Have you ever had a crush on a girl who was already dating someone else? It is not your fault that you have fallen in love with someone who is already committed. All you need to do is have respect for his relationship status and avoid engaging in dangerous tactics that can ruin his current relationship.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Becoming Her Friend
Step 1. Get informed
If you don't know much about her, ask someone who knows her well what she likes. It's not hard to find out if you have mutual friends. Knowing what interests her may help you focus on the things you have in common.
For example, you may find that he loves the same genre of movies that you like. Try not to miss the movies that come out in theaters so that you have something to talk about when you meet her
Step 2. Stay with her when you go out in a party
Some people can become friends instantly, while others need time to connect. Try to create an emotional bond by dating, having fun together and gradually gaining confidence. If you both have a party, go out of your way to talk primarily to her. She will probably feel flattered or at least willing to have a chat with you in the face of the interest you show her.
Realize that it won't happen suddenly. You will certainly have to spend a lot of time together
Step 3. Show her that you care
Let her know that you are available if she needs someone to talk to. If she comes to you for support, listen to her and stay by her side. You don't have to confess your love or put her boyfriend in a bad light. Instead, chat with her, ask her for her opinion on something, or talk about what's going on in her daily life.
Only by paying attention to her can you make her understand that you care. This will nurture the feeling of friendship she has towards you, even if she is already committed
Step 4. Be patient
It will probably take some time before a friendship is born. Don't put pressure on her to have a relationship with her. Instead, learn to enjoy his company. You may be good friends for a while, or she may break up with her boyfriend and decide to start a relationship with you.
Remember that if you want to be a friend who can support her, you need to encourage her to reconsider her current relationship. This way he might realize that you would be a better partner
Step 5. Be yourself
When you like a girl, you might think that the best tactic to win her over is to turn into the kind of man she's attracted to. For example, if you play a variety of sports while you don't care about being athletic, don't pretend that you enjoy working out or exercising. You should be honest, so that she accepts you for who you are and is interested in starting a real relationship with you.
If you are not sincere, you will weaken the emotional bond you are building with her. Moreover, when you are no longer willing to pretend, you may regret your staging
Part 2 of 3: Encouraging Her to Express Her Feelings to You
Step 1. Spend some time alone with her
If you want to be with her, you don't need to ask her for an appointment. In fact, it could be less "stressful" for her if you simply invite her to do something together, without labeling these things as a gallant encounter. If she is always willing to spend some time with you, she may return your interest too.
For example, you could go out for coffee, buy some CDs, go to the market or just go shopping
Step 2. Make romantic gestures
Think about what she likes and come up with something out of the ordinary. The most classic gesture is to give flowers or dedicate a poem. However, depending on her tastes, you might add a hint of originality to the romance. For example, if you are fond of unique works of art, try painting a picture.
Don't worry if your gift is inexpensive or doesn't have the same quality as a work of art. The important thing is that you demonstrate the feelings you have towards him
Step 3. Make some suggestions to let her know that you consider her more than just a friend
When you are together, tell her that you enjoy her company. Let her know that you also have fun in a group, but emphasize the moments you spend alone. You may also want to emphasize how important her presence has become or how strong your feelings are for her.
If the idea of giving her too direct directions makes you anxious, consider texting her or calling her. Using an electronic device to communicate these kinds of things may take you more courageous. This will also give her some time to manage her emotions and respond to you
Step 4. Observe how she responds to your flirting
Do this every now and then and see how he reacts. If she smiles, teases, teases, or laughs, she may be involved. These are all signs of interest in starting a relationship. If he treats you coldly, tells you to stop, or seems uncomfortable, take a step back.
You can continue to be around her, but if she doesn't react positively to your courtship, you should consider letting go. If she likes to flirt, pay attention to her and try to spend more time with her
Part 3 of 3: Ask her for an appointment
Step 1. Think about your needs
Before you get too attached to or get involved in a relationship, ask yourself what you hope to achieve. Do you just want to make a good friendship because you think you have a lot in common with her? Or do you want to get engaged? Since she is already busy, you need to ask yourself:
- If you are willing to wait for your current relationship to end;
- If you are able to move on should she choose to continue being with her boyfriend;
- If you would accept the possibility of meeting a girl who is more willing to build a relationship.
Step 2. Decide whether to ask her for an appointment
If you've become good friends, you're probably wondering if your relationship needs to continue. If she is still engaged, do not propose to go out because it means that she has made her choice. If she broke up in the meantime, you may want to be prepared to ask her for a date or wait to see if she takes the initiative.
If you want to invite her out, think about how to proceed. Imagine what you have to tell her and how you will ask her
Step 3. Offer her an appointment
Keep your expectations low when you invite her out. Don't go straight from the romantic evening to the declaration of love. Such a situation could put her under pressure if she has just ended a relationship. Keep your optimism and confidence in yourself when you propose an evening together. You should also give her the choice of what to do.
For example, you might say, "I know you like Thai cuisine. Would you like to try the new restaurant they've opened in town tomorrow? Or would you rather go to a concert this weekend?"
Step 4. Respect his decision
If he answers no, don't fret, don't argue and don't insist. She may not be ready or interested in dating you as a potential boyfriend. Behave calmly and maturely if he refuses. She probably doesn't want to hurt you, so don't treat her badly and don't be rude.
If you don't know what to say, try: "Ok, it will be for another time. I respect your decision." This will show her that you like her, but also that you understand her state of mind
Step 5. Be honest with yourself
If she is still engaged despite your friendship, don't pretend you don't see her feelings. You might be good friends, but if he's still in a relationship, it means he prefers to be with the other person. Don't think that she is secretly in love with you or that she is waiting for a proposal from you.
