Is your relationship a bit flat and boring? Your partner before you had the classic "bad boy / girl" and you don't want to be outdone? You will be able to bring some life back into your relationship, keeping the situation spicy, learning to be risque. Surprise your partner, and yourself! Start with step number 1 and find out how.
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Method 1 of 4: Part 1: Be comfortable with yourself
Step 1. Stop apologizing
The most important thing, if you want to be convincingly risque with your partner, is to be confident and comfortable with yourself. The first step is to stop apologizing to everyone. Stop apologizing for not being sexy enough, for being a little overweight, or for wanting to have sex. You have desires, needs, feelings, and they are all valid.
Step 2. Stop trying to look like a movie star
You don't have to look like a movie star, or a porn actor, for your partner to appreciate you or think you are sexy. He chose you. He stays with you. Think you are sexy. Also, being sexy is mostly about the way you behave, not the appearance.
Step 3. Emphasize your positives
Find the best things about yourself (your character, the thing you do best) and value it. It can also be a part of your body, such as your lower back, that's okay! You need to know where to start from, and give yourself something that reminds you that you are doing great.
Step 4. Embrace your sensual side
You are a sexual creature. It's normal, and it's actually a great thing. If you spend too much time being embarrassed during sex instead of enjoying it, then you won't be very good at it. Be comfortable with your sensual side. This is very important.
Step 5. Find what pleases you
Are you comfortable now? Well, now do some experiments, alone or with your partner, and explore your body. Find out what really pleases you. Find what turns you on. You may think that being risque is about pleasing your partner, but it also means knowing how to tell your partner (in a very risque way), exactly how to please yourself.
Method 2 of 4: Part 2: Create a Risky Look
Step 1. Make up your wardrobe
Throw away your grandma's panties and that old shirt, and get yourself a sexier wardrobe. Underwear, dresses, or even a dress for a sexy night out. You have to have the right look if you want to be convincing for your partner.
Step 2. Change your hairstyle, or makeup
Choose a sexier one. Every hairdresser should be able to help you; As for the makeup, Youtube is full of useful guides.
Step 3. Make your intimate areas sexier too
You can completely remove the hair, or create special shapes, such as a heart. It will be a surprise for your partner, and it will show that you are thinking about sex.
Step 4. Try playing a part
Use clothing and the environment to show your partner what you have in mind. You can try cooking without clothes, and be found like that by your partner when he gets home, or try the classic: rose petals and candles in the bedroom. There are tons of ways to communicate what you want, be creative.
Step 5. Do some movement
No, not to lose weight or to be more "traditionally" sexy. Tradition is boring. You should exercise because studies have shown that physical exertion increases the pleasure and desire to have sex. Go for a jog before your partner gets home.
Method 3 of 4: Part 3: Try to act like a bad guy
Step 1. Take control
Act like you're the boss in the bedroom. Tell your partner what to do. It's a very sexy thing, even if it looks ugly at first. Actually this is the point, and it proves that you are a bad guy. This is healthy because it will help you develop a more satisfying sex life.
Step 2. Learn to tease your partner
Slows. Don't get right to the point. Explore erogenous zones such as the ears, the back of the knees, and the inside of the thighs. Try not to even touch your partner. Bring him / her to the point where he begs you to. Then tease him for a few more seconds before satisfying his requests.
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You can tease your partner in other situations, not just in the bedroom. For example, if you are a girl, you can go to a bathroom, take off your panties and put them in your partner's pocket.
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Step 3. Do some "dirty talking"
Use your sexy voice and think about the most suitable adjectives and verbs. Telling your partner what you want them to do, or even just that you are aroused, can also be very arousing.
Step 4. Don't stop at the bedroom
Sex can also be done in other places. You can surprise your partner in the shower, make a movie on the sofa turn into something else, or even rehearse in public places, like an amusement park or theater.
Step 5. Try role-playing games
This is one of the classic ways to spice up a relationship. Girls can try to be a bad student, or a secretary, while boys can be a cop or a doctor.
Step 6. Set yourself a specific goal
You could try to break your record by how many times you've done it in a day, or how many places you've done it. Keep track of these things (you can even write it down, and give rewards), and talk about it with your partner.
Step 7. Use toys
Adult toys are a great way to do some risqué things in your relationship. And they're not just for girls. There are a lot of toys that increase the pleasure of the boys. Surprise your partner with some little gifts! And it wasn't even the birthday …
Step 8. Keep things new and interesting
The main goal should be to always have something new, and not get stuck. Make your sex life a priority, and keep things interesting, and you don't have to worry about being "risque".
Method 4 of 4: Part 4: Recognize the Barriers
Step 1. Ask first
There is no need to constantly ask how your partner is right now, but a good idea is to ask questions about their fantasies before trying new things. If you ask in a sexy voice you will get bonus points!
Step 2. Pay attention to your partner's reaction
As you try new things, see what your partner does. Don't just listen to what he says next, see his immediate reaction. If he seems to be stiffening, or intimidating, maybe he isn't liking it as he says.
Step 3. Go slowly
Don't go from being a schoolgirl to being the Marquis de Sade in the course of a day. This could scare your partner, especially if it's not a requested fantasy. If you go slow, you can also maximize pleasure for both of you.
Step 4. Keep normal life and sex life separate
If your partner likes to be called a certain way in bed, that doesn't mean they like you in front of other people as well. Also, don't let the behaviors you engage in in bed influence your behavior elsewhere. Remember that normal and sexual life are two separate things.
Step 5. Don't do things you may regret, especially if you are young
We know how the Internet works: images circulate very fast, and your life can be ruined in an instant. Don't have photos taken without clothes on (even if your relationship is very stable); Even videos, while they can be fun, are best left to married couples who have been together for a long time.
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Even if you trust us completely, remember that there are other ways your data can be disclosed. For example, hackers.
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