Being able to sleep curled up with your loved one is one of the main benefits of sleeping together. However, sometimes, spoon sleeping can cause your arm to "fall asleep" while your boyfriend or girlfriend travels quietly to the dream world. Instead of forcibly pulling your arm out from under your sleeping beauty's body, and thus risking scaring or waking him, you can develop some secret techniques that will allow you to free your finger arm without waking your partner.
Steps
Step 1. First of all, try to pry gently to free your arm from under your partner
If the arm is under your partner's neck or waist, you may be able to gently remove it and free yourself without waking your love by pushing the trapped arm towards the mattress and sliding it off of him or her. If it's in the right position (like your neck or waist), you should be able to.
Step 2. Use the "spoon and roll" technique if you can't easily free your arm
If the arm is truly trapped, use the spoon and roll method, which will make your love think that you are simply giving him / her an extra hug (when reality is saving your arm with pinched nerves):
- Pull your partner closer to you. Your partner will be closer to your body than the arm itself.
- Gently roll your partner away from you, in the direction he or she is looking. This way you will be able to remove your hand without waking him / her.
- While you are rolling, slide your arm from under your loved one and pass it under your body.
Step 3. Use the "shoulder hug" method
If the traditional spoon position isn't right for you, hug your other half while holding them to one side. Lie down next to your partner in the classic spoon position. Slide your upper arm over his body and the lower arm behind you. This method allows you to easily change positions during the night without waking the other person.
Step 4. Try the "unfolded arm" technique
Your partner will need to help you make this hug technique work, which can prove to be a win for both parties involved. Before going to bed, place the pillows about half a meter from the head of the bed. Your feet don't have to get out of bed - the extra space above your head serves as a "landing zone" for your arm. Get hugged but instead of putting your lower arm under your partner, slide it under the pillow so it's stretched out –– like it's ready to fly. Gently rest your other arm on top of your loved one.
Step 5. Also try the "chest-pillow" approach
Another way to save your arm from blood deprivation is to have your partner lie down with their head on your chest. This method usually works well for those with large pecs or large breasts:
- Both you and your partner should lie on your back.
- Ask your partner to come closer and rest their head on your chest.
- With your arm under your partner, hug him so that his body is positioned above your underarm area.
Advice
- Use a lot of deodorant or better still shower before bed, especially if you intend to use the chest-pillow method. Smelly armpits can be a little disconcerting to the non-smelly partner!
- To get the most out of the hug, put your dog, cat, pet snake, or children in their beds.
- Keep communication open about sleeping positions - find one that works for both of you.
- Invest in new pillows and possibly a body pillow if you continue to have trouble finding a comfortable position.
