Some guys have a reputation as a playboy, don't want to be in a stable relationship, and just want to switch between women. While you can't change people, you can keep someone from walking away from you. If you want a Don Juan to fall at your feet, you must be respected and refuse to play his game. Try to make yourself appreciated by showing strong self-esteem and use positive reinforcement to show him how much you are worth.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Get your attention
Step 1. Be on your guard
If you have a crush on a hardened seducer, he has most likely already used words to make you feel unique and special. It's typical playboy behavior, and you're definitely not the only girl he's trying to win over.
The playboy tries to impress with his external appearance, his ego and his financial resources. Take some time to learn more about it
Step 2. Offer him something to drink
Whether you are in a bar or other venue, try to send a drink to his table. Let him know that you offered it to him. Your goal is to try an approach.
- When he comes to thank you, use the opportunity to talk to him.
- Don't let the conversation revolve around sex. Try talking about the friends they hang out with or what they like to do. Listen to what he says and watch out if your dialogue takes a wrong turn.
Step 3. Be direct
Instead of asking him questions, formulate sentences. Talk to him about what you are going to do. Don't ask him if he wants to join you, but tell him what you could do together.
If you know he's free one night, suggest he go out. Try saying, "We could have a bite together or maybe have a drink." Be casual and keep the atmosphere light and relaxed
Step 4. Get him to accept a second invitation
Buy two tickets to a concert or a movie and talk about it when you are together. Tell him, "I should have gone to see this band with a friend on Saturday, but she can't come anymore. Are you interested?"
Be careful inviting a playboy to crowded places, especially bars. Just because he came with you doesn't mean he won't interact with other women
Step 5. Have him propose to go out
If you don't feel like inviting him out, just give him a few hints to let him know you'd like to spend more time with him. Mention a movie you'd like to see or a place you'd like to go to.
Don't be too blunt. Let him think it's his idea
Part 2 of 3: Getting chased
Step 1. Don't let it become a priority
When a playboy calls you to see you, don't put aside everything you planned to do just to be around him. If you already have some programs, don't delete them.
Let him know that you have a life and that you need to go out with your friends. If you cancel programs with other people to see it, they will think they have you and may quickly lose all of their interest in you
Step 2. Make him wait
A playboy would like to get his prey to bed as soon as possible. For him, interacting with a woman only means one thing. Don't give him what he wants if you don't want him to walk away. Make sure he deserves it.
- If while you kiss he makes you understand that he wants something more, don't let him. Tell him, "I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, but I enjoyed it. Call me some other time." Then smile or wink at him and walk away. Make it want you.
- Do not have sex if you are unsure about taking this step with him. Keep in mind that he may see you as another sexual conquest even if you keep him waiting. Playboys stop seducing other women only if they feel ready.
Step 3. Set your limits
If you want a Don Juan to know your worth, you have to believe in yourself. Respect yourself and show them that it is worth being patient.
Don't be satisfied with seeing him at the end of the evening, when he is available. The next time he calls you late at night, tell him he'd be luckier if he phoned you in the daytime. When he calls you back, keep your word
Step 4. Step aside for a while
If you've been out for a few nights in a row, take a break. It will probably not be an easy feat and you will think that the best thing to do is to spend more time together. This is rarely the case. Therefore, you need to make him miss you when you are not together.
- Don't obsessively think about him to the point of neglecting all other aspects of your life.
- You don't have to start ignoring him, but make him look forward to the moment he sees you again.
Step 5. Let him do what he wants
It may sound a bit risky given its playboy reputation, but it's necessary. Sometimes, you will feel the need to verify that there is no other woman. Don't give in to this temptation.
If you start calling him repeatedly or try to spend every minute with him, you will just push him away. He'll start to think of you as "clingy" or "tied to him". If you want him to chase you, you need to give him the space to do so
Part 3 of 3: Pushing him to Build a Serious Relationship
Step 1. Don't rush him
Some men, especially those with a Casanova reputation, don't want to feel compelled to build a bond. So, avoid pushing the guy you like to commit to a relationship.
By forcing him into an exclusive relationship, you will put yourself in a vulnerable position because you will give him the power to guide your relationship. If you want him to engage with you, a balance of forces must be established
Step 2. Ask him to introduce his friends to you
If you haven't met them yet, now is the right time. Throw a party and ask them to invite them. If they come, be nice to them. If they don't show up, chances are he has no intention of building a serious relationship with you.
- Get to know his friends. Don't be prejudiced and show interest in them.
- If you don't like them, but he insists on staying with them all the time, suggest that you would like more attention from him. Don't force him to make a choice, but clearly state your needs.
Step 3. Remind them how much you are worth
If you want him to build a serious bond, he must especially want it. In other words, he should enjoy spending his time with you and looking for you as much as possible. So, you have to make him feel this desire.
This doesn't mean you have to put all your time and energy into trying to please him. However, you should do your best to make him realize the great opportunity he is having to be with you
Step 4. Don't talk about your relationship
In fact, it can be counterproductive to discuss your relationship situation. Instead of constantly wondering if he will bond with you, focus on the good times you have together.
Keep acting like you always did before you start dating. Don't think that once you get an appointment, you have achieved your goal. Try to have fun. The more positive memories you leave him, the more likely he is to want to stay with you
Step 5. Have fun
Instead of thinking about strategies for winning a playboy, focus on living the good times with him. Share unforgettable experiences. Go to concerts, play and laugh. Don't take everything seriously. Show him the advantages of a couple and he may want to start a stable relationship.
