When dealing with another person, you may notice that they are "slow to understand" or, for whatever reason, just can't understand what you are trying to say. If you decide she is less intelligent, here are some tips for arguing with people you think are "dumb".
Steps
Step 1. Change your attitude if necessary
Some are contemptuous of others they deem less intelligent. As with beauty, intelligence is not a goal. Just be thankful that those brighter than you are smart enough to understand that you are not stupid.
Step 2. Give the right importance to things
Intelligence, or the appearance of intelligence, is not the best way to judge a person. What matters most is how the mind is used. Many highly successful people don't seem that smart, or at least their culture only seems to come from books. Look at the case of H. Ross Perot, one of the most successful people in history. You would be making a serious mistake if you belittled someone who looks like an ignorant mountaineer and behaves like one. Mr. Perot may not meet the requirements to be a member of Mensa, the Genius Association, but it can be said almost with certainty that he would most likely not even be interested in that. On the other hand, what must he prove?
Step 3. Make sure you are not the problem
It is a mistake to assume that someone is less intelligent just because he or she does not seem to understand your request or order. The problem may lie in the way you communicate.
Step 4. Try to explain things in different ways
Some are interested in the basics, the big picture, before going into the details. Others, on the other hand, may not be interested in the overall picture but, on the contrary, may better understand a detailed explanation of all the steps and procedures, the different scenarios, and so on.
Step 5. It often happens to have to deal with "fools" in the workplace, in the training of new hires
You've explained that thing several times. Why doesn't it get there? Is this person stupid? The person you are training could also end up in front of you in the hierarchy of society, maybe even become your boss, so it can be beneficial to be nice and pay attention to everyone, even someone who may seem a little "dumb".
Step 6. If you need to prepare people in the workplace, try to read a book on the subject
Advice
- If you are realizing that you are not dealing with people who are smarter than you (and for whom you can have admiration), then perhaps you are in the wrong field of work and you probably need to find people you can connect with. This will be very helpful in reducing your stress level, which inevitably increases when you have to argue with people who are less intelligent than you.
- Likewise, don't assume that a person in a lower position is stupid. Many employees are college students who simply have to work to make ends meet.
- The IQ level changes every 15 points. It is usually easier to relate to people of your own level or level of difference. However, this is noticeably different from treating people with respect, because decent people deserve respect, regardless of IQ. A person with a high IQ (130-145) can relate to a standard college student (115-130) and a person with a very high IQ (145-160) and vice versa. However, keep in mind that it may take patience to communicate with someone who is more than one level away (both higher and lower - remember, a person more than two levels above you might read this article with you in mind., so, once again, keep the golden rule in mind).
- Do not confuse knowledge and intelligence. Don't take it personally if a person doesn't know something you think they should know. For example, if you go to a DVD store and find that the clerk has never heard of Martin Scorsese, it doesn't mean he's an idiot. The salesman is simply a person who needs a job.
- Don't neglect people who seem a little silly. As you get to know someone, you may find that a seemingly "not so smart" person could be a well of knowledge in some areas. Apparently disabled people, those with speech problems for example, may seem stupid but they are likely to be more skilled than you in some cases. As Stacie Orrico once sang in her song "Instead", "I wonder what I would do, if it happened to me".
- Don't really tell them that you think they're not smart, or you risk offending them.
- People who don't use computers a lot might seem a little silly. But guess what - your company's president may not know how to turn on a computer. There are people who do it for him / her.
