Relationship problems with a spouse, family, co-workers, or friends affect your growth, success, and personal well-being. If you value your relationships, you need to make good choices and commit to making them work. I sincerely believe that the following are actions you can start from to build strong and healthy relationships.
Steps
Step 1. Understand everyone's personal values
Misunderstandings and conflicts happen when our values collide with those of others, and when our expectations don't come true. You can let others know what your values are by telling them clearly. You can find out what theirs are by asking the right questions or by observing their actions. Knowing what is important to others and to yourself will avoid unnecessary conflicts.
Step 2. Learn to listen
Everyone wants to be taken seriously and appreciated. When you listen carefully without interrupting, you show respect. Allow people to tell you about the books they have read, the things they have done, and how they feel. Listening will give you the opportunity to learn about their values and expectations.
Step 3. Show kindness
You can smile, it's the simplest way to show friendship. Make others feel your warmth by offering help and kind words. Recognize their talents and achievements. Praise and appreciate their efforts. Demonstrate it with your tone of voice, bearing, and your actions.
Step 4. Avoid discussions
Eliminate ego and pride. In discussions, people want to prove something by using force, threats and intimidation, causing resentment. In these situations, no one actually wins or benefits. Take a step back and see the whole picture from a different point of view. You are not submitting, but you are trying to change the outcome by showing others that you are committing to the relationship. Look for a compromise. Forgive people when they make a mistake. If you're the one making a mistake, admit it, and sincerely apologize.
Step 5. Giving and receiving
Give what you feel and accept what others can give you. Contribute by donating your time and effort without expecting anything unreasonable in return. When you do good deeds for others, let this be enough as a reward so you won't create resentment.
Step 6. Share the feelings
Ask for what you want and need. People can't read your mind. Make your request with a smile, be direct and don't use "clues". Communicate and share your thoughts and feelings with them. Open up, and allow others to understand you.
Step 7. Build trust
Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Keep your promises. Only when someone trusts you can you have a healthy relationship.
Advice
- Look a person in the face when either of you is talking. Be careful.
- Good relationships take commitment but are worth it.
- Relationships come and go but self-respect lasts forever.
- Remember that no one is perfect.
- Keep in mind the results you want.
- Read your partner's bodily actions and check how he feels - you both need to listen and show respect.
- Compromise on everything but your integrity.
- Always apologize if you are wrong, if you are right do not give up.
