When it comes to love, it seems that men and women speak two different languages. If you think your girlfriend has not understood how much you love her, you will have to try a little harder to communicate your feelings to her. It all lies in being able to be loving and affectionate, but at the same time respecting his individuality. If you want to find out how to love a girl, start reading from Step 1.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Doing the Right Thing
Step 1. Be loving
Most girls love to receive affection and compliments from their boyfriends. If the girl is insecure about your love, she will receive security. To show affection, a caress is enough, wrap it with your arm, take his hand, look for physical contact. Obviously you don't have to suffocate her, so find the right moment to let her know that you are close to her, a small gesture will be more effective than hugging her for hours.
- Give her a peck on the cheek, or squeeze her hand tightly.
- If not walking hand in hand just isn't your thing, you can rest your hand on his shoulder when you walk.
Step 2. Put it down
If you want to love a girl, try to support her in all ways. Supporting her means going to her game or giving her courage before a job interview if she thinks she can't do it. You have to be close to her to lift her, not knock her down, so tell her that she is wonderful to you and capable of anything. That doesn't mean you have to follow her like a little dog and become her personal cheerleader, she'll have to support what you do too. Just try to support her and help her be successful in everything she does.
Sometimes it could also mean just being helpful when she is sad, angry or confused. Stay close to her in both good times and bad times
Step 3. Behave like a gentleman
You don't have to change your personality and start puddling for her with your coat. But at least, if you want to make her understand how important she is to you, avoid burping and scratching when you go out together. Otherwise she'll think you're like all the other guys, so try to prove her wrong. Keep the door open for her when you enter somewhere, help her sit down when you go out to dinner, let her walk in front of you and offer her your jacket if she feels cold.
Your gallant ways will make her realize you are treating her in a special way. If you want her to feel loved, you have to put in a little effort
Step 4. Be careful
Figuring out how to be can be difficult for many kids. Basically, try to think about how to behave with her, make an effort to understand what is the right thing to do, also based on what she likes, or doesn't like. Listen carefully when she talks, try to grasp what are the things that excite her. On the morning of her dance recital, send her some holes. If she has had a difficult week, write her a love letter. If you go to a movie at the cinema, buy her her favorite snack. Take your time to understand what makes her happy, and do everything to be able to offer it to her.
- If you find that she is down, try to lift her mood by saying “I can understand how you feel now…” You don't have to pretend that you know exactly how she is feeling, just let her know that you have been thinking about what she is going through.
- Be careful. If she mentions a book she would like to read, or a new record she hasn't heard yet, give her a small gift. He might say "I can't believe you remembered!" Then it is love.
Step 5. Be understanding
If you really want to love a girl, try to understand that she, like everyone else, is a human being and can have her strengths and weaknesses, she can make mistakes, she can have needs, desires. Don't expect it to be perfect and don't have exaggerated expectations. If she makes a mistake, don't spend the whole week poking her, don't get mad. If he throws at you once, don't think about it for days. But of course, if she treats you badly often then it will be time to reevaluate your feelings for her. If, on the other hand, you have had a difficult time, don't make a drama out of it.
Think about it. Ask yourself if she is struggling with a new job, or if she is in pain because her grandmother recently passed away. Try to see things from their point of view before you get angry and start arguing
Step 6. Know when he wants his space
Loving someone also means recognizing when to step aside. She may have had a difficult week at work and just needs to be alone for a while, respect her decision. If she wants to go out with her friends, tell her to have fun, and avoid texting her every second because you're afraid she's flirting with some guy. If you are not overwhelming she will love you more, and will appreciate that you respect her individuality.
Don't get confused. Try to recognize if she really doesn't need your help, or if she says no for not being a burden. Analyze the situation from time to time
Step 7. Be romantic
To love a girl you will need to be able to show off a little romance. Think of a romantic gesture that can make her realize how much you care about her. Don't do anything that doesn't come naturally, don't try to force yourself, but find ways to make her feel special. You could send her some flowers, or buy her a box of chocolates, or do something original to celebrate your love. There are so many ways to be romantic, for example:
- Write her a message of love on a note, without having to wait for a particular anniversary
- Make her a delicious lunch
- Find the right time to tell her you love her.
- Write or recite a poem to her.
- Take her to dance.
- Walks in the moonlight.
- You decide to have a picnic without planning it first.
- Take her to a jazz concert.
Part 2 of 3: Say the right thing
Step 1. Be open with her
If you usually keep it all inside then try to confide in more often. If the fear of being made fun of or rejected stops you, get over it! Being more open will allow you to get intimate with your girlfriend, and closeness strengthens love. You don't have to tell her anything about yourself, but gradually try to share with her even the things you don't tell anyone else. You will show her how much you love her, and how special she is in your life.
- Being open requires being honest. But you don't have to tell her that you saw a very pretty girl while you were walking. Be honest but avoid hurting her.
- If she confides in you and you don't do the same, she may think that you don't care enough about your relationship. Some guys are less open than others, but if you want to make her understand how important she is to you, you must try to make her participate in your life, without having to change yourself.
