Finding out if a girl is interested in you can be exciting, but at the same time it can be frightening and confusing, especially if you like her a lot. If you write to each other, you can find clues to her true feelings within her messages. By paying attention to what, when and how he writes to you, you can understand a lot about how he really feels about you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Understand the Meaning of Your Messages
Step 1. Notice if he already knows a few things about you
If a girl is interested in you, she has probably already inquired about your life. By talking to friends and following you on social media, he may let you know that he already knows your hobbies and interests. This is usually a good sign.
Be careful, this signal can also indicate that she is interested in you as a friend and that she wants to get to know you better
For instance:
if he asks you about the photos from your last ski holiday that you posted on the internet, chances are he has feelings for you.
Step 2. Look for messages that create intimacy and strengthen your bond
When a person likes you, they will usually try to establish an emotional bond with you through written communication. The most likely thing is that he will pick a nickname for you and use it when you talk to each other. She may also try to strengthen your relationship by talking about an experience or interest you share.
- Does he write to you to remember a fun time at school or maybe to complain about homework or a particular question that is about to come? These signs may indicate that he is trying to create an emotional bond with you.
- Looking for a similar connection can also indicate interest in a friendship.
Step 3. Pay attention to compliments
Compliments and expressions of gratitude clearly indicate that the person you are talking to thinks highly of you. Messages like that can also let you know what she likes and what she finds attractive about you.
- Does he compliment you on your physical appearance? On your way of dressing? Does she thank you for doing a nice gesture for her today? You can learn a lot about a girl's opinion of you by paying attention to the characteristics she values.
- Compliments aren't always direct. If a girl texts you to share happy news with you, she's letting you know that she values you very much.
- If a girl writes to you to share something that reminded her of you, that's a positive sign, because it means you're in her thoughts.
Step 4. Pay attention to the questions he asks you and the information he shares
Text messages are a great, relatively low-risk, means of communication for two people who want to get to know each other better. When a girl writes to you describing her interests and preferences, pay attention to what she says, because she may be trying to find out if you have things in common. If she keeps chatting and asking you questions, she's probably interested in learning more about you.
- Answer her questions carefully and don't forget to carry on the conversation by asking her questions yourself.
- In general, this way of communicating is also great for forming a friendship.
Step 5. Notice if she often sends you short, vague messages
When a person likes you, they will usually want to share their thoughts, opinions, and learn more about you. Conversely, if the girl texting you only gives you short answers with no content or information about her life, she may simply not be interested.
If an exchange of messages leaves you confused, take a break. Try writing her again the next day to see if her behavior changes. If his tone remains cold and detached or if he stops answering altogether, turn the page
Method 2 of 3: Look for Non-Verbal Signs in Your Messages
Step 1. Consider the emojis it uses
When a girl sends you a bunch of emojis with hearts, she's probably interested in you. The more smiley faces you use, the better. By sending you those funny smilies, he lets you know he's bright and funny.
Some emojis, such as the face that sends a kiss or lips, are often used to indicate an interest that goes beyond friendship
Step 2. Analyze the memes he shares
If he sends you funny pictures, he probably tries to get your attention and bond with you. Memes are often comical, so if he shares one with you try to get a laugh with a reference that you both find hilarious or hope to make a joke that only you understand. Irony is a great way to approach people and strengthen a relationship. Also, he might try to find out if you share the same sense of humor.
Laughter and humor are important in many relationships, including friendships
Step 3. Note what time of day he writes to you
If a girl is looking for you late at night or just waking up in the morning, it lets you know that you are the first person she thinks of before falling asleep or when she gets up. He probably tries to make it the same for you too.
If she regularly wishes you "good morning" and "good night", chances are she likes you
Step 4. Notice if she sends you photos
Selfies or pictures of what he does during the day may indicate that he is trying to show you his world. By sharing what he does and what he sees, he tries to pique your interest. He may even ask you for advice or an opinion on the things he shows you.
If he sends you pictures of his day, he probably tries to make you understand that he thinks about you and wants to involve you in his life
Method 3 of 3: Ask Directly
Step 1. Ask her if she is busy and discreetly suggest that they do something together
By naturally proposing to her to spend time together, you eliminate some of the anxiety and worry you may feel at the thought of asking her directly about her feelings for you. For example, you can ask her what she is doing tonight or on the weekend. If she hasn't made any commitments yet, you can tell her what you'd like to do and ask her if she wants to accompany you.
- If she tells you she is busy, she may not be interested or really have a commitment. Ask her if she is free another day and if she would like to do something together, considering her answer.
- For example, you can ask her, "What are you doing this weekend?" If she answers "Nothing" or "I thought I was going to the cinema", you can say "I wanted to see a movie, would you like to go together?".
Step 2. Follow his directions regarding exits
If she writes about a restaurant she really wants to try, a question that scares her, a movie she wants to see or a school event, like a party or prom, she probably wants you to ask her about it. Continue the conversation with a discreet invitation to do something that interests her, with you.
- For example, if she told you she'd like to try the new pizzeria she's opened in the neighborhood, tell her you're curious too and suggest they go together.
- If she has written to you about a school event that is coming up, tell her that you are looking forward to attending too and ask her if she wants to go with you.
- He could write to you about the next question on a subject that you follow together. This is a great opportunity to invite her to study with you.
Step 3. Try to be clear and direct
All the other methods have not worked and you still haven't found out if this girl likes you? Ask him directly! If she really likes you, she is unlikely to answer "no". Depending on how bold or confident you feel, you can first let her know you like her, then ask her if she likes you back.
- By making the first move, you take a lot of pressure off her; she might appreciate it, especially if she's shy.
- Be prepared for rejection. Humans are complex, and even if you've noticed all the right signs, it's possible she's still telling you she doesn't like you.
- Regardless of his answer, with the direct approach you will understand with certainty how things stand between you.
Step 4. Take her at her word
While it is possible that a girl may not have a clear idea of her feelings or is unwilling to go beyond exchanging seductive messages with you, no means no. If she tells you she doesn't like you, even if you think she has given you mixed signals, you need to respect her word and move on.
If you ask her a direct question and get no response, it's a strong sign that she isn't interested. Disappearing is never elegant behavior, but it's not uncommon for people to stop responding when they feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or guilty about rejecting someone
Advice
- Don't pay too much attention to the time it takes to get back to you. She may be busy or not having her phone in sight. In general, the quality of the answers matters more than the timing.
- If you don't like a girl who has a soft spot for you, don't ignore her, because you can hurt her a lot. Let her know in a polite and direct way that you are not interested.
- It is possible that a girl who texts you just wants to be your friend. If you find it too difficult to decipher her messages, you can ask her calmly and directly how she feels about ending the wait.
- When you write to someone you create a written record of your interaction, which can be shared with other people. For this reason, save the most sensitive information for in-person meetings, so you can be sure your words remain private.
- A nickname is always a good sign. If she calls you by a name she doesn't use for anyone else, you can assume she's at least partly interested in you. If he replies right away, that's a positive sign.
