How to Stop Disappointing Parents: 14 Steps

2024 Author: Samantha Chapman | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 09:13

Even though you love your parents, you can often have the impression of disappointing them. By understanding their expectations of you and adjusting your behavior to them, you can improve your relationship with yours and help them reduce unnecessary conflict and stress!

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Doing Well in School

Step 1. Prioritize the tasks

Get into the habit of doing your homework as soon as you get home. Not only will you get the respect of your parents, but you will also have free evenings to dedicate yourself to other things.

• Ask for help with your homework if you need it; your parents will appreciate the initiative.
• Understand the homework rules. It is important to ask your parents about their homework rules.

• Find out about the time, the place, if friends can come and so on. Here are some basic questions:

  • Timetable: when should homework be started and when is it too late to do it? Are breaks allowed?
  • Place: where do you do your homework? Can the radio or TV remain on while I do my homework?
  • People: Can friends come home to do their homework?

  

  Step 2. Don't get distracted by technology

  Nowadays, many problems arise from the use of technology. Sometimes it is used too much, other times inadequately (which also includes using it at the wrong times, such as at school); technology can cause many problems and disappointments.

  • Turn off your cell phone when you are at school. While this is already a rule in most schools, make sure your phone is turned off during class.
  • There are significant problems for parents and children when it comes to using social media. While useful, it has been shown that they also carry enormous risks.
  • Doing well in school also means learning to get along with peers. Social media should not be used improperly by offending schoolmates.

  

  Step 3. Go to school

  Being present in class is obviously the first step to doing well in school.

  • Many schools have strict absence rules, so make sure you stick to them.
  • It is important to attend school regularly, arriving on time and without leaving before the time.

  Part 2 of 4: Follow the House Rules

  

  Step 1. Respect the schedules

  You need to know your parents' rules on when to go home, regardless of whether you agree or not. Discuss the consequences of breaking these rules.

  • It is important to understand both the rules and the consequences of infringements.
  • If you don't agree on the times to go home, ask your parents to consider two different ones, one for the days you go to school and one for the weekends.
  • Remember that your parents want you to be safe. If you need further clarification as to why they set certain times, politely ask them to explain it to you.
  • Be on time, even better early. Notify your parents if you are unable to go home for the scheduled time due to an unforeseen event or circumstances that do not depend on you.
  • Provide them with an estimated time to return if you are late and do not wait until the last minute of the scheduled time before notifying them.
  • Be honest. Don't make excuses as to why you didn't get home on time if you're just looking to spend more time with friends. Your parents will find out!

  

  Step 2. Do the housework

  Even if it's not your favorite way to spend your free time, your parents will most likely expect you to do the housework. You should know what is expected of you, such as tidying up your room or taking care of pets.

  • The question of who is in charge of a boy's room has long divided parents and children. Solve the question by understanding the opinion of your parents about your room. How often should it be cleaned? Is a little mess allowed?
  • Be aware of the timing for carrying out your chores. For example, if you are asked to take care of pets, find out how often you need to feed them and when to take them for a walk.
  • In case you are too busy with teaching and extra-teaching activities, you should find out if there are alternatives when it comes to doing housework. If so, you'll need to know who could do it for you and how early you should ask for their help.
  • Do the chores without being asked. Start doing housework of your own free will; for example, you could tidy up your room before your mother asks you or fill the dog food bowl without your father telling you.
  • You may find it helpful to incorporate household chores into your afternoon routine. You can start by doing your homework and, when you're done, you can devote yourself to chores for about half an hour. In this way you will still have a lot of free time in the evening and, in addition, you will make your parents happy!

  

  Step 3. Respect the house rules

  As a teenager it is important that you respect the basic rules of your parents; after all, it is their home. Also invite your friends to do the same.

  Don't feel uncomfortable asking your friends to abide by your house rules when they come to visit, whether it's taking off your shoes when you're at home or saying you have dinner at 7pm sharp every night. Your parents will appreciate that you take a responsible role

  

  Step 4. Establish ground rules for sweethearts and girlfriends

  Even if you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend yet, at some point you will. It is important to understand your parents' rules to avoid letting them down.

  • You should discuss when and where it is permissible to welcome a boyfriend or girlfriend at home.
  • Discuss which dates are suitable for your age.

  

  Step 5. Do not use drugs and alcohol

  Although there are many reasons for refraining from the consumption of drugs or alcohol, children often do so out of fear of disappointing their parents and / or as a result of their positive influence on their lives. More importantly, they are illegal substances, so stay at peace with the law and your parents by abstaining from drugs and alcohol!

  Part 3 of 4: Spending More Time with Family

  

  Step 1. Attend family lunches

  It can be every day, once a week or once a month, but when it happens make sure you attend family lunches and dinners.

  • During dinner, family members have the opportunity to share stories, relax and recharge with the aim of developing a sense of family identity.
  • Don't skip meals to go out with friends; it doesn't matter if they wait an extra hour before seeing you.

  

  Step 2. Be there

  Statistics show that young people on average send and receive 3,700 text messages per month, the equivalent of 125 per day. It is very likely that you will receive messages while you are at home.

  Put your phone aside, turn off the music and really spend time with your family

  

  Step 3. Participate in family activities

  Spending time together gives you the best opportunities to share the experiences that matter.

  • Spending time together helps promote open dialogue and better communication. The more time you spend together, the easier you will find conversing with your parents.
  • You will also create good memories with your family, which you can talk about for years to come.

  Part 4 of 4: Finding a Motivation

  

  Step 1. Find ways to earn money

  Asking parents for money is a real hassle, at least that's what most teenagers (49%) think. Take the initiative by looking for jobs as a babysitter or by proposing to clean the neighbors' garden.

  • There are many ways to earn money as a teen.
  • Having economic independence will help you feel better about yourself.

  

  Step 2. Do what makes you happy

  A parent wants nothing more than the happiness of their child. Plus, you'll feel proud of your accomplishments.

  • Act within the limits of legality and house rules. For example, if you like to travel, don't go on a trip out of the blue without permission, but instead try organizing a weekend excursion with the family. If you are a university student you could participate in a study program abroad.
  • If you are in high school and like theater, sign up for the school's acting classes. If you enjoy drawing, discuss with your parents about adding art classes to your curriculum.

  

  Step 3. Be proud of yourself

  Even if these are exceptions, there are parents with unreasonable expectations or overbearing attitudes from an emotional point of view. Learning to be proud of yourself and what you have achieved is important for developing self-esteem regardless of your parents.

  Advice

  • Try to listen more than you talk if you've gotten into trouble in the past for talking too much.
  • Offer to help the parents once in a while. they will appreciate it as they have spent their entire life helping you grow and live life to the fullest.
  • Avoid arguing; contrary to popular belief, parents are not always right, but it is preferable to show respect and not be impertinent towards them.
  • Don't grumble when your parents ask you to do something!