Step 2. Ask her questions about her
Get to know her well. Let them see you interested in learning more about their personality, what they think, what they do. You don't have to do an interrogation, just let her know that you are interested. When you meet ask her how her day was, ask her what she will do tomorrow. When you get to know each other better, ask her what her plans for the future are. Here are some things you might want to delve into:
- His passions
- His friendships
- His family
- His worries and fears
- Its goals
- His everyday life
Step 3. Give her good compliments
If you want to love a girl you have to make her understand how much you want her. You don't have to compliment her every five minutes, or she'll know you're not being honest, just like saying meaningful phrases and original compliments from time to time. They will be more effective. Try to find the right words to appreciate some characteristic aspects of her personality, or her appearance, of the traits that make her special. Some examples:
- "You can keep yourself positive even in the worst moments, I admire you, I would like to be able to do the same"
- “All your friends love you. You are a point of reference"
- “I love the color of your eyes. I've never seen such beautiful shades of hazelnut"
Step 4. Ask for his opinion
If you want to love her you have to put her on the same level as you. Don't consider her just an award or a trophy, let her know that her opinion is important to you. Get to know his opinion on every type of event, from current events to the decisions you plan to make. Take the time to ask her questions that make her think, find out her point of view. Girls want someone next to them who respects their intelligence. Here are some things you might ask her:
- A tip on what to do in a given situation
- What do you think of some contemporary events
- Your opinion on movies, records or books
- His opinion on something you are not sure about
Step 5. Always stay in touch with her
Think about how to communicate with your girlfriend when you are not together. Don't phone her or text her every minute, but find the world of letting her know that you think about her. If she's out on the weekend, for a wedding or a tournament, ask her how things are going. Let her know that you don't stop thinking about it every time you are away.
But avoid oppressing it. If you know she will be very busy, rather than getting in her way, you should give her the space she needs
Step 6. Learn to recognize when she doesn't want to talk
Sometimes, if he says he doesn't want to talk about something, he says it because he really thinks it. If something unpleasant has happened to her, she will need your time to work it out. Do not disturb her and do not insist too much if you understand that she is not in the mood to talk about it. She may get even more nervous, and at that point the chances of her wanting to share it with you are suddenly reduced. You might think that the best way to show your love is to push her to tell you what happened, but in many cases, the right decision to make is to step aside, at least for a while.
Step 7. Apologize if you made a mistake
If you love her, you don't have to be afraid to tell her you made a mistake. If you've done something wrong, it's important to apologize, and be convinced. Do not try to deny the evidence and think that things will return to normal by themselves. If you want your girlfriend to understand how much you love and respect her then you need to let her know that you really care, so apologize when you make a mistake and try not to repeat it again.
- Make eye contact when you apologize. Let her know how much you care about her.
- Don't say things like "I'm sorry you got angry when I …" Make it clear that you made the mistake.
Step 8. Communicate like an expert
If you want to love a girl, you need to know the right way to talk to her. You will need to be able to tell her your version of events while leaving her all the space to give her opinion. It means reaching a compromise, but with the aim of satisfying the needs of both. When she talks, listen to her without interrupting her, but also carry on your discussions. Practice having a lot more dialogue with her than arguing, share what you feel and don't keep it all inside.
If you want your relationship to last, remember that it is more important to be happy than to be right. Instead of trying to have the last word, think about how to make the conversation constructive and satisfying for both of you
Part 3 of 3: Keeping love alive
Step 1. Try to share interests with her
To strengthen a relationship, and make it last, it is important to have something in common with your partner. So try to find activities that you can do together For example a long morning walk, or reading while sipping a coffee, following the events organized by a museum, attending exhibitions, going to your favorite musician's concert, or whatever else you have in common. and make you happy. It does not mean that to consolidate your love story you will necessarily have to have the same interests as your girlfriend, it is not necessary to share everything but at least to know that something unites you.
- As the relationship progresses, many couples feel they no longer have anything in common. That's why it's always important to find new interests to share and new activities to do together.
- If you both get sick on the day you planned to do something, don't get down on it. Think of something else.
Step 2. Spice up your relationship
While it's important to find a stable daily balance, and take care of the things you enjoy doing, sometimes it's important to change your pace and try new things. If you've been playing pool for years now is the time to move on to darts. If you always go on vacation to the same place then why not try something else? Try to experience new things with her if you want your story to last forever.
Be spontaneous. While it's not wrong to plan ahead, sometimes take her by surprise. Plan a last minute trip or buy tickets for a concert at the last minute
Step 3. Maintain some independence
If you truly love a girl, love her and respect her as an individual. The same goes for you, keep your individuality. Make sure to respect you as distinct personalities, she will appreciate him and because of that she will love you even more. By continuing to follow your own interests, spending time with friends, and doing something that does not preclude the presence of your partner, you are actually offering your woman a proof of love and trust in your relationship. You will let her know that you have no doubts about your relationship and that you don't have to spend every second together.
Make sure she maintains her independence too. If you both get to go out and carry on their own stuff, when you see each other you will have more conversation topics. If you are together 24/7, after a while you won't know what to talk about
Step 4. Keep telling her you love her
It doesn't matter if you've been together for eight or eighty years. You will have to continue to make her feel loved, you can think of the right words to tell her, or write something in a note. Don't think there is no need to say "I love you" because she already knows. Don't take anything for granted. Tell her you love her in the morning, in the evening, or anytime you feel she's the right one. Don't let a day go by without telling him.
There is a difference between saying "I love you" and "I love you". Make an effort to tell him properly
Step 5. Keep the romance alive
If you want to love a girl then you will need to make sure to rekindle the romance and passion between you. Even if you already live together, even if you are married, nothing stops you from continuing to be romantic. Remember that courtship must never end, so think about how to create a romantic atmosphere to make her feel loved and special. Find a time to focus your attention on her.
- Make appointments. If you have thought about spending time with her, make sure that nothing interferes with what you have planned.
- Dress well and go out for a romantic dinner every now and then. No matter how busy you are, find an opportunity to do it, it will strengthen your love.
- Never stop flirting with your girlfriend. Both of you will have to do whatever it takes to keep your love alive.
