We all know that ending a relationship is difficult. If you are not the protagonist of one of the rare love stories that start as kids and end with a "and they lived happily ever after", separations are inevitable. Although deciding how to end a relationship is an individual choice, if you want to avoid accumulating negative karma, we recommend that you adopt these techniques.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Choose the Right Time and Place
Step 1. Choose the right time
Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at any cost. Do you really want your ex to remember your lack of sensitivity every time that date comes back?
Statistics show that most of the students split up during the summer holidays. For everyone else, Monday seems to be the favorite day
Step 2. Choose an appropriate place
Choose an intimate place. Don't do this in a place where the person receiving the news may feel particularly vulnerable. Avoid these places at all costs:
- The office.
- A wedding.
- In the car.
- At school.
- In a restaurant or a nightclub.
Method 2 of 4: Do it the Right Way
Step 1. Do it in person
If the relationship is recent, maybe you can get away with using the phone. Perhaps. If you've dated at least a dozen times, don't you think you're being rude? Do the right thing and end the relationship in person.
- Having a final discussion is a good way to make the relationship feel closed.
- It can be painful, but such a conversation could allow you to find out about yourself and improve your future relationships.
Method 3 of 4: Don't Be Bad
Step 1. Be honest but sensitive
Nobody wants to be left. But everyone loves to hear the truth when it's over. Unless the truth is, you don't find her more attractive, you've met a better girl, or you're bored.
There is no need to be negative. Try to finish things with the utmost decorum. Even if there have been some disagreements, use touch and sensitivity. You will be grateful you did
Method 4 of 4: Be Civil
Step 1. Control the emotions
Don't look happy with the breakup - you will look like a bad person. Be kind, thoughtful, and use touch.
Step 2. Don't react
Some people don't respond well to rejection. Some people will scream, scream or cry. It doesn't mean you have to react to their crisis. Remember, being rejected is tough. You already have a responsibility to be the one who ended the relationship. If their crisis escalates, walk away! Don't wait to get in trouble. Try to ignore the screams, and stay civil in any situation. Be honest and sensitive, listen to the other person's emotions and try to sympathize with them.
Advice
- If you suspect your partner is cheating on you, ask first. It is a very serious mistake to end a relationship for false information (but it is not a mistake to rely on intuition).
- Finally, ask yourself this question. Would you be happier if you weren't together anymore?
- Do not reveal your intentions to anyone before separating. The news could reach your partner.
- Evaluate what things will be like in two weeks, or in a month. It may seem difficult to break up now, but if doing so will make you happier in the future, it's your best bet. The reverse is also true; parting in a moment of anger is not a wise choice if you regret it in a few weeks or after a month.
- If you decide to break up in an intimate place, you can risk sparking an emotional discussion that will lead to sex and another month of trying to "make the relationship work." If it's really over, meet in a quiet public place for a coffee. Tell her right away that the reason for your meeting is that you want to end the relationship and explain the reasons - be honest. Leave the money on the table to pay the bill. Control your emotions and don't cry, at least not before you walk away. Avoid any contact for the next two weeks.
- Think that if you want to end the relationship, it is possible that your partner wants to do it too. Ask her if she sees a future together. If there is something that hurts you in your relationship, talk to her about it.
- The expression "ending a relationship" implies a definitive separation. Often, however, a breakup only represents a change in the nature of the relationship, which will allow the friendship to continue. Try to see a breakup more positively, as a transformation and not as an end.
- If you behave well during the breakup, you will likely avoid your ex-partner's dislikes. While it may not interest you at the moment, it is important not to attract negative karma!
- In some cases, a breakup on the phone can help the person who is being broken up, because the conversation will be easier to deal with than one in person, and will allow them to fall into tears soon after throwing down the phone. If you decide to break up on the phone, do it because you are trying to hurt the other person as little as possible, not because you are a coward.
Warnings
- Never say to someone who is no longer trustworthy who wants to end the relationship with your partner. If you want to break up in style, it is vital that your partner finds out for you.
- The best question to figure out if a breakup is the right move is this: Is it really what your heart tells you? Remember that such a decision is rarely reversible.
- Avoid clichés. If the person has already heard the reasons you are about to say, you will seem numb and a liar.
- NEVER LIE about the reasons for a breakup! - Those who are left are already suffering a hard blow, the least you can offer them is your sincerity.
