Anyone can have communication problems. The reasons vary from person to person and based on situations, but you shouldn't worry if you notice it happening to you too. A few more frequent mistakes can make it difficult to understand, but you can learn to be more aware of what you do and say (or don't say!). Read on from the first step following the introduction to learn how to better convey your message.
Steps
Step 1. Think before you speak
If you think about what you say before you speak, you have a chance to organize your thoughts, test your words, evaluate the situation and don't say anything stupid.
Step 2. Speak openly
If you don't express your needs, you won't be able to get what you want. Therefore, say what you want clearly and loud enough for you to hear.
Step 3. Be clear
Express your message as simply as possible. Don't digress and don't fill it with too many details.
Step 4. Avoid 'uhm', 'uhm' and 'you know what I'm saying'
Of course, we all stumble at times as we search for the right words. But if you slow down and pay attention to what you say, you will be clearer.
Step 5. Be polite
If you interrupt other people, you are being rude and disrespectful. You will not effectively communicate anything other than the fact that you are an idiot.
Step 6. Get the attention of others
If you don't get your interlocutor's attention, you won't be able to communicate your message. Make eye contact and make sure the other person is listening to you.
Step 7. Get organized
If you are trying to communicate, you need to be sure that you are effectively giving information to those in front of you. If you are planning an event, you need to provide the important details, such as the venue, times and what people need to bring.
Step 8. Listen
If you don't listen to the other person, you risk having communication problems. Listening carefully is often more important than talking.
Step 9. Don't take anything for granted
This is the most common presumption that people tend to have. And it is also the most disastrous. If you do not speak, you cannot be entirely sure that your interlocutor knows what you are thinking or what you are feeling.
Step 10. Understand the body language
Much communication is non-verbal. Be careful - it can be very important.
Step 11. Refresh the memory of others
Check if those in front of you have understood you and get to know what they need. While going to that party is the most important thing on your weekend plan, it may not be the same for a friend of yours. And people can be distracted. If you are disappointed that others do not consider your priorities, remember to take some responsibility.
Step 12. Learn communication skills
If you have the opportunity to take courses in writing, Italian, oratory, theater, computer programming and languages, know that they are all excellent means of acquiring communication skills.
Advice
- Try not to be sarcastic in chats, messages or emails without the use of emoticons, otherwise you risk being misunderstood.
- Eye contact can make you uncomfortable. Try looking at the bridge of your interlocutor's nose. You will have the same effect and you will get the same information.
