Capturing a girl's attention is only the first step towards starting a relationship: at this point you have to keep her interest alive. You can earn a girl's trust and respect by being fun, kind, and trustworthy. In this article you will find some tips to show that it is worth having you by your side.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Keeping her Life Exciting
Step 1. Be an adventurer
A cowboy, Han Solo, James Bond. While he may not be looking for an adventurous guy, he certainly won't say no to someone who is willing to try new things and keep their life exciting. When all you do is sit on the sofa, it becomes difficult to arouse interest. You are not interested in yourself, she will lose motivation for you too. Solve this problem by going out and enjoying life. You don't have to run away and join the chorus, but engaging in activities of any kind will help keep the relationship interesting.
For example, outdoor activities and travel are an easy way to experience adventure. Try going for a hike in the mountains
Step 2. Pursue what she enjoys
She certainly has something that interests her. When you show her that you enjoy those activities too and that you are willing to go out of your way to help her cultivate that part of her life, she will be truly impressed. She certainly wants to be with someone who can understand her deeply and from whom she can have support. Find ways to help her pursue what she loves, and you can continue to keep her interested.
For example, if she really loves fashion, help her start a blog or vlog where she can give advice to others. You can take pictures of her and help her understand how to design a website. You can also make sure that both of you set aside time during the week to work on the blog, not by demanding too much of it or incorporating that time into your relationship
Step 3. Take on challenges together
This will certainly make life more interesting, but it will also help you feel closer and increase mutual trust. Facing challenges together is actually one of the most effective ways to build strong feelings between two people. Of course, it depends on who you are and where you are in your life. You might think about:
- Lose weight together or stay fit.
- Enter the same major college or university.
- Improve your grades and achieve a high average.
Step 4. Learn together
Learning together can be a great way to keep things interesting. This will will not only engage your brains, it will also give you more things to talk about and a greater chance of bonding. There are many different ways to learn together, and many are free. By choosing a subject that you are both interested in, you will also be able to have fun.
- You can watch educational videos online, such as TEDTalks or Crash Course on Youtube.
- You can take free online courses on sites like Coursera.
- You can also take lessons in university or local cultural centers on what you want to learn.
Step 5. Never let things become routine
One of the worst things that can be done in a romantic or friendly relationship is to let everything become routine. Eating at the same restaurant on the same day and going to the same shops in the mall every weekend gets boring. You will lose interest. Instead, avoid every routine in your relationship, from dating to sex.
- Take control of the situation and plan unconventional and spontaneous appointments in detail. It's a way to grab her attention and hit her with your creative side. Try something unusual from time to time, like geocaching or city volunteering to go planting.
- Be spontaneous. Kiss her when it happens, for no reason. Take her out in the middle of the week, just to change a little. Give her a simple gift (some flowers, a teddy bear, etc.) by surprise her at work or school. Being spontaneous shows that you are always thinking about how to make her happy, not just following a pre-established behavioral pattern.
Part 2 of 3: Think of yourself
Step 1. Develop who you are as a person
You have to be an interesting person if you want to keep her interested. Contrary to what Hollywood would like you to believe, this doesn't mean you have to be rich and save the world. Real people don't want all that interest in their life. Instead, just move on as a person. Keep growing, pursuing new goals, and letting your interest naturally change. Find new things to love and new ways to spend time every now and then. And never stop trying to make yourself a better person.
- For example, try taking one of your interests and making it a serious hobby. Take classes to improve your skills and then see if you can make a few extra bucks over the weekend doing the thing you love. You will be able to boast even more of your passion by showing her how to do it.
- It comes down to this: When you see you embrace life and develop who you are as a person, you see the passion you put into what you are doing… and the passion is super-sexy. Even when it comes to something "silly", like building model cars, she will still be impressed with the level of focus and detail you get.
Step 2. Respect it
Respecting her is essential to making you the guy she wants to be with. This is especially important as there will likely be several areas in her life where she will not be respected. Surely she will have met several guys who did not appreciate her except for her appearance. But you are better than that. You are going to show her every day how amazing and capable you think she is.
