bulge is due to an erection or the crease of the jeans. Also, while sitting you can hide the groin area with your legs. Keep them close together or cross them to prevent an erection from noticing. This trick gives your problem time to resolve itself naturally.
In addition, the sitting position offers you many other possibilities to hide what is happening. For example, if you are at a desk or table, you can move the chair very close to hide your crotch. You can also cross your arms in your lap
Step 2. Cover the groin area
If the erection doesn't go away, try to buy some time by holding an object in front of your pelvis. You can cover yourself with a book, a laptop or a newspaper. If you are standing, try to keep a purse, backpack, briefcase, coat, or newspaper at waist height.
Whatever you choose, try to be discreet. Keep your "cover" as if everything were normal. Otherwise you would have the opposite effect and would draw attention to the area you are hiding
Step 3. Insert the penis into the elastic of the waist
If the erection does not go away, try quickly and discreetly to move the penis with one hand. Try to put it under the waistband of your pants or underwear. This way it will line up with the zipper or seam of your pants and your erection will be less noticeable.
- If you are wearing a shirt that is tucked into your pants or that doesn't go over the waistline, then be very careful with this technique. If the shirt were to lift, you could accidentally "show your thanks".
- Remember that although this trick allows you to hide your erection, friction with the tissue may inadvertently turn you on more.
- Some people prefer to move their penis down against their thighs. It's all about personal preference and convenience.
Method 3 of 3: Accelerate its Disappearance
Step 1. Try to find some relief from the discomfort
Depending on the situation you are in, the fit of the pants may make your erection worse. Try to loosen them discreetly. Sit behind a table or desk and unfasten your seat belt. If necessary, partially open the buttons or the zipper to give the erection more "space" and decrease the pressure.
- Take into consideration where you are. Try not to get noticed, you certainly don't want people to think of you as some kind of pervert.
- If you have some privacy, try placing a cold pack on your groin (on the outside of your pants) to relieve some of the discomfort and allow the erection to disappear. If you've already swam in cold water or went out in shorts on a freezing day, then you know that the penis and testicles tend to retract towards the warm body.
Step 2. Take a warm bath or exercise
Although the classic cold shower is considered the typical remedy for "letting go" of sexual arousal, a hot bath actually allows you to relax in a comfortable environment and could easily dampen an erection.
- Light exercise, such as a walk on the treadmill or some aerobic activity, is a great distraction that also redistributes blood flow.
- These alternatives are often used as first remedies in a case of priapism, during which blood stagnates in the shaft of the penis. If you have an erection that lasts longer than 4 hours, regardless of the cause, go to the emergency room immediately. If not treated quickly, priapism could lead to permanent damage including, but not limited to, erectile dysfunction.
Step 3. Urine
It is certainly not easy to pee during an erection, but sometimes it helps to make it go away. Urination generates a pleasant and relaxing sensation in the groin which makes the erection less "tense" or "urgent".
Waking up in the morning with an erect penis is a very common experience for men of all ages. This happens regardless of the presence of erotic or exciting dreams. Despite the objective difficulty of hitting the toilet bowl with an erection, remember that urination can often stop it quickly
Step 4. Masturbate
When it shows up, the most effective way to make it disappear is to bring it to its natural conclusion. Except in the case of medical conditions, ejaculation almost always causes an erection to cease.
- Move away discreetly and find an intimate area, bathroom, bedroom, or other place where you are sure not to be disturbed. Do what you have to, clean up and return to other people, ready and relaxed.
- Don't masturbate in public. If you are in a place with other people and you have an erection, go to a private place to meet your needs. A lockable public toilet cubicle may be fine, as long as you are quiet and don't make it obvious what you are doing. Public masturbation is illegal in many countries, and you could offend others if you're not careful.
Advice
- Know that it is completely normal to have erections at inappropriate times. It is the way mother nature has "programmed" the male organism and you are not the only guy that this happens to. If other men notice your erection, they should know that it is absolutely natural.
- You don't have to be ashamed of getting an erection when you hug or kiss an attractive person! It is a natural and normal reaction.
