Your personality changes several times over a lifetime. Even if you don't notice it, older behaviors take root as you grow up. The key to improving your personality is to change behaviors to reinforce the positive sides of your character and to limit the negative ones. Grab a pen and paper and get ready to introspect.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Identifying Character Traits
Step 1. Sit down and list your positive personality traits
Try enumerating them to see how confident you are that you have one quality rather than another. For example, character traits can include listening, openness, expressiveness, introspection, reflection, or intelligence.
Step 2. List your negative traits
These are the things that people tend to react to or the things you think might get in your way. For example, shyness, anger, talkativeness, prejudice or nervousness.
- Consider that what is positive and what is negative is subjective in this scenario. Some might think that being too open or talkative is a good thing. Changes in one's personality should be based on individual opinions and wishes regarding self-improvement.
- This list is probably harder to make than the first one. Take the time to consider how you interact with others and with yourself, since maybe this is where you want to start your change.
Step 3. Check out anything you don't want to change
You can't change everything about your personality.
Step 4. Put a star on anything you want to improve or change
Maybe you are smart, but you want to get even brighter.
Step 5. Prioritize the choices marked with stars
It's best to go slowly to change behaviors, changing only one personality trait at a time by practicing and engaging.
Part 2 of 3: Changing Behaviors
Step 1. Choose a personality trait you want to change
For example, imagine you want to be less shy.
Step 2. List the behaviors that manifest your shyness when you are with other people
You can write down some situations, such as leaving the holidays too early, not interrupting, not giving your opinion, avoiding people, or refusing to help.
Step 3. Choose an opposite behavior to engage in
For example, apply for a new task at work or accept multiple invitations and appointments.
Step 4. Think of someone you value who has this character trait and emulate their behavior
It is easier to do this with a single personality aspect than with a whole group of characteristics, since each subjectivity is unique. However, you can learn a lot from people who have positive behaviors in their daily life.
Step 5. Remind yourself to keep these new behaviors
Come up with a new mantra, such as "I will be heard". Make a reminder on your mobile to interact more with people.
Part 3 of 3: Improve Your Person
Step 1. Maintain a positive attitude
Negative attitudes decrease self-confidence and the commitment to improve.
Step 2. Learn something new
Join an association, a course, a sports team or join a group. It's easy to go back to old ways with people who already know you. However, new acquaintances have no expectations, so trying to adopt a new behavior will be more promising.
Step 3. Go slow
You don't change overnight. Give yourself plenty of time and space for your behavior to turn into a better character side.
Step 4. Try to "pretend until it becomes reality"
In some cases, by acting as if you were a different person, you can make new friends, have positive attitudes, and achieve good results. Make sure your "simulation" lines up with your goals so you don't develop a negative trait.
Step 5. After a month sit down with the list you have compiled and take stock of what you have managed to achieve
Switch to a new look once you are well on your way to mastering the previous one. For example, if you've made a lot of friends and started sharing your views on work, maybe it's time to change a more negative personality trait.