Evaluate his opinion and make sure he gives his input when it comes to the decisions you make together. Let her speak without interrupting her. Stable to hear. Never insult her or belittle her. Basically, follow the golden rule: treat her as you would like to be treated
Step 3. Always be kind to everyone, not just her
Being nice to her is pretty obvious, right? But being nice to other people is just as important if not more important. When you are rude to other people, especially 'weaker' than you, you send her the message that she might one day expect the same. If you talk behind your best friend's back, why can't you do the same to her?
A good bet is being able to be particularly nice to homeless people, waiters and people who go from door to door. These are the types of people you are usually really rude to. By being nice and generous to them, you will show her that your heart is qualitatively better than average
Step 4. Get their needs met once you are in a relationship
When in a relationship, focus on their needs in a balanced proportion. Many guys are particularly suited to being her friends, but they would be lukewarm in intimacy, forcing her to lose interest over time. On the other hand, other guys are sexually stimulating, but would not respond to his need for intelligence. If you can satisfy her in all areas, you can show her that you really are perfect.
- Satisfy his physical needs. We recommend that you focus on her pleasure and orgasms in bed. This doesn't mean you have to be a stud or well endowed. It's about using what you have. Talk to her about what she likes and show her that you are ready to learn and improve.
- Satisfy his emotional needs. It's about being supportive. Think about how to be a good friend. Talk to her, let her know that you are there for her and do what makes her happy.
- Satisfy his mental needs. Everyone wants to feel energized and engaged, even if they don't know it. You will be able to meet his mental needs by having serious conversations, trying new things together and doing interesting activities, such as one-off dates and traveling.
Step 5. Never stop trying
Never, never, never stop making that effort she is interested in. Don't stop trying to be sexy, don't stop trying to woo her, don't stop trying to impress her. When you stop trying, she will start to feel taken for granted and you certainly don't want to. Even if you are really confident in your relationship and mutual feelings, even if you have been married for fifty years, you should never stop trying to be her knight in shining armor again.
Part 3 of 3: Creating a Bond
Step 1. Maintain physical contact
Hold her hand. Play with her hair. Kiss her spontaneously. Try to maintain physical contact with each other during intercourse. It's easy to take that person for granted, especially if you've been together for a long time, but maintaining physical contact is very important in helping you maintain the bond you have.
Step 2. Talk about your relationship
You may feel embarrassed, especially if you're not used to it, but talking about your relationship is actually a lifesaver for your relationship. In general, it is a great bonding activity to make plans for the future and discuss what each one really loves about the other. It's also good, though, because it gives you a chance to find a solution to problems before they get too big to solve. This will give her a sense of stability that she may not be able to find with anyone else.
Create a safe, non-judgmental space where you both know you can be honest with each other without being laughed at or scolded
Step 3. Show her how much you believe in her
He is about to have his own challenges to face. She will fight with friends, have problems with her boss at work, and feel stressed about having to juggle more things than she feels she can handle. What you need to do is never let him doubt your confidence in his management skills. You know she is strong enough and smart enough to conquer all of her problems… so tell her that.
Say something like "I'm sorry you are dealing with Becca's tragedy. You shouldn't have felt compelled to do that, but it's one of the really great characteristics of you: you really know how to make people better. Now it's a tough situation. but you will help her a lot and for the rest of your life you will feel proud of all this help."
Step 4. Ask the right questions
When talking together, don't just touch the surface. Don't keep the conversation going about what you have been doing during the day. You don't have to know only his favorite color and middle name. You have to talk about things that really deepen your knowledge as a person. When it happens, a deeper, more real bond is created. Learn to ask many "what, why and how" questions:
- "What do you want for your future?"
- "Why are you avoiding your sister?"
- "How does it feel to have that specific job assignment?"
Step 5. Make sure you have time for just the two of you
Taking the time to be a couple is crucial to your relationship, no matter how long you've been together. Don't get caught up in everyday life without respite. Nothing in your life should be prioritized enough to stop you from stopping for at least an hour to prepare a nice homemade dinner together. She needs to feel that you will be there exclusively for her as often as you can.
