It is never fun to have problems with your parents. Their rules and demands may seem unreasonable, unfair, and are sometimes hard to follow to stay out of trouble. However, taking responsibility for your actions, talking to your parents truthfully, and making positive changes to stay out of trouble will make your life easier.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Talk to Your Parents
Step 1. Ask to find a time to talk
Schedule a conversation with one or both of your parents. Set a time when they are not busy making dinner or heading for the door to go to work. Take the time to talk seriously and openly with your parents about what's troubling you.
Turn off the television and cell phone so that you can devote full attention to the conversation
Step 2. Plan what you will say
Knowing what you mean will help you understand the most important things to focus on. Having a schedule can also help you talk about the difficult things that might make you nervous.
Also, having a plan will help you understand the end result you are trying to achieve. Do you want to be kept at home in punishment for less time? Do you want to have a cellphone? Do you want to attend a concert with friends? Find out what you want, but be realistic. If you're already in trouble, don't expect your parents to suddenly change their minds after a quiet conversation with you
Step 3. Take responsibility for your actions
Apologize for whatever got you into trouble. Your parents will appreciate your admitting your wrongdoing. Apologizing can be very helpful.
Even if you don't think you've done something wrong, try to understand the problem from your parents' perspective. How do they view your actions?
Step 4. Tell the truth
Telling the truth is a good general rule that applies throughout life. Your parents know you well and are pretty good at uncovering lies. If you start lying, you can be caught out when the lies don't match. Even if the truth is hard to tell, your parents will appreciate your sincerity and maturity.
Step 5. Don't get mad quickly
Keeping anger under control will help support your cause, as it will show that you are able to argue calmly and maturely without automatically becoming defensive or saying something rude.
Step 6. Plan to come to a compromise
You may not completely resolve your problems after a conversation with your parents, but you can improve conditions for yourself. By offering them something, your parents will likely give you something in return too.
This conversation could also lay the groundwork for staying out of trouble in the future
Step 7. Be respectful and optimistic
Talk to your parents in a respectful tone, without sarcasm or anger. Listen to what they have to say, even if you don't agree. You would like to receive the same courtesy in return, so listen respectfully as they speak.
You need to understand that your parents are people like you and they may be stressed too. Keep a positive attitude and realize that this phase won't last forever
Step 8. Ask your siblings to talk to your parents
When it comes to talking to parents, your siblings, especially older ones, could be good ambassadors. They understand your parents and they know your opinion. They may be able to get them to be less hard on you or to see things from your point of view.
- You will probably have to do something very nice for your siblings if they are going to talk to your parents for you. You can give them a gift or offer to take care of some chores that would be their turn.
- Alternatively, ask an adult you trust to speak to your parents. If you don't have a good relationship with them, it may be helpful to start a dialogue first with another adult you trust. This person could be an aunt or an uncle, a grandfather or grandmother, a teacher or a private teacher.
Method 2 of 4: Get along with your siblings
Step 1. Ignore your siblings' behavior
Your brother or sister may be poking you and doing annoying things. If you get into conflict with them, you could get into trouble with your parents. Chances are your siblings are trying to get your attention or they are bored. If you ignore their behavior, they will likely stop and devote themselves to something else. This way you will avoid arguing and getting into trouble with your parents.
Step 2. Behave like a mature person
Sometimes you may be treated unfairly by your parents and your siblings may receive better treatment. They may get to stay up late, longer than you are allowed, or to see a movie that you are not allowed. Instead of getting angry and conflicting with them, show your maturity by accepting that you can't always get what you want and that you can handle the situation. This way you will avoid arguing with your parents.
Step 3. Talk to your parents about your siblings' behavior
If your sibling is really testing you or interfering too much in your business, talk quietly with your parents. Explain to them that you are trying to be patient with your sibling, but you also need your own space and privacy. Your parents will appreciate your maturity.
Step 4. Spend some time with your brothers every now and then
Often your sibling may pester you to get your attention. Find a time when you can do something together, like go for a walk or see a movie together.
Method 3 of 4: Maintain a Good Relationship With Your Parents
Step 1. Build trust with your parents
If you keep getting in trouble because your phone bill is too high or you get bad grades, work hard to change your behavior and show that you can be trusted. Make a commitment to keep an eye on telephone traffic, for example, and monitor it throughout the month. Modestly point out that your behavior has changed. Show them your phone bill when it is well below the set limit.
Step 2. Choose your battles
Sometimes it's not worth wasting your energy fighting over the little things. When you and your parents constantly argue about something, from what to eat to when you need to be home, you are subjected to a kind of "combat stress". Choose the most important things to resist and let go of the lesser issues.
Step 3. Let your parents know about the things you like
If they don't understand what you enjoy doing, introduce them to your hobbies. For example, take them to the new skateboarding area or have them listen to your new music. Tell him what you really like about what you are passionate about. Making them part of your life will help them understand you better.
Step 4. Spend time together
You may want to spend more time with friends, but spending some free time with your parents is a good way to bond. Schedule a few moments each week to have short conversations with them when you get to meet and tell them about your day.
Schedule a special moment at least once a month to dedicate yourself to an activity, such as going on a trip, dedicating yourself to a pastime or a project
Step 5. Be considerate
As with anyone in a relationship that you think is important, be considerate and treat your parents with kindness. Do them special favors or leave a cute note for them.
Method 4 of 4: Stay Out of Trouble
Step 1. Follow the rules
Your parents may have rules that will seem foolish to you at times. Most of the time these rules are meant to keep you safe and teach you positive values. Respect the rules and follow them.
Step 2. Offer to take care of the housework
Helping with housework is a great way to win your parents' favor. Cleaning is an extra stress for anyone and, normally, keeping the house tidy is on the shoulders of parents. As you grow up, take on more responsibility at home by offering to walk the dog, fold the laundry, clean the windows or vacuum the inside of the car.
Step 3. Try to work hard at school
If you got yourself in trouble because you got bad grades, try changing your academic performance. Schedule homework at the same time each day. Create a study group a couple of days before an audit. Hopefully, you will improve your grades or at least your parents will be able to see your efforts.
Talk to a private teacher who can help you learn the teaching material. Private tutors usually offer their service for a fee, but you may also be able to find someone to give you private lessons for free. Discuss this possibility with your school counselor
Step 4. Keep your parents informed
When you predict that you might get in trouble about something, set a time to talk to them again. For example, warn them that you will get a bad grade in a certain subject. However, in this case, the key element is to also tell him what you are doing to try to stay out of trouble. For example, you can tell them that you intend to ask the teacher for extra help.